Nice topic, ZT!
I wouldn't say I have any enemies...I mean I'm a pretty simple girl who is quite shy. But I guess when I think of enemies two people come to mind.
The first one is a kid who went to school with me. I guess he's now a young man. Anyways, he made my elementary life hell. He would beat me up, throw me on the hot black top, and broke off one of my teeth once. Then he would call me names and tell the teachers I was up to no good when really I wasn't doing anything. That was hard. But I have prayed for him. I pray that he realizes his mistakes, breaks that chain of bullying, and if he has kids, that they don't bully others like he did to me. I also pray that he finds God.
I later found out this kid grew up in a very poor area of town and could barely afford to get by. Sometimes it helps to know their story, a little. It made sense that he was mean to me, his living situation wasn't anything easy to go through. I had God, a house, a car, food on the table, and a wonderful family to take care of me and love me. He didn't.
I looked him up on fb and I guess he's doing okay. He looks happy and has joined the military, so I suppose God has heard my prayers.
Another person would be this girl who is a couple of years older than me. Her mom is a family friend, so she would come by a lot. At 13, I was a self conscious teenager, and she was a popular 15 year old who all the boys were interested in. Honestly, I was a little jealous of her, but I also wanted to be her friend. She wasn't having it and after a while of just ignoring me, she started talking behind my back at school and told me ugly things.
Like my favorite color is pink and she would always say that it was an ugly color. She would also say I was too pale and fat. She also got some of the high school kids to bully me more. She would make fun of anything I did: playing clarinet, joining the pep squad, taking AP classes, reading Harry Potter. Just everything I did was wrong! I got to tired of it, I realized that I needed to avoid her. I felt so isolated, insecure, and wounded. I couldn't even talk to anyone because I became so anxious.
Two years later, at 17, she got pregnant and failed 11th grade. I hadn't seen her in a few months because of summer, but when I did (the first time I saw her pregnant), she smiled at me in a bittersweet way. Then she looked down at the ground and walked away. I could tell that she was embarrassed for me to see her pregnant. It took me a while to realize that everything she did was because of jealously. It's not that I was a weird person, it was her own insecurities. When someone bullies you, it says more about them than it does about you.
This girl had a drug dealing father and her mother was not equipped to deal with all that. I later found out that she went through a lot growing up....emotionally and physically.
So now I pray for her. And she's doing all right: married the baby's father and eventually did graduate high school. So it's all good.
I don't talk to either of these people, but fb has a way of showing us what everyone is up to.
Sometimes we get caught up with the enemy and we want to take revenge. There were many times where I wanted to gossip about this girl at school and tell everyone she was pregnant, but I didn't. It's best not to let the enemy win. When someone is mean to you, stop to consider what their life is like. Maybe your life is amazingly blessed compared to theirs. You just never know.