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Actually this ties into why I got into the Psychology of relationships in the first place.
I was dating a woman that I couldn't communicate with. And no matter how hard I tried, it was like I was digging for a piece of her mind that didn't exist. No line of reasoning could find what inspired her and no question could search out what moves her. I still have no idea how she expresses herself.
So after doing some research I discovered that in spite of her having a Masters Degree, she was not wired to "get" abstract, intuitive or metaphorical concepts. If it wasn't concrete, factual or otherwise mundane day to day stuff, it didn't interest her. She would talk about the weather and want to watch TV and I hate TV, because to me its mindless but, to her its a way to unwind and not have to think.
The only thing that we really had in common was that we both liked fitness and playing sports. Which in retrospect is really silly.
I was dating a woman that I couldn't communicate with. And no matter how hard I tried, it was like I was digging for a piece of her mind that didn't exist. No line of reasoning could find what inspired her and no question could search out what moves her. I still have no idea how she expresses herself.
So after doing some research I discovered that in spite of her having a Masters Degree, she was not wired to "get" abstract, intuitive or metaphorical concepts. If it wasn't concrete, factual or otherwise mundane day to day stuff, it didn't interest her. She would talk about the weather and want to watch TV and I hate TV, because to me its mindless but, to her its a way to unwind and not have to think.
The only thing that we really had in common was that we both liked fitness and playing sports. Which in retrospect is really silly.
I really have tried not to be a crank in this fashion, but you are correct.
3 women have heavily been on my radar. 2 of them were sensors, 1 intuitor. I fell hopelessly in love with the intuitor and would still dream of being with her. The other two didn't have the same fire because I really couldn't communicate with them beyond "So yeah, this is what I did today."
3 women have heavily been on my radar. 2 of them were sensors, 1 intuitor. I fell hopelessly in love with the intuitor and would still dream of being with her. The other two didn't have the same fire because I really couldn't communicate with them beyond "So yeah, this is what I did today."
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Yes, so much yes. I used to date a model, and ended up dumping her. Lesson learned in beauty without brains. Meanwhile I was dating this girl purely on physical attraction I ignored the one who had both, and she ended up marrying a complete jerk. We talked two years later and both admitted, our lives would have been much better had I not gone with the model, and dated her instead. #regret.
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Thank you guys- I haven't had a lot of time to respond to posts because school has started(yaay). But you all have given me a lot to think about. I just hope that when I meet *him* I'll be able to speak calmly because nerves tend to me say backwards things make. Then the shunning begins... haha! xD
So I guess what guys should put in their "list" of what they want in a woman isn't intelligence so much as conversation and knowledge. But I can see how its simply easier to just say intelligence.
Fortunately my phase of twitterpation without a target is over and I can chill. Still some insecurities but we all have them.
So I guess what guys should put in their "list" of what they want in a woman isn't intelligence so much as conversation and knowledge. But I can see how its simply easier to just say intelligence.
Fortunately my phase of twitterpation without a target is over and I can chill. Still some insecurities but we all have them.
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Intelligence and Education are not the same thing, although, people do confuse the too. Intelligence is based upon your ability to reason and think things out. While being educated is more understanding what you have learned, which does not have to come from schools. (One can be well educated without ever having to step in a school. And one can be uneducated and have attended an Ivy League School. Although the latter doesn't often happen. But if you go to college and haven't really learn anything, even though you have a degree, are you truly educated? Ok, enough of my soap box.)
Getting back to what I was going with, from the responses on here, it seems that real men do want intelligent, educated women, while the boys chase after the ditzes of the world.
And guys, just so you know, most women also want men who are intelligent and educated. And let me just say again, educated does not necessarily mean you had to go to college.
Getting back to what I was going with, from the responses on here, it seems that real men do want intelligent, educated women, while the boys chase after the ditzes of the world.
And guys, just so you know, most women also want men who are intelligent and educated. And let me just say again, educated does not necessarily mean you had to go to college.
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I'm hopping in a little late, but a couple things. Going to a community college says nothing about your intelligence. I went to several community colleges to get the general credits out of the way, before transferring to a university.
I think for me the type of intelligence I would be looking for is being able to use their brain to think. Some people are totally clueless and believe just about everything they hear and read, they don't know how to think through anything. Then there are people on the other side of the yard stick and they are so smart and brainy they don't know how to carry on a normal conversation.
I think for me the type of intelligence I would be looking for is being able to use their brain to think. Some people are totally clueless and believe just about everything they hear and read, they don't know how to think through anything. Then there are people on the other side of the yard stick and they are so smart and brainy they don't know how to carry on a normal conversation.
There is a difference between having trouble communicating and having nothing to say. You can be blind, death, or autistic but can have plenty to say. If you have nothing to say because nothing interests you, then you are not very intelligent. Or if only superficial things interest you. What is or isn't superficial can be further debated, but by participating in the debate you would prove that you are intelligent because the question interests you. 
A good example is found in the arts. Lets take music.
If the lyrics of your song are
You are NOT very smart............
The song continues and gets much more explicit and vile. And the worst part is, its extremely catchy. Lord help us.
If the lyrics to your song are
You are most definitely intelligent........
Considering that both of these songs come from the same group "Black eyed Peas". I have no idea what to say. Hahahaha.
The only conclusion I can make is that Black eyed Peas will sing ANYTHING someone writes for them without reading the lyrics. I mean come on. How hypocritical.
If the lyrics of your song are
You are NOT very smart............
The song continues and gets much more explicit and vile. And the worst part is, its extremely catchy. Lord help us.
If the lyrics to your song are
You are most definitely intelligent........
Considering that both of these songs come from the same group "Black eyed Peas". I have no idea what to say. Hahahaha.
The only conclusion I can make is that Black eyed Peas will sing ANYTHING someone writes for them without reading the lyrics. I mean come on. How hypocritical.
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Well, Gorillas might say that common sense says that if one hand has more candy then the other, you want the hand with the most candy. (Yes, there was an experiment along time ago that was based on a similar scenario.)
But seriously, common sense is knowing how to survive in everyday life. And there are different types of common sense: street smart, city smart, country life, survival-ism, etc ....
But seriously, common sense is knowing how to survive in everyday life. And there are different types of common sense: street smart, city smart, country life, survival-ism, etc ....