If A Woman Isn't Married By Age 50, Will She Be Alone Forever?

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Calmador

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Seoulsearch, I know you probably heard this before but just care about age less. I think you mentioned before that younger guys hit on you. If a guy is around 30 years old. I imagine you two might be on the same maturity level. Why not dat a 55 year old guy? I mean I think it would matter more if you were 12 and the guy was 25 but as an adult... I think age differences matters less. I think most people see age as a hint at maturity or compatibility.
 
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biscuit

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Seoulsearch, I know you probably heard this before but just care about age less. I think you mentioned before that younger guys hit on you. If a guy is around 30 years old. I imagine you two might be on the same maturity level. Why not dat a 55 year old guy? I mean I think it would matter more if you were 12 and the guy was 25 but as an adult... I think age differences matters less. I think most people see age as a hint at maturity or compatibility.
Some women don't like older guys and prefer to stay single than marry them. And these are the same ones who complain later in life as to why they can't find a man to marry. My sister at 20 married a guy who was 36, and the marriage is still growing stronger after 38 years of marriage. My sister is from the old school of thought.
 
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The mothers of today are a product of the WLM and the feminist mentality, and have abandon the male psyche mentality and installed their own philosophy when it comes to men, and are having major problems attracting, keeping them and getting men to marry them.

I'm sorry... I'm just not seeing so many single women out pining for men to marry them. Less women ARE getting married, because they are able to provide for themselves, but you act like there is this huge mass of lonely women out there who try and try to attract a male but cannot because of other insulting reasons you've listed below.

Mothers don't have to be products of the WLM in order to instill in their daughters the knowledge that they have a choice, and should hold out for a godly man who will love them, and not just marry the first man who expresses an interest. Just because a woman doesn't raise her daughters like cattle to put on the market doesn't mean she's a product of the WLM. A woman's value is more than that. Every single woman on this forum is single because she is NOT desperate. Just about any woman can go out and find a husband if that's all she wants.

I also stated that women today can marry at any age if they can achieve a fine balance with what men want.

I don't even...

The old belifs works and today's beliefs do not. The proof is in the stats.

I'm not sure the stats really tell us anything. They may show what goes on from a legal perspective, but they show nothing that goes on below the surface. Stats don't measure abuse, adultery, dysfunction, common-law marriages, or a million other things. Human nature doesn't change. We are the same, at our core, as we were thousands of years ago. Culture changes, opportunities change, but human nature remains the same, and so we will deal with the same issues and problems no matter what the stats say.

Most of today's women don't take care of their bodies (overweight/obesity) and most men do not like fat women.

My mind just can't comprehend your thought process biscuit. I think the main reason your posts cause so much offense is that you speak so abruptly about what women lack, or need, or have to do to earn this huge "gift" of a man, while seemingly assuming that men themselves are just naturally born with all that they need to find whatever woman they want. What of fat men? Do you believe that women want fat men? (I have a hard time even speaking in this superficial way, sarcastic or otherwise.) Perhaps you are under the illusion that, because it is a man's job to pursue, women will naturally want to be pursued by him. I've not really found this to be the case.

You mentioned earlier that what women want is financial stability. You seem very confident that this is all they really want. I am afraid that simply isn't true. Women don't have to just accept whatever man decides to pursue them so that they will be financially cared for. They have the freedom now to support themselves and marry for love, which includes attraction, which means that men can no longer assume they get the pick of the "litter" when "choosing" a wife.


Sorry, that is a big part of the male psyche. If women don't please the male psyche, it is very unlikely she will ever get married. Maybe they should bring back "shotgun weddings."


A shotgun might not be a bad idea. :cool:

(I kid, I kid...)

 

Misty77

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. . . I think the main reason your posts cause so much offense is that you speak so abruptly about what women lack, or need, or have to do to earn this huge "gift" of a man, while seemingly assuming that men themselves are just naturally born with all that they need to find whatever woman they want. What of fat men? Do you believe that women want fat men? (I have a hard time even speaking in this superficial way, sarcastic or otherwise.) Perhaps you are under the illusion that, because it is a man's job to pursue, women will naturally want to be pursued by him. I've not really found this to be the case. . . .

You seem very confident that this is all they really want. I am afraid that simply isn't true. Women don't have to just accept whatever man decides to pursue them so that they will be financially cared for. They have the freedom now to support themselves and marry for love, which includes attraction, which means that men can no longer assume they get the pick of the "litter" when "choosing" a wife.

^^This and everything else with it was AWESOME. Certifiably among the best counterarguments I've read regarding the subject.

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I am Misty77, and I approve this message. =)
 
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The mothers of today are a product of the WLM and the feminist mentality, and have abandon the male psyche mentality and installed their own philosophy when it comes to men, and are having major problems attracting, keeping them and getting men to marry them.

I'm sorry... I'm just not seeing so many single women out pining for men to marry them. Less women ARE getting married, because they are able to provide for themselves, but you act like there is this huge mass of lonely women out there who try and try to attract a male but cannot because of other insulting reasons you've listed below.

Mothers don't have to be products of the WLM in order to instill in their daughters the knowledge that they have a choice, and should hold out for a godly man who will love them, and not just marry the first man who expresses an interest. Just because a woman doesn't raise her daughters like cattle to put on the market doesn't mean she's a product of the WLM. A woman's value is more than that. Every single woman on this forum is single because she is NOT desperate. Just about any woman can go out and find a husband if that's all she wants.

I also stated that women today can marry at any age if they can achieve a fine balance with what men want.

I don't even...

The old belifs works and today's beliefs do not. The proof is in the stats.

I'm not sure the stats really tell us anything. They may show what goes on from a legal perspective, but they show nothing that goes on below the surface. Stats don't measure abuse, adultery, dysfunction, common-law marriages, or a million other things. Human nature doesn't change. We are the same, at our core, as we were thousands of years ago. Culture changes, opportunities change, but human nature remains the same, and so we will deal with the same issues and problems no matter what the stats say.

Most of today's women don't take care of their bodies (overweight/obesity) and most men do not like fat women.

My mind just can't comprehend your thought process biscuit. I think the main reason your posts cause so much offense is that you speak so abruptly about what women lack, or need, or have to do to earn this huge "gift" of a man, while seemingly assuming that men themselves are just naturally born with all that they need to find whatever woman they want. What of fat men? Do you believe that women want fat men? (I have a hard time even speaking in this superficial way, sarcastic or otherwise.) Perhaps you are under the illusion that, because it is a man's job to pursue, women will naturally want to be pursued by him. I've not really found this to be the case.

You mentioned earlier that what women want is financial stability. You seem very confident that this is all they really want. I am afraid that simply isn't true. Women don't have to just accept whatever man decides to pursue them so that they will be financially cared for. They have the freedom now to support themselves and marry for love, which includes attraction, which means that men can no longer assume they get the pick of the "litter" when "choosing" a wife.


Sorry, that is a big part of the male psyche. If women don't please the male psyche, it is very unlikely she will ever get married. Maybe they should bring back "shotgun weddings."


A shotgun might not be a bad idea. :cool:

(I kid, I kid...)

Spoken like true feminist. I don't see men complaining about marriage ... just women. Many women have given up on marriage and will settle for cohabitation because most men aren't interested. The marriage institution was set up by God is 6000 years old and it works. The feminists' institution of marriage is about 50 years, prompted by Satan and it is a total disaster. Don't blame me, men or God, blame Satan & the feminists for making many women life miserable. It will get worse before it gets better.
 
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kenthomas27

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Grace hates a flogging rooster...

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biscuit

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This is the first time I have ever been labeled a feminist. Hahaa... if you knew me you would laugh too...
Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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This is the first time I have ever been labeled a feminist. Hahaa... if you knew me you would laugh too...
I was actually going to reply and say "grace a feminist? lol"......but you beat me to it :(
 
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Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.

no no, i think you are confused here. misogyny is anti-God.
 

Misty77

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Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.
My identity as an authentic (not to be confused with new wave) feminist had nothing to do with your misogynistic diatribe.
 
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kayem77

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Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.
Sorry to interrupt your rant against women, but I didn't see Grace saying anything anti-God, however I did see you making false generalizations about her and women in general, whom God created. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but you are not entitled to make offensive remarks whenever someone disagrees with you.
 
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biscuit

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Maybe he's getting us mixed up? lol
LOL!! no mix up here. A woman doesn't have to be a feminist to embrace feminism, instead if she embrace it in everyday life, she is feminist. Most American women embrace the feminists' ideology and value, and it took the men awhile to see this and they have changed their values, ideology & beliefs toward women in general. This is why most American men won't get married for fear of being taken to the cleaner in a divorce.
 
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Definition of misogyny in English: Oxford Dictionary


misogyny

Syllabification: mi·sog·y·nyPronunciation: /məˈsäjənē
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NOUN


  • Dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women:she felt she was struggling against thinly disguised misogyny


    (in this case it is not thinly disguised; and i doubt, as Jesus appeared to Mary Magdalene first out of all other possible people after his resurrection, that God is in any way misogynistic ...therefore i count hatred of women as being a sort of anti-Christ/anti-God, in my opinion.)
 
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Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.
Show a little more respect to Grace biscuit. She's been nothing but kind and respectful around here.....and calling her anti-God is a blatant insult.
 
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Sorry to interrupt your rant against women, but I didn't see Grace saying anything anti-God, however I did see you making false generalizations about her and women in general, whom God created. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but you are not entitled to make offensive remarks whenever someone disagrees with you.
At 21 y.o. you wouldn't have a clue as to what feminism is because you didn't live in the era and watch the destruction.
 

Misty77

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LOL!! no mix up here. A woman doesn't have to be a feminist to embrace feminism, instead if she embrace it in everyday life, she is feminist. Most American women embrace the feminists' ideology and value, and it took the men awhile to see this and they have changed their values, ideology & beliefs toward women in general. This is why most American men won't get married for fear of being taken to the cleaner in a divorce.
Interesting note: THIS feminist was taken to the cleaners by her ex husband. He emptied the retirement/savings accounts, threatened me into agreeing to half of the minimal legal amount of child support, and left me with debt and left overs from his hording. That's kinda what launched me into embracing the ideology of original feminists: recognizing that in some cases women are victimized simply because of their gender and that all people are deserving of equal treatment under the law.
 
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biscuit

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Show a little more respect to Grace biscuit. She's been nothing but kind and respectful around here.....and calling her anti-God is a blatant insult.
Acknowleged, but I standby everything I stated on this thread 100%.
 

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Your beliefs & ideology are anti-God because you are rejecting the institution of marriage and the notion that men are given the authority to rule by Him. Misty was preaching basically the same doctrine you are, and I called her a feminist. She was "woman enough" to admit it on CC. You won't.
and your logic for calling me a feminist and suggesting that i should check out the LGBT boards, all because i was pointing out the obvious flaws of men buying wives overseas (or rather the services to accomplish such)?

your dime store assessment of me and other women here tells me a lot about the filter you're using.

i mean no disrespect when i say not all women fall into two camps:

1. agrees with biscuit
2. feminists

most women i know can easily see that there are many different kinds and flavors of men. and that is also true for women.

please stop lumping us all into the same group you constantly reference who took your poor married friends' money in their divorces and are money hungry woman running roughshod over every many in our path.

i've refrained from the many labels you've conjured in my mind. i would expect you to do the same, especially since you clearly don't know me at all.
 
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