I don't really like successful men

[Roh_Chris]

Just write a nice letter to Frito Lay explaining that you much prefer you bag of chips to be little more than crumbs when you purchase them. That's the primary reason behind an inflated bag, it helps keep the chips from getting crushed.

Actually, I do know that. I was just goofing around.

Maybe I need to wear my serious hat the next time I am serious.

 

[Atwood]

What about successful women?
Do you like them?
Or do you discriminate.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Actually, I do know that. I was just goofing around.

Maybe I need to wear my serious hat the next time I am serious.

I really didn't know that.

 

[Desdichado]

What about successful women?
Do you like them?
Or do you discriminate.

Doubt it.

The OP's central premise is that she is not attracted to men most people would claim are "successful" because she sees it as a cloak under which the men hide their flaws.

It's reasonable to infer that she is not attracted to women to begin with, because most women are not lesbians.

I could be wrong though.

 

[LionEyes]

Oh, I totally love guys with lots of make-up.



Or red skin ... I have problems. Don't judge me.

Anyway, I'm attracted to the characteristics that typically make someone successful (e.g. confident, passionate, charismatic, funny), not success itself. On the other hand, I find "super-rich" kind of off-putting, so I probably wouldn't date a billionaire even if he was a great guy (unless he was Batman). No offense to good guy billionaires.

 

[Desdichado]

I'm attracted to the characteristics that typically make someone successful (e.g. confident, passionate, charismatic, funny), not success itself.

Great point! Many people use worldly success as an analog for those characteristics.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I don't like really successful men either because they won't let me drive their cars!

 

[Susanna]

What if the man isn't covering himself in makeup... but rather... an entire bottle of $3 cologne...

LOL, I have an uncle who is doing that...but I think $3 is way too expensive from his point of wiev...judging from the smell of it I'd say a quarter.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

It's all about how people view themselves, I suppose, for me. People tend to lead with how they see themselves. If someone leads with their success, they probably identify themselves with that, and success is (most?) important to them. I've seen hugely successful people who act so normal and seem so average that you would never even guess that they were rich or powerful. It just wasn't priority for them.

Success isn't a bad thing. It's a great thing! Many people are naturally bent toward leadership or gifted in their field. But I don't need a man to lead with that. If it's TOO important to them, there could be issues down the road when you need them to just be a husband or a father to your kids, or something else besides successful career-wise.

 

[Susanna]

1. This is just silly.

True.

The OP is using the word "success" to refer to money,
and it doesn't necessarily even refer to money at all.

No, I'm using the word success, money is an interpretation you made, but I can understand why you did that.

Any man who walks with God is a success...
whether he's rich or poor.

How can you dislike a man like that?

I don't.

 

[kayem77]

It depends on how we define success, as others have pointed out. Anything can be used as a mask (or makeup, whatever analogy you want to use). Success, beauty, money, academic status, life experience, preferences, etc. It all comes down to a pride issue. If any of these things define a man, then I would have a problem with it. If they don't, he can be whatever he wants as long as his identity is rooted in Christ first and foremost. Rich, poor, middle class. Those are all of no real value.

As for personal preference, of course I would want someone successful. I want to be successful myself! Why wouldn't I? But that's not what I'm looking for primarily.