I don't really like successful men

[biscuit]

This attitude can be compared with a thread that Artsie had posted about how some people get jealous/bitter against pretty people. If you look at it closely, both these attitudes come out of the same issue - our own insecurities.

@ Roh_Chris,
Excellent point!! I couldn't have said it any better. And to be realistic: there are some women who like weak men who they can control.

 

[biscuit]

Oh, this was a silly thread. My bad. I apologize. I just read the OP and "flew off the handle". <.<



Lay's is 80% air and 20% chips. Now that's the kind of "make up" which I don't like. Why inflate a pack to make it seem like it is stuffed with chips only to find that there are hardly any chips? Oh the nerve to swindle us like that!

I had the cashier laughing when I pointed to a bag of Lay's potato chips and refer it to a "bag of air."

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

 

[biscuit]

Just redirect the traffic with a good post on the topic. It is really the responsibility of the OP to service his or her thread.

 

[seoulsearch]

What if the man isn't covering himself in makeup... but rather... an entire bottle of $3 cologne...

 

[biscuit]

What if the man isn't covering himself in makeup... but rather... an entire bottle of $3 cologne...

LOL!! I have always been myself and never went out to please a woman with expensive attire or habits. Just refused to play the game. For the last couple of decades I have gone without a cell/smart phone, car and live in an average apartment complex.

And I am quite financially secure and could easily afford a Lexus, Mercedes and the live the lavish lifestyle. Nevertheless, I still had some incredible women in my company. I am pretty sure they did a little investigation on me from word of mouth. They are many, many men who have hit hard times because they got caught up in a game that no one wins. Most of them once were on the top of the world and now are nearly dead broke because of some silly game.

 

[seoulsearch]

On a serious note, I really think success has different definitions. To me, a successful person is someone who stays humble, no matter what, is responsible, God-fearing, and doesn't cheat on their significant other.

I am all for someone advancing themselves in life, but what I can't stand is when people start to see their accomplishments, blessings, intelligence, etc. as a means of making themselves superior to other people. If a person (man or woman) starts to see themselves as entitled or automatically above others because of their money, job, degree, whatever... I tend to stay away from such people. I'm glad to have very humble beginnings and I hope I always remember them.

Success also comes with a price. Every financially "successful" person I know has to devote nearly every waking hour to whatever it is that's bringing in their success. I always said I'd never marry a lawyer or doctor because I want to have a relationship with someone who's actually around and isn't on call 24/7. I hope to find someone who isn't married to his job and expects me to be his mistress on the side. (Now of course, I wouldn't be opposed to marrying a doctor or lawyer, per se, but if the person was never there, why bother trying to have a relationship in the first place?)

I had a friend in college whose father made a six-figure income, and because of that, felt he was entitled to do whatever he wanted and get away with it. When he began an affair with his secretary, he came home and announced it to my friend's mother and told her that was just the way it was going to be and he was going to do whatever he wanted. He thought he had her trapped because she had no education and was a stay-at home mom.

This woman promptly told him, "Then I will get a job and raise our kids by myself." She left him, took a job, and raised their four daughters by herself, whereas he had little interest in contributing anything towards their girls, whether it be time or money.

I think it's pretty obvious to see who the REAL success of the two parents of this story really is.

 

[JustAnotherUser]

I'll say it - the success is a bonus of a man. Should it be a top priority when finding a man? No. The saying 'money can't buy love' has truth to it unless you want to be miserable with someone you were never attracted to other than the possessions he holds. As long as he isn't so lazy where the spouse is the only one willing to try while he makes no effort unless there's a legitimate reason. Same for women unless it's agreed and can afford that she should be a stay at home mom or whatever.

Being honest and I come from a home where both parents worked for the majority of my childhood. I wouldn't mind working or aim for my own success without a man by my side. I have family members that married into fortune, can't say if all had such motive and the ones that had I never liked anyway.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

It seems like a cruel irony to assume that someone that falls under what's considered to be one of the shallow or one dimensional forms of success (e.g, financial success) must also be shallow or one dimensional in their character. I find prejudice about as shallow as materialism.

 

[Lynx]

Well I don't know about "success", but a guy who is too polished and smooth with his lines will instantly set my alarm bells off. Better to be your awkward self than to come across as a guy who is expert at picking up or seducing women.

I dunno... Sometimes it's the awkward ones you have to watch out for.

 

[sassylady]

I wouldn't want to marry a man who made great money if there was nothing else good going in his life. There are far more areas of success than his job/money.

I dated a man who had a very successful business, but I could not imagine him ever being happy just spending a Saturday evening at home grilling burgers and watching tv. He always had to be doing something, going somewhere, buying something, eating out, etc. He would not have been much fun if he didn't have his money, he would have been a very miserable person. Not worth it even though it is no fun to not have any extra.

 

[Relena7]

What if the man isn't covering himself in makeup... but rather... an entire bottle of $3 cologne...

I think I'd prefer a heavy smoker..... or a skunk.

 

[JustAnotherUser]

This woman promptly told him, "Then I will get a job and raise our kids by myself." She left him, took a job, and raised their four daughters by herself, whereas he had little interest in contributing anything towards their girls, whether it be time or money.

I think it's pretty obvious to see who the REAL success of the two parents of this story really is.

Good on that woman, not all women tend to defend themselves if they don't see such a way out, unfortunately.

I hate those types who think they're better due to their success as well. If a man tries to show off and tend to 'better things' than those he loves then that's a turn off in of itself. Disgusting is more like it in this story, though.

 

[maxwel]

Okay, we've had a thread on guys liking or not liking girls wearing make up or not. Let's play this game the other way around. I'm sure men too has got a lot of "make up" to cover their flaws with. It's just aint called make up. Men's make up is, the way I see it, success. And ladies...would y'all go for the man wearing his "make up" or would y'all go for the guy not wearing any of it...and dishonesty here is a total no go.

1. This is just silly.

2. As Loverneverfails said, the word "success" is just way too BROAD, it can mean virtually anything.

3. The bible never tells men to go around trying their best to be UNSUCCESSFUL.

4. If you want to get really biblical, we are actually TOLD TO STRIVE FOR SUCCESS...
but we are to do it by putting God first, and being successful according to HIS word and HIS values.
(But God never says to try really hard to NOT make money.)
Joshua 1:8
"This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success."

The Bible commands us to work hard at whatever we do.
If, in the process of doing that, you make a little money...
that is a sin?
No.
Sorry.
It's just not.

If you don't like men who "SHOW OFF" their money,
or if you don't like men who "PUT THEIR TRUST IN THEIR MONEY"...
that's biblical.
That's fine.
But there isn't anything wrong with having SUCCESS.
And success can be measured many different ways.


The OP is using the word "success" to refer to money,
and it doesn't necessarily even refer to money at all.


Any man who walks with God is a success...
whether he's rich or poor.

How can you dislike a man like that?

 

[AnnaBou]

I would only like a successful man. Not a failure. A successful Doctor saves lives, a successful policeman solves crimes, a successful businessman makes money and employs people. It is very silly to be against people who do well and say we should all give help to the people who aren't very good.

 

[Oncefallen]

Lay's is 80% air and 20% chips. Now that's the kind of "make up" which I don't like. Why inflate a pack to make it seem like it is stuffed with chips only to find that there are hardly any chips? Oh the nerve to swindle us like that!

Just write a nice letter to Frito Lay explaining that you much prefer you bag of chips to be little more than crumbs when you purchase them. That's the primary reason behind an inflated bag, it helps keep the chips from getting crushed.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Just write a nice letter to Frito Lay explaining that you much prefer you bag of chips to be little more than crumbs when you purchase them. That's the primary reason behind an inflated bag, it helps keep the chips from getting crushed.

Thanks Oncefallen. I learned something today!

 

[Ugly]

I'm unsuccessful in every way. So i must be a real catch!

 

[Lynx]

I would only like a successful man. Not a failure. A successful Doctor saves lives, a successful policeman solves crimes, a successful businessman makes money and employs people. It is very silly to be against people who do well and say we should all give help to the people who aren't very good.

And a successful lynx stays in his tree when noisy humans come tramping through his forest, and remains hidden from view as they go on their merry way oblivious to the furred death that is camouflaged above their heads.

 

[Desdichado]

I would only like a successful man. Not a failure. A successful Doctor saves lives, a successful policeman solves crimes, a successful businessman makes money and employs people. It is very silly to be against people who do well and say we should all give help to the people who aren't very good.

It's women like this that keep the world turning.