I do agree with going to the person, that is if it happened within one year, but in my experience if something someone said or did still hurts you after several years today, then that tends to be more of a personal problem rather than that other persons because you have allowed those hurt feelings consume you.
renewed_hope you stated your opinion. Some of us stated why we disagree with you. You restated your opinion. We explained why we disagree with you. Now you have re-restated your opinion.
For the record, I disagree with you. Again. The reason I disagree with you is the same as what I explained before.
Are we done here, or do we need to go another round?