How is the single life for you as a Christian?

[seoulsearch]

I guess that there always will be some difficult moments, even if you get to know the perfect person for you, that one that we say is the chosen by God for us. Problems and trouble are the usual this live. That is a risk that some of us are willing to take. You are right, living alone without anyone bothering you all the days is, of course a kind of a perfect life but sometimes, some of us want something more. Regards

Hi Nicolas,

There are many people here who have always felt like they were meant to have families, but for some reason, it hasn't worked out. Many still hang on to that hope, so you're definitely not alone.

We have a lot of talks here about living out life, still trying to do God's will, and maybe even still finding marriage and a family (for us older singles.)

I hope you'll join in here and feel free to share your feelings in any of the discussions that catch your interest.

 

[BizBo]

In many Christian circles it is seen as sad if you are in your late 20s, 30s or older and "still single". I personally know that everyones journey with God is a unique one and there are so many factors that come into play in terms of why someone is single, so I'm content in my singlehood (not that I don't wish for a partnership, though). What are your thoughts?

I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with it (especially since Covid). I don’t think you can ever be too old, just as long as you keep God first, that’s all that really matters nowadays. He knows us, our hearts, our minds better than we ever could. He calls some to stay single and directs the right person to others. Once you’ve really formed an unbreakable relationship with God, you’ll figure out which is you. When you can honestly ask yourself “Will I be able to keep God first at all times and love my partner as unconditionally as God loves me?” And the answer is yes… Perhaps that’s God telling you something. That’s what I think anyways, I hope this helps!

 

[MsMediator]

There is a no doubt a lot of stigma against singles and especially celibates, and it is not just from Christians. Awhile ago, I was reading a book which said that all humans are sexual beings, even babies exhibit sexual behavior (thumb sucking, breastfeeding, etc.) according to prominent psychologists such as Freud. So, these views feed into the thought that there is something wrong with being single/celibate/not in a rush to get married. There are some Christians who believe it is unnatural to be single, and I believe they are buying into Freudian thought.

One reason I enjoy watching Catholic channels on YouTube is because singles are viewed in higher regard in my opinion and they better highlight the virtues of singleness, and the messages are more on point for singles. For instance, a single may find she has more in common with a priest/nun than a married person. I once compared videos on loneliness and the messages were quite different.

I like my single life, and though I like solitude, I also like having people around. That is one of the drawbacks of being single, as we have to make extra effort to meet people. There are families who don't really hang out with people outside the family. I am sure I would be happy in a solid/happy marriage too.