how do you know

[Joshua2417]

I been reading all these forums about Girls and guys. An they haven't realy hit what i struggle with. My struggle is Knowing when a girl likes you. I will admit i am a stupied guy that usualy needs a strong hint. almost like a slap in the face or a girl being straight foward an telling me. I have no idea some of the woman i have talk to in the past liked me. so if theres any nice woman or women out there that could clue this clueless guy on some signs the girls use to let a guy know that they are intrested in them could you please help give a few things that girls do that a guy could pick up as signs that the girl is intrestead in the guy? Thank you

 

[seoulsearch]

If the girl seems nice and is easy to talk to... why not just ask her if she'd like to catch lunch sometime? Low pressure, doesn't take up much time (in case something goes wrong, like conversation that meets a dead end...), doesn't cost much (unless she's some sort of four-star restaurant buff )--I've always had a tendency to take this approach with a guy I have known for a while and can find good conversations with, and if I intend for it just to be friends, I'm honest about that from the start.

I know this approach doesn't work for everyone, but I've come to subscribe to the "life is short, why not try?" approach when it comes to dating... You might even become good friends.

I personally feel either side can make the move--best wishes, and keep us posted.

 

[sportygirl]

I agree it is probably hard to tell if girls are interested, for similar reasons as to why I cant tell if guys like me (at least not hte ones I would want to date). For me personally I tend to talk to them more than other guys, and try to invite them to stuff and in general just get to know them better. I'm also usually somewhat uncomfortable if I'm interested and more shy. Which is sad, because that usually does the opposite of what I want im less shy around the guys I dont like so somehow they tend to think I'm interested in them. Sometimes you just have to ask the girl to get the answer clearly, their may be rejection, but if they were a person worth dating they will let you down nicely.

 

[zeroturbulence]

She will smile often when she is in a conversation with you, and some girls tease you a lot in a joking manner, and you'll see that her eyes seem to brighten when she looks at you.

Shy girls will seem to hang around you a lot like any chance they get, and they want to hang around even though they dont have much to say.

 

[grace]

Hey Joshua....One of my favorite quotes is: " A womans heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him to find her."

Also, this sort of discussion came up in the chat room the other day, and Cee gave some of the BEST advice I had heard in a LONG time. Your the second person I will be passing it along to. He said, that you should run after Christ with everything you have, pursue Him at all costs, serve others in His name.....then stop to look to your left and to your right and see who is beside you.
Basically meaning, you want someone on somewhat of the same spiritual level as you. Your focus should be on seeking Christ in ALL things, and praising Him in them, ans so should theirs.

I don't want any of this to sound cliche' or easy...but I do believe those two things above to be true. I don't envy guys. I am of the mindset that the man should be the pursueer. And I am sure it is quite hard to be that vulnerable all the time to ask someone out, with the possibility of them saying no.

If there is a woman that you are interested in, I reccomend you pray specifically about her and FOR her. God knows the desires of your heart, so also pray that God prepares your heart to accept the blessings he has for you that line up with those desires in a way that will honor Him.

(on a more tangable sidenote, if there is someone that has caught my eye, I will make myself more available, show an interest in wanting to talk, etc. Its not easy for women either, just so you know. Esspecially someone with the mindset that I have...I don't' want to do anything that will take the pursuit out of the guys hand, once he has started that process though...then I believe it goes both ways.)

 

[Joshua2417]

Wow, alot of great advice. Thank you all for replying. My thing is i have been putting alot of time in keeping focused on the Lord and doin what he wants and trying to have a strong connection with God. That at this point i wouldn't know if one is intrested in me or not. mainly why i asked cause i noticed a diffent look from a female i know which caught me off gaurd but it still puzzles me because she sends mixed signals. thats why its confussion for me is i can never fully tell cause it always seems like cat and mouse game. its why i stopped dating. i don't care to play the games of geuss if i like you or not, an stuff like that. i prefer to be open and honest and if its ment to be then let it be. you know. if that made sense. should realy have coffee before i sit down an type. lol but anyways no, right now i am trying to get a few things straightn and haven't been looking but even when i was i was always puzzled. i will say this....All you women are Beautiful and i Love you but with that i just can't figure you out. lol greatest thing God put on this earth was the Woman to be here for man. but of course man through out the manuel that goes to her. hehehehe God bless you all much love

Josh