Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?

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wwjd_kilden

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No? Why have higher standards for your wife than for yourself?
 
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I don't have higher standards for her. I'm expecting her to be around my level. I'm fine if a that has a little bit higher than me accepts me.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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but by watching porn, you are (morally) not a virgin, so why must she be one?
 
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Deepdistress21

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Masturbation is not taking virginity.
But whatever, you guys can disagree with him but stop also judging so much. Simple things like the if masturbation is the same as physical sex with someone else isnt just a fact you get to state. Its your opinion then.
 
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Deepdistress21

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To OP. When it comes down to it focus on dixing your addiction and bettering yourseld. Look to god. Then trust who he has in store for you. If shes a virgin too and yous can share that it will be awesome. But even if not, shes going to be amazing to you and your gonna love her so much that itll be special in itself. So be patient. Trust god. And work on yourself for god. What everyone else says or thinks doesnt matter. Its between you and god. No one else. Nothing else. And he will provide just the right woman for you if its what he wills. Its you and god. Ignore the rest :)
 

blue_ladybug

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Masturbation is not taking virginity.
But whatever, you guys can disagree with him but stop also judging so much. Simple things like the if masturbation is the same as physical sex with someone else isnt just a fact you get to state. Its your opinion then.
Masturbation is pretty akin to having sex with yourself. And opinions are like eyeballs, everyone has one..
 
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Ariel82

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No because I would want to change him and I make it a policy never to date someone I want to change.

My advice is be the kind of person you would want to date and love who God made you. Learn to love others first as friends and if something more happens, then follow God.
 
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Deepdistress21

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Opinions are perfectlt fine but you cant force them on someone. And you cant tell them what they think is wrong either. Were all humans, we all make mistakes and we all can misunderstand stuff. If you believe masturbation is the same as sex then show it with verses, proof. Just saying "no your wrong" in a basic sense isnt an opinion. An opinion is your own.
 
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To OP. When it comes down to it focus on dixing your addiction and bettering yourseld. Look to god. Then trust who he has in store for you. If shes a virgin too and yous can share that it will be awesome. But even if not, shes going to be amazing to you and your gonna love her so much that itll be special in itself. So be patient. Trust god. And work on yourself for god. What everyone else says or thinks doesnt matter. Its between you and god. No one else. Nothing else. And he will provide just the right woman for you if its what he wills. Its you and god. Ignore the rest :)
I know it probably won't matter to if I fall in love with a girl. But I still have my preferences.
 

jsr1221

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Not you aren't, not if you pleasure yourself by masturbating..

Not saying you are doing that, but if you do happen to be..
You're thinking of purity. Purity is different than virginity. If one never has sex, he or she is still a virgin. Purity involves stuff like masturbation. Purity is what you do when no one watches. Your normal person isn't going to go out in the public and well... You know. Hence how the act is generally by one's self with no one around.
 
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jsr1221

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I know it probably won't matter to if I fall in love with a girl. But I still have my preferences.
Why are you still fixated on this when numerous people have said the same thing over and over in that you can't focus on both. Are you choosing not take the advice? I know I've said twice that you can only control the moment you are in right now, and asked what you were planning to do with this moment. You never answered. If you're not going to take advice, that's fine. It's your life. But don't be asking for it and then brushing aside what everyone, including those that have actually been in your exact position before, has been trying to tell you.
 

blue_ladybug

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Opinions are perfectlt fine but you cant force them on someone. And you cant tell them what they think is wrong either. Were all humans, we all make mistakes and we all can misunderstand stuff. If you believe masturbation is the same as sex then show it with verses, proof. Just saying "no your wrong" in a basic sense isnt an opinion. An opinion is your own.
The bible states that no person is to sin against their own body. THAT means touching yourself, playing with yourself, etc..

Here are several verses to prove my opinion:

1 Corinthians 6:18
Cross-reference verses:

1 Corinthians 6:9
2 Corinthians 12:21
Galatians 5:19
Ephesians 5:3
Colossians 3:5
1 Thessalonians 4:3
Hebrews 13:4
 

Lynx

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Geez Louise, 13 pages already? Man when y'all argue stuff y'all go all out! :rolleyes: