Help with liking somebody at my Church

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Kmdavis

Kmdavis

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Hi, all. I have begun to care for a guy at my church who probably has no idea that I care about him. The thing is I have know him for almost a year and we are just friends. But as I get to know him I like him more and more. The problem is I think he just sees me as a friend. I thought of him as a friend but then he started smiling at me and acting interested. He even flirted with me so much so that he was blushing. But then he pulled away and didn't show up to church for a whole month. He is the type of guy who is nice to everyone and just loves people so maybe I miss read him, I think he sees me as a good friend and that's it :(. I never met a guy like him before who is so nice and sweet and loves being around people. I think he should be in ministry as a pastor. Anyway, I have been serious about Christ for two years and he is just now coming into the faith. Its so bad that I'm thinking of going to another church..I have prayed about this a lot. What should I do?
 
Dino246

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Hi Kmdavis...
If he has not actually become a Christian, put your energy into something which he's not involved in. Ask your pastor about him... maybe a hint in the right direction will bring some good fruit. If he is a Christian, ask him out. A date doesn't mean marriage, and it doesn't need to destroy a friendship either. :)
 
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Chey60

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Kmdavis said:
Hi, all. I have begun to care for a guy at my church who probably has no idea that I care about him. The thing is I have know him for almost a year and we are just friends. But as I get to know him I like him more and more. The problem is I think he just sees me as a friend. I thought of him as a friend but then he started smiling at me and acting interested. He even flirted with me so much so that he was blushing. But then he pulled away and didn't show up to church for a whole month. He is the type of guy who is nice to everyone and just loves people so maybe I miss read him, I think he sees me as a good friend and that's it :(. I never met a guy like him before who is so nice and sweet and loves being around people. I think he should be in ministry as a pastor. Anyway, I have been serious about Christ for two years and he is just now coming into the faith. Its so bad that I'm thinking of going to another church..I have prayed about this a lot. What should I do?
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It's not time... just focus on the Lord and avoid thoughts regarding this man. Get involved in ministry and serving in your church and maybe a women's group...and find some accountability partners in your church (women)
This happened to me a few years ago..but he was more of an elder in the church..no matter, though he seemed interested at first, God said no ..because he stopped being interested in me and took up with and quickly married one of my christian sisters on my praise team with me..
I felt then that unless God led the man to me... I just need to be single and joyful and focus on Him..
that would be my advise to you..especially since you may be at this church for a reason...

praying you make the right decision
Chey
 
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Chey60

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Kmdavis said:
Hi, all. I have begun to care for a guy at my church who probably has no idea that I care about him. The thing is I have know him for almost a year and we are just friends. But as I get to know him I like him more and more. The problem is I think he just sees me as a friend. I thought of him as a friend but then he started smiling at me and acting interested. He even flirted with me so much so that he was blushing. But then he pulled away and didn't show up to church for a whole month. He is the type of guy who is nice to everyone and just loves people so maybe I miss read him, I think he sees me as a good friend and that's it :(. I never met a guy like him before who is so nice and sweet and loves being around people. I think he should be in ministry as a pastor. Anyway, I have been serious about Christ for two years and he is just now coming into the faith. Its so bad that I'm thinking of going to another church..I have prayed about this a lot. What should I do?
Click to expand...

It's not time... just focus on the Lord and avoid thoughts regarding this man. Get involved in ministry and serving in your church and maybe a women's group...and find some accountability partners in your church (women)
This happened to me a few years ago..but he was more of an elder in the church..no matter, though he seemed interested at first, God said no ..because he stopped being interested in me and took up with and quickly married one of my christian sisters on my praise team with me..
I felt then that unless God led the man to me... I just need to be single and joyful and focus on Him..
that would be my advise to you..especially since you may be at this church for a reason...

praying you make the right decision
Chey
 
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