If Women Look to Solve "Daddy Issues" With a Husband, What Happens If a Man Has "Mommy Issues?" (Hagmaxxing?)

[CommodoreTeach]

Hey Everyone,

I was listening to a video about the apparently popular current trend of "Hagmaxxing" -- younger men who purposely seek out older women for dating and relationships.

The video I listened to talked about examples such as 22-year-old men dating 35-year-old women (in this video, "hags" were often seen as women being 30 years and older) and "maxxing" out the great life they imagined it would be -- playing video games on the couch while their hagmaxx brings them freshly microwaved plates of "chicken tendies" all afternoon.

As much as this made me shake my head, it also got me thinking.

A great topic, Seoulsearch! I laughed as I'd never heard this word before, and I now will be looking for opportunities to test it out in conversation! Thanks!

 

[seoulsearch]

Being a hag I really don’t want to hear the answer.

Lol!

20 points for honesty!

And, being a fellow hag (hag-ette?!), I didn't want to know the answer either!

But you know what they say about curiosity... Except that in this case, I guess it kills off the hags instead of the cats.

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Being a hag I really don’t want to hear the answer.

And, being a fellow hag (hag-ette?!), I didn't want to know the answer either!

Just as an FYI, "hag" is a highly pejorative term which means more than just an older woman. If one studies the etymology of the word, then it really is describing a witch.

https://www.etymonline.com/search?q=hag

hag (n.)

early 13c., "repulsive old woman" (rare before 16c.), probably from Old English hægtes, hægtesse "witch, sorceress, enchantress, fury," shortened on the assumption that -tes was a suffix. The Old English word is reconstructed to be from Proto-Germanic *hagatusjon, which is of unknown origin. Dutch heks, German Hexe "witch" are similarly shortened from cognate Middle Dutch haghetisse, Old High German hagzusa.

The first element probably is cognate with Old English haga "enclosure, portion of woodland marked off for cutting" (see hedge (n.)). Old Norse had tunriða and Old High German zunritha, both literally "hedge-rider," used of witches and ghosts. The second element in the prehistoric compound may be connected with Norwegian tysja "fairy; crippled woman," Gaulish dusius "demon," Lithuanian dvasia "spirit," from PIE *dhewes- "to fly about, smoke, be scattered, vanish."

One of the magic words for which there is no male form, suggesting its original meaning was close to "diviner, soothsayer," which were always female in northern European paganism, and hægtesse seem at one time to have meant "woman of prophetic and oracular powers" (Ælfric uses it to render the Greek "pythoness," the voice of the Delphic oracle), a figure greatly feared and respected. Later, the word was used of village wise women.

Haga is also the haw- in hawthorn, which is an important tree in northern European pagan religion. There may be several layers of folk etymology here. Confusion or blending with heathenish is suggested by Middle English hæhtis, hægtis "hag, witch, fury, etc.," and haetnesse "goddess," used of Minerva and Diana.

If the hægtesse once was a powerful supernatural woman, it might originally have carried the hawthorn sense. Later, when the pagan magic was reduced to local scatterings, it might have had the sense of "hedge-rider," or "she who straddles the hedge," because the hedge was the boundary between the civilized world of the village and the wild world beyond. The hægtesse would have a foot in each reality. Even later, when it meant the local healer and root collector, living in the open and moving from village to village, it may have had the mildly pejorative Middle English sense of hedge- (hedge-priest, etc.), suggesting an itinerant sleeping under bushes. The same word could have contained all three senses before being reduced to its modern one.

I am admittedly a bit of a word-nerd, even as I have said before, but words do mean something.

I know that some comments here were meant in a light-hearted way, but just be careful how you self-identify.

 

[CommodoreTeach]

Just as an FYI, "hag" is a highly pejorative term which means more than just an older woman. If one studies the etymology of the word, then it really is describing a witch.

I don't think witch is implied anymore than someone confessing to being "gay" is saying he is happy. Words do change meaning with time - I don't really agree with it, but it is true.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Hagmaxxing

"
Hagmaxxing

Hagmaxxing (or hagmaxxer) is a phrase which refers to age-gap relationships, more specifically, a younger man dating a much older woman.
Guy 1: Is Ted really dating a 35 year old woman?
Guy 2: Yeah, he's totally hagmaxxing.
by Jolly Jay July 3, 2024
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[seoulsearch]

Just as an FYI, "hag" is a highly pejorative term which means more than just an older woman. If one studies the etymology of the word, then it really is describing a witch.

https://www.etymonline.com/search?q=hag

hag (n.)

early 13c., "repulsive old woman" (rare before 16c.), probably from Old English hægtes, hægtesse "witch, sorceress, enchantress, fury," shortened on the assumption that -tes was a suffix. The Old English word is reconstructed to be from Proto-Germanic *hagatusjon, which is of unknown origin. Dutch heks, German Hexe "witch" are similarly shortened from cognate Middle Dutch haghetisse, Old High German hagzusa.

The first element probably is cognate with Old English haga "enclosure, portion of woodland marked off for cutting" (see hedge (n.)). Old Norse had tunriða and Old High German zunritha, both literally "hedge-rider," used of witches and ghosts. The second element in the prehistoric compound may be connected with Norwegian tysja "fairy; crippled woman," Gaulish dusius "demon," Lithuanian dvasia "spirit," from PIE *dhewes- "to fly about, smoke, be scattered, vanish."

One of the magic words for which there is no male form, suggesting its original meaning was close to "diviner, soothsayer," which were always female in northern European paganism, and hægtesse seem at one time to have meant "woman of prophetic and oracular powers" (Ælfric uses it to render the Greek "pythoness," the voice of the Delphic oracle), a figure greatly feared and respected. Later, the word was used of village wise women.

Haga is also the haw- in hawthorn, which is an important tree in northern European pagan religion. There may be several layers of folk etymology here. Confusion or blending with heathenish is suggested by Middle English hæhtis, hægtis "hag, witch, fury, etc.," and haetnesse "goddess," used of Minerva and Diana.

If the hægtesse once was a powerful supernatural woman, it might originally have carried the hawthorn sense. Later, when the pagan magic was reduced to local scatterings, it might have had the sense of "hedge-rider," or "she who straddles the hedge," because the hedge was the boundary between the civilized world of the village and the wild world beyond. The hægtesse would have a foot in each reality. Even later, when it meant the local healer and root collector, living in the open and moving from village to village, it may have had the mildly pejorative Middle English sense of hedge- (hedge-priest, etc.), suggesting an itinerant sleeping under bushes. The same word could have contained all three senses before being reduced to its modern one.

I am admittedly a bit of a word-nerd, even as I have said before, but words do mean something.

I know that some comments here were meant in a light-hearted way, but just be careful how you self-identify.

I've always known "hag" to be an extremely negative term -- basically an older woman who is the embodiment of everything undesirable, negative, and sometimes downright evil.

I've been called a lot of things in life -- "hag" is the least of my worries. Lol!

(And I tend not to worry too much about the other things, either.)