How Would You Answer Someone Who Said, "I Should Have Never Been Born"?

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Lynx

Lynx

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ChristianTonyB said:
That‘s very sad.

I would probably try and convince him that life is not so much about from whence we have come, but rather to where we are going. Don’t look back to the negatives of the past which are not possible for us to change, forget these, instead look ahead to the things of good that we can can influence into our lives!
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Hey no fair stealing my lines! :p

Well... I stole them from Splinter so I guess I can't complain. Splinter's lawyers gonna sue you though. :giggle:
 
Lynx

Lynx

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seoulsearch said:
Hey Everyone,

Our conversation in another thread regarding DNA had me thinking of some specific times when I have heard people say, "I should have never been born."

Now of course I know the Christian answer that any one of us would give someone who says this: We would tell them that God had a purpose for their existence, and that He loves them and has a plan for their life.

But what about when the reasons why a person is feeling this way become a little more personal?

For example, I am very open about the fact that I am adopted and that there are no records about my biological parents or the circumstances. But one thing I do know that must be kept in mind when searching for one's history is that babies and children are usually not given away under good conditions.

I recently read an article about a 24-year-old man who is building a very successful career, and he decided to look into his background, seeing as he is biracial and adopted.

His investigation resulted in finding out that his existence came about because of a 25-year-old man setting his sights on a 14-year-old girl, and refusing to take no for an answer.

In other words, his birth was the result of the rape of a child, and as could be understood, this young man felt utterly devastated. He said, "I had hoped that at the very least, (the people who created me) had loved each other."

I have talked to others whose existence came about because of an extramarital affair, a forbidden marriage (or remarriage,) or even a crime.

This often leaves people feeling like they are a living mistake or that it is a sin just for them to exist because the circumstances surrounding their birth were wrong. Therefore, they conclude that they should have never been born.

What words of Christ's love and assurance can we give to people who are suffering because of this?
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Adoption was mentioned here and I thought I might mention what I heard a comedian say about it:

He made the observation that nobody ever adopted a kid by accident. "Me, I was an accident. My parents went to a Simon and Garfunkle concert one night, yada yada, nine months later here I am! That never happens with adoption. No parent has ever had to tell an adopted child, 'Well one night I got drunk and I was online with my credit card and doggone it somehow I wound up adopting a kid.'"
 
Lanolin

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I would say its a mercy they are still here and bless them because God still wants them here.
I think children who dont know one or both of their birth parents need this blessing and to be adopted.

I dont know if step parents are given much credit but they should consider adoption and blessing of their step children. And we can all be God parents to children.

what about adults...well if they made it this far then God has a purpose for them too. Just need to show them love and understanding. I dont doubt there are many who have suicidal feelings (for a myriad of reasons, not just their birth...in general life can be very tough) but they need to know their Father. This is why God is a Father to us and we need to know and believe Jesus to be born again.
 
zeroturbulence

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Isaiah 44:2 ESV:

Thus says the LORD who made you, who formed you from the womb and will help you: Fear not, O Jacob my servant, Jeshurun whom I have chosen.
 
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