How To Even Meet Someone?

[Lynx]

Didn't this guy say in one post that men, absolutely, every time Must initiate? Now turning around and offering advice for if the woman initiates as if it's totally fine?
🤔

Yeah, well... Consistency is a chore to maintain. And it gets in the way of advice that sounds good.

 

[SteveEpperson]

What a narcissistic d bag.

let's take this statement and analyze it for a moment, shall we?


Accusatory, check.
Arrogant, check.
Vile, Check
Moronic, check.
Against community guidelines, check.

Also, would you care to explain wht you mean by " d bag" in this context for the rest of us, including the moderators on this Christian Chat site?

 

[seoulsearch]

let's take this statement and analyze it for a moment, shall we?
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Accusatory, check.
Arrogant, check.
Vile, Check
Moronic, check.
Against community guidelines, check.

Also, would you care to explain wht you mean by " d bag" in this context for the rest of us, including the moderators on this Christian Chat site?

I know Steve won't be able to be see my post but...

@Subhumanoidal has been here a long time, maybe even longer than me (15 years,) and is quite a staple around here.

So... Yes, Steve. The mods know who Sub is -- and have for, I believe, well over a decade.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

let's take this statement and analyze it for a moment, shall we?
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Accusatory, check.
Arrogant, check.
Vile, Check
Moronic, check.
Against community guidelines, check.

Also, would you care to explain wht you mean by " d bag" in this context for the rest of us, including the moderators on this Christian Chat site?

Is that an actual photo of you? 😂
You've been asked numerous questions and have had your own words challenged only to put people on ignore or ignore their questions. Now you want someone else to answer Your questions? 😂
Don't ask of others what you're incapable of or unwilling to do yourself.
Feel free to inform the mods.

 

[SteveEpperson]

You've been asked numerous questions and have had your own words challenged only to put people on ignore or ignore their questions.

I think it might be time for your nap, Mister Cranky pants.

 

[melita916]

I forgot what this thread is about. lol

 

[icequeen]

Me trying to follow the recipe with greeting y'all with a smile.

 

[Rhomphaeam]

Oh, but I'm here to tell you from experience, that what I've laid out in my posts really does work, especially if the woman is willing to take the first risk. I realize that I've been directing my coaching toward men, but if a woman were to initiate the first contact, it's nearly guaranteed to work.

You see, we men are born clueless about approaching a woman, getting the first date, and building the romance. Yet we are assigned this task by society and are expected to somehow be proficient at it.

If YOU were to assign yourself this task, YOU would guarantee your success by:

1. Letting some poor, clueless fellow off the hook

2. Teaching this clueless dude what you want

3. Taking responsibility for the outcomes

The problem is that most women don't want to take the first risk in a relationship. They rightly assume there will be rejection along the way, so they want it to fall on the man's shoulders.

The problem is that you cannot sit back and let the man do all the work if you are upset with the outcomes.



If this is working for you, fine. But I have to ask, are you simply taking the easy way out here? Are you letting negativity and martyrdom work for you? If so, being miserable is not the most God-honoring way to live. I know this from experience.

It could be that you're also afraid of success just as much as failure. It's this fear of success that can hold people back, just as much as being rejected.

For example, a woman's thought process during a successful encounter with a man might look something like this:

"Oh my goodness, he's coming over here to talk to me! What do I do now? Oh my, he's soooooo good-looking!"

He says hi and you say hi back. He also dares to introduce himself. You suddenly can't remember your name, but somehow, you get it out there to him.

You continue with your internal dialogue. "Oh, I just don't know about this. Why would such a handsome guy want to talk to me, anyway? What's he up to? I bet he's NOT a Christian. If he asks me out, what will I do? I have no clothes to wear, and besides, I certainly don't want to compete with THAT!"

He tries to continue the conversation, but you've decided that, since having any success with this guy would be waaaaaaay too risky, you politely tell him you have to go.

I'm not saying this is you, but if there is any hint of this sort of dialog going on in your head during the courting process, it could derail your efforts rather quickly.

Seriously, Bro, you have written the outline for a well choreographed play that has the merits of a fabulous slap stick.

In the immediacy of the first pilot I was so zealous to lay hold of the benefit of your exiting formula, as I awaited for that 'brazen woman' coming into sight, and with a growing expectation, armed as she was with your council I got slapped by a troop of amazonian warrior princesses who on the journey out smiled at their beauty as I flattered them and on the way back decked me as they realised I was a man after all. For all our sakes do NOT take up ministry in 'Mens Things', rather stand outside with the bell around you neck and a plaque declaring your biological deformity, silent bearing witness - "Unclean!" Unclean!" Unclean!".

 

[SteveEpperson]

Seriously, Bro, you have written the outline for a well choreographed play that has the merits of a fabulous slap stick.

Okay Bro, Homey, Homeboy, Dude!

Now, see if your mommy will let you outa the basement so you can get on your skateboard to relieve some of that stress my posts are causing you.

 

[cinder]

I smell troll

 

[seoulsearch]

let's take this statement and analyze it for a moment, shall we
Accusatory, check.
Arrogant, check.
Vile, Check
Moronic, check.
Against community guidelines, check.

Also, would you care to explain wht you mean by " d bag" in this context for the rest of us, including the moderators on this Christian Chat site?

I think it might be time for your nap, Mister Cranky pants.

Okay Bro, Homey, Homeboy, Dude! Now, see if your mommy will let you outa the basement so you can get on your skateboard to relieve some of that stress my posts are causing you.

Hmm...

Makes an entire list of what he sees as posting no no's/forum sins that were unfairly waged against him -- then proceeds to go forth and do the exact same things to anyone who doesn't hail his methods as absolute.

Le sigh.

 

[Lynx]

Okay Bro, Homey, Homeboy, Dude!

Now, see if your mommy will let you outa the basement so you can get on your skateboard to relieve some of that stress my posts are causing you.

Overuse of and

Yup. Definite troll indicator.

 

[Rhomphaeam]

Okay Bro, Homey, Homeboy, Dude!

Now, see if your mommy will let you outa the basement so you can get on your skateboard to relieve some of that stress my posts are causing you.

Not sure that 'thing' is worth exploring in humour. I was of course making a point in my British brand of humour and implying that there is a consequence to 'misogyny' that we practise when we experience 'misandry' as a fruit of reply.

 

[seoulsearch]

Okay Bro, Homey, Homeboy, Dude! Now, see if your mommy will let you outa the basement so you can get on your skateboard to relieve some of that stress my posts are causing you.

I know you won't see my post, Steve, but the man you're speaking to (@Rhomphaeam) is a grown, married man who is a "father, grandfather, and minister," according to his profile.

You totally wrote off Rodney and notmyown as well, when these are grown adults with adult children (and in some cases, grandchildren) who have a lifetime of experience.

It's utterly astounding to me that you have absolutely no interest in learning anything about your audience or showing them any kind of basic respect, but want everyone to believe your... teachings... as absolute, while simultaneously insulting/ignoring anyone who tries to point out anything different.

How could anyone see this as an effective way to teach?

(For the record, I don't see myself as a teacher at all or in any way. Rather, I see my purpose as simply starting discussions about current hot-button topics or frivolous topics just to help people get to know each other.)

 

[Rhomphaeam]

I know you won't see my post, Steve, but the man you're speaking to (@Rhomphaeam) is a grown, married man who is a "father, grandfather, and minister," according to his profile.

You totally wrote off Rodney and notmyown as well, when these are grown adults with adult children (and in some cases, grandchildren) who have a lifetime of experience.

It's utterly astounding to me that you have absolutely no interest in learning anything about your audience or showing them any kind of basic respect, but want everyone to believe your... teachings... as absolute, while simultaneously insulting/ignoring anyone who tries to point out anything different.

How could anyone see this as an effective way to teach?

(For the record, I don't see myself as a teacher at all or in any way. Rather, I see my purpose as simply starting discussions about current hot-button topics or frivolous topics just to help people get to know each other.)

Thanks for the call sister, but I actually didn't feel written off. In fact I sense that the said SteveEpperson is trying to be humorous in a way that implies a broken heart. Just my feeling. In any case he most assuredly won't make any friends with that 'attitude' and more than likely doesn't need any at all to heal his wounds.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

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I think it might be time for your nap, Mister Cranky pants.

Once again avoids being confronted.
Like how you talk about yourself like some dating expert, yet your advice seems to offend most of the women here.
Now it's your turn. Ignore my point and instead make hypocritical comments in a pathetic attempt to put me down.

 

[seoulsearch]

Thanks for the call sister, but I actually didn't feel written off. In fact I sense that the said SteveEpperson is trying to be humorous in a way that implies a broken heart. Just my feeling. In any case he most assuredly won't make any friends with that 'attitude' and more than likely doesn't need any at all to heal his wounds.

We're glad to have you here @Rhomphaeam and hope to see you more in the future.

There was another poster who mentioned that they thought Steve was speaking from a broken heart as well. Maybe what Steve really needs is prayers...

Thank you for pointing this out with your insight and words of wisdom.

Happy Father's Day!

 

[SteveEpperson]

I know you won't see my post, Steve, but the man you're speaking to (@Rhomphaeam) is a grown, married man who is a "father, grandfather, and minister," according to his profile.

Could have fooled me.

You totally wrote off Rodney and notmyown as well, when these are grown adults with adult children (and in some cases, grandchildren) who have a lifetime of experience.

Yeah, but most on this forum act like 13-year-olds who snuck outa the house to get on this site.

There was another poster who mentioned that they thought Steve was speaking from a broken heart as well. Maybe what Steve really needs is prayers...

Oh yes, another derailing tactic to discredit me. Accusing me of "needing prayer" because I'm so broken and wayward. Oh, you lOVELY PEOPLE! What wonderful "Christians" you both are.

 

[seoulsearch]

Could have fooled me.Yeah, but most on this forum act like 13-year-olds who snuck outa the house to get on this site.Oh yes, another derailing tactic to discredit me. Accusing me of "needing prayer" because I'm so broken and wayward. Oh, you lOVELY PEOPLE! What wonderful "Christians" you both are.

God bless you, Steve.

 

[SteveEpperson]

Thanks for the call sister, but I actually didn't feel written off.

Yes, you come to his rescue, sister! While you're at it, ask him out, since he's not man enough to ask you.

Wouldn't that be precious? Two princesses on a date having a tea party together!