Geez....sounds like nosey people. I think that if you dont want to share the details of your personal life, it shouldn't matter if it's at work , at church or anywhere else. I do understand that some people in your church family are sometimes a little forward, a little pushy, but I think you'd just have to be bold and say 'I'd rather not talk about it'. Since my husband passed away 3 yrs ago, I've been asked out by members of my church and I've said no. Since me and my husband attended our church for 20 plus yrs, the men are my brothers. I would not date them.