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My bf is just shy of 18 yrs my senior, and thus far it has not been an issue. The only concern is others opinions, but it causes no real problems in our relationship.
It really depends on the people and the age of the younger. 10 yrs when your 27 isn't a big deal usually. It is a big deal when your 17.
It really depends on the people and the age of the younger. 10 yrs when your 27 isn't a big deal usually. It is a big deal when your 17.
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I'm in the same boat. I'm 19, months away from being 20, and I've recently met a 31 year old good Christian man who I really like! But because I'm 19 people look down on me for even entertaining the idea. But I've been getting the whole "if you were 24 and he was 36" it wouldn't be bad. Which really throws me off because we WILL be at that stage in a few years. Why wait?
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What are your reasons for liking the person that is 10 years older?
Your age doesn't matter so much, being 27, sweetdorigirl, I was a lot more apprehensive of it being the right thing if you were ONLY 18. Uh-uh. I don't agree with that. Get yourself at least a taste of the real world a couple years, trying school, trying a couple things outside of a huge dating experience with someone THAT much older than you.
But, get to 20, and, you still are thinking, I want to go do something different than school, or, I am SURE of what I want to do, maybe, it's nursing and you're entering nursing school. Hey, then, it can make sense.
Just don't be giving me the answer, 'I don't know what I want to do,' if I see you in , say, a libary and I am 10 years older than you and you are 18. Uh-uh. That is the wrong answer for me and it should be an answer that you should see as needing some refining to getting to a point of , like I said, 'I'm going to nursing school.'
But, yeah, all that said, , I will just say to the young uns, wanting to date significantly older uns
, is that the Lord leads, ultimately, over all and He will set you on His path for you...
....IF you ask Him to
pray , pray, pray, there is so much revealing in that revealing power of His Spirit working His ways in you
Your age doesn't matter so much, being 27, sweetdorigirl, I was a lot more apprehensive of it being the right thing if you were ONLY 18. Uh-uh. I don't agree with that. Get yourself at least a taste of the real world a couple years, trying school, trying a couple things outside of a huge dating experience with someone THAT much older than you.
But, get to 20, and, you still are thinking, I want to go do something different than school, or, I am SURE of what I want to do, maybe, it's nursing and you're entering nursing school. Hey, then, it can make sense.
Just don't be giving me the answer, 'I don't know what I want to do,' if I see you in , say, a libary and I am 10 years older than you and you are 18. Uh-uh. That is the wrong answer for me and it should be an answer that you should see as needing some refining to getting to a point of , like I said, 'I'm going to nursing school.'
But, yeah, all that said, , I will just say to the young uns, wanting to date significantly older uns
, is that the Lord leads, ultimately, over all and He will set you on His path for you.......IF you ask Him to
pray , pray, pray, there is so much revealing in that revealing power of His Spirit working His ways in you
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You ask yourself that question and you pray to God a bit about it and think about what your dreams were when you were playing with barbies and in junior high and high school and now what stage of your life are you in, giddyliddy?
And, if you just want to get married and have kids, or , whatever, because you never see yourself as going to college or having a career and understand the risks of DIVORCE and then being without kids and without a degree and basically living on welfare then GO FOR IT, I say. But, what do I know.
I say the person that said you should be 24 and he 36 is wise knows a lot.
but, yeah, list ALL the pros and cons of going out with this 12 year older guy and why is it he likes you? What do you offer him at 19? Are you an artist? Are you just with a rich family ?
I'm not being mean with those questions, I'm being serious The Lord leads.
Anyway, that's all I got ; that's enough , isn't it
And, if you just want to get married and have kids, or , whatever, because you never see yourself as going to college or having a career and understand the risks of DIVORCE and then being without kids and without a degree and basically living on welfare then GO FOR IT, I say. But, what do I know.
I say the person that said you should be 24 and he 36 is wise knows a lot.
but, yeah, list ALL the pros and cons of going out with this 12 year older guy and why is it he likes you? What do you offer him at 19? Are you an artist? Are you just with a rich family ?
I'm not being mean with those questions, I'm being serious
The Lord leads. Anyway, that's all I got ; that's enough , isn't it
A gap? What dost thou mean? You speak as if it has a life of its own. It bugs you? Age is only history (trust me, I am an authority from history, Sir Lucan here!). He has lived x number of years and you have lived x number of years. That's history. It is you who bugs you. In other words, you know there is too big of a gap. I do not say there is too big of gap, but I am saying you know the age difference is too great.
Answer: When you know it. And you know you know when you say "It bugs me."
Answer: When you know it. And you know you know when you say "It bugs me."