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Jullianna

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AsifinPassing said:
Roger! Ace True Wilco!

To le Menz: Consider reasons why women did or did not do something. (*remember she cares about feelings...) Adjust accordingly.

To la Ladies: Remember that men don't really care nearly as much about feelings, in general, so you actually have to 'speak to him' in semi-easy to understand words and phrases. (*remember that they really have no idea what you're thinking or feeling...most of the time) Try your best to be objective and logical.
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gotcha................ :)
 
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Jullianna

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adekruif said:
I'm sure your right, sounds like us guys just need to be educated on such matters.


*picks up copy of ladies handbook*
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That's what we're here for, brother. Just ask. :)
 
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Catlynn

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Yep. We ladies like answering questions. ^_^

Jullianna, I laughed because your entire first post in this thread echos in my mind often. :p

I'm soooo not a dainty flower. lol
 
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Hellooo

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I may dress like a lady, but I'm far from dainty, delicate, fragile, or any similar adjectives. I'm probably a tad (lol) aggressive...offline, I'm pretty quiet, but definitely not shy about admitting my feelings, my lack of feelings, or calling bs on games. Who's got time to waste on all that mess?
 
sanglina

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adekruif said:
It's been documented many times that guy's don't pick up on the little hints or signals that ladies give. So then why do women keep trying to give us signals when we clearly don't talk that language?
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May sound odd but I think the opposite is true in my case as I have often been told so time and again by my friends (even by my male friends).
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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adekruif said:
Ok, but somewhere along the way you hafta realize we aren't getting it, no? I'm almost 100% sure I'm missing hints right now....which is why I made this thread. Ooh, well I guess I'm doomed!
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if you feel like your missing hints instead of being all waah waaah im doomed, why dont you just be direct with her.
Just say look i feel like im missing something here and i dont want to.

Dont get frustrated with her for not being direct if your not willing to do the same.
 
Oncefallen

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adekruif said:
I'm sure your right, sounds like us guys just need to be educated on such matters.


*picks up copy of ladies handbook*
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Don't bother, they'll just edit it within a week making your copy null and void. :D

Jullianna I definitely can understand a woman not asking for specific things out of respect for her man especially if she thinks it would be out of his budget. Of course there are some of us men that actually enjoy splurging from time to time for an exceptionally nice restaurant. We may choke when we get the check, but it's well worth it IMO.
 
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Ugly

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Jullianna said:
adekruif, Have you tried asking questions?

Women are more comfortable honestly answering questions than they are initiating certain topics, particularly if they feel a guy might not respond favorably or the situation might become awkward.

EXAMPLE: Ugly was talking about a woman coming right out and saying that she wants to go to a certain restaurant.

Most women won't do that and the main reason is that she doesn't know whether he can afford it or not, and doesn't want to make him feel badly if he can't. He and his feelings are more important to her than eating at a restaurant. They also don't know whether or not he will be offended if the woman offers to split the bill or even treat HIM to dinner.

She doesn't ask out of RESPECT for her man.
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But if you read, you'll see mostly i'm referring to the position of a married couple, not casual daters. So the concept of being able to afford it or not should already be known, so that's no reason. Same with who's picking up the check. So, sorry, that argument doesn't work in context of my examples previously.
 
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adekruif

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PopClick said:
Put that book down. You'll be scarred for life! :eek:
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Too late!

NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
if you feel like your missing hints instead of being all waah waaah im doomed, why dont you just be direct with her.
Just say look i feel like im missing something here and i dont want to.

Dont get frustrated with her for not being direct if your not willing to do the same.
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Honestly I haven't asked her cause i'm still trying to figure out what's going on. Definitely the first time I've been in this type of situation, just trying to sort things out and not get anyone hurt. :)

Oncefallen said:
Don't bother, they'll just edit it within a week making your copy null and void. :D
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Unless you have connections! 0_o
 
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Jullianna

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Ugly said:
But if you read, you'll see mostly i'm referring to the position of a married couple, not casual daters. So the concept of being able to afford it or not should already be known, so that's no reason. Same with who's picking up the check. So, sorry, that argument doesn't work in context of my examples previously.
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Why is an argument necessary? :confused: Can't we simply feel free to express opinions without arguing with one another?

I did read your post in its entirety, but my post was in response to direct questions from the OP and in the context of the OP's situation. Since you brought up the restaurant thing, it was the first thing that came to mind, that's all. :)
 
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simplyme_bekah

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I don't give signals, I speak my mind and say what I mean and say what I want.
 
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FireWire

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I don't see how or why body language is an effective means of communicating in this context. It can be easily misinterpreted then said people would have to start TALKING to clear it up.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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I can state emphatically that I am NOT clarivoyant. Secret cues, body language, expected ESP abilities, and pig latin aren't going to work. Best to just tell me what needs to be communicated.
 
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Ugly

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Jullianna said:
Why is an argument necessary? :confused: Can't we simply feel free to express opinions without arguing with one another?

I did read your post in its entirety, but my post was in response to direct questions from the OP and in the context of the OP's situation. Since you brought up the restaurant thing, it was the first thing that came to mind, that's all. :)
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You can't take two posts, that have different contexts, and combine them and expect no response. My post very specifically stated marriage, and you referred to my post specifically. But out of the context i wrote it, thereby changing what i said. Also, it appears to discredit what i said because it took my meaning out of context and made it look wrong.
 
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Jullianna

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Ugly said:
You can't take two posts, that have different contexts, and combine them and expect no response. My post very specifically stated marriage, and you referred to my post specifically. But out of the context i wrote it, thereby changing what i said. Also, it appears to discredit what i said because it took my meaning out of context and made it look wrong.
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Sorry you feel that way, but, again, I'm not interested in arguing about it. We simply disagree about some things and I don't have a problem with that.
 
AsifinPassing

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Dude...don't even start, okay?


I had a girl who used to chase me down and harass me on the playground about marring me...

...and then to bring things full circle, we became friends later on in school, and she didn't like me anymore when I was considering her...Lol!
 
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