GUYS - I need some advice

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Tinkerbell725

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Why would a guy say he still wants to do things together then?
I mean after the second date if a guy isn't feelin it then wouldn't they normally just not contact you anymore rather than say we will meet up in his free time when he's down?
I understand what you guys are saying for sure...
I just really dislike when guys don't communicate what they do or don't want. It makes a girl so confused at the end of the day.
Some people are good at confusing others. You cant force him to tell you his reasons if he doesnt want to. Its ok not to know, he might be sparing you from getting hurt. If he really cares you will know. You wont be sitting there wondering if he does. So just let it go.
 

AsifinPassing

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I met a guy online and we went out on two dates... both went really well.. we had a connection as well as a lot of fun and laughs..
He lives in alberta and comes home for a weeks time every month, so I had seen him on his time here.
After the second date he still pursued in texting and remaining in contact. Then once it was time to come down here for the holidays... no contact.. I texted him twice just asking how he was and telling him I hope you have a good trip and a good day.
No response..
It's been about 18 days of nothing.
He showed interest for 3 months and now I'm confused ... do I talk to him about it and communicate something like - hey, are we cool??? Or ask him when we will go to the shooting range (because he said he wanted to do this on his free time when he's here) but he's back home now..
Should I ask something or just keep quiet?


In all seriousness, though, just text/call him to see what's up. Either he'll answer you or he won't, and either way...that'll probably give you your answer.
 
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In all seriousness, though, just text/call him to see what's up. Either he'll answer you or he won't, and either way...that'll probably give you your answer.
She text him twice and he didn't respond. Typically if a man doesn't answer a woman back right away when things are just firing up he's not interested. Not a good way to handle things on his end though.
 

AsifinPassing

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She text him twice and he didn't respond. Typically if a man doesn't answer a woman back right away when things are just firing up he's not interested. Not a good way to handle things on his end though.
Then you have people like me who may text you back anywhere from two seconds to two weeks later, depending on what's going on, how I'm feeling, and how important I perceive it is to respond.

For example:

Any Given Person (Family, Friends, Job, GF, Stranger): Hey, I just (insert statement here).

Me: Option 1) Don't respond, because that was a statement, and I feel no need to offer a response.
Option 2) 'Cool.' or 'Nice.' or 'Good for you.' etc


Example 2:

Person: 'Hey, what are you doing right now?'

Me: *insert whatever it is I'm doing when I get the chance to read and respond to the message*
(...because you can't always be on your phone, because it'll either a)get you in trouble b)be illegal/put you and others in danger or c)be extremely rude to the person you are immediately speaking face to face with.)

Person: *either inserts a similar response to example 1 'Cool.'* or *asks you something related to why they wanted to know what you were doing in the first place*

Me: *Respond in kind*
 
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Then you have people like me who may text you back anywhere from two seconds to two weeks later, depending on what's going on, how I'm feeling, and how important I perceive it is to respond.

For example:

Any Given Person (Family, Friends, Job, GF, Stranger): Hey, I just (insert statement here).

Me: Option 1) Don't respond, because that was a statement, and I feel no need to offer a response.
Option 2) 'Cool.' or 'Nice.' or 'Good for you.' etc


Example 2:

Person: 'Hey, what are you doing right now?'

Me: *insert whatever it is I'm doing when I get the chance to read and respond to the message*
(...because you can't always be on your phone, because it'll either a)get you in trouble b)be illegal/put you and others in danger or c)be extremely rude to the person you are immediately speaking face to face with.)

Person: *either inserts a similar response to example 1 'Cool.'* or *asks you something related to why they wanted to know what you were doing in the first place*

Me: Respond.
A rather pointless rundown of your texting priorities since the thread is about a very specific type of situation. And, as i stated, under this specific type of situation, it's a bad sign. Not sure how you got the impression i was talking about any other sort of situation, or why you would suppose i cared how you prioritized texting.
 

AsifinPassing

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A rather pointless rundown of your texting priorities since the thread is about a very specific type of situation. And, as i stated, under this specific type of situation, it's a bad sign. Not sure how you got the impression i was talking about any other sort of situation, or why you would suppose i cared how you prioritized texting.
I didn't assume you cared, and I responded thusly because in this same given situation, someone like me would still operate under the earlier stated scenarios.

I do not believe I'm the only one who feels/operates this way, and was offering that point of view to the conversation. There are times I haven't spoken to a girl in a situation similar to this, and when she actually called me out for it (FE: The text or call I offered she make to find her answer.), I would tell her if I'd been busy, or wasn't into her anymore, etc etc...
 
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TRSSS1stPresident

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Ha ha ha. That is a meme of Giorgio A. Tsoukalos from Ancient Aliens on the History Channel.

Ohhhhhh! Ha ha.

You are very welcome, crosstweed! Good one! God bless!! :)
 
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coby

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I didn't assume you cared, and I responded thusly because in this same given situation, someone like me would still operate under the earlier stated scenarios.

I do not believe I'm the only one who feels/operates this way, and was offering that point of view to the conversation. There are times I haven't spoken to a girl in a situation similar to this, and when she actually called me out for it (FE: The text or call I offered she make to find her answer.), I would tell her if I'd been busy, or wasn't into her anymore, etc etc...
That says more than enough. Well to me it would say more than enough. Everything else is more important to you. No problem, then everything else is also more important to me.
 

seoulsearch

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A rather pointless rundown of your texting priorities since the thread is about a very specific type of situation. And, as i stated, under this specific type of situation, it's a bad sign. Not sure how you got the impression i was talking about any other sort of situation, or why you would suppose i cared how you prioritized texting.
It's a matter of opinion.

I enjoy Reece's posts no matter what he talks about, and one of the reasons I enjoy them is because he's very good at communication and shares a lot about who he is through his narrations. Everyone is different, but these are my favorite kinds of posts--those that give you a glimpse into someone's personality, most especially through stories of their everyday life.

He's also always very thoughtful and caring.

Post on, Reece. Post on.

Many of us DO want to read your posts and you're not just talking into thin air. We're listening!
 
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