If You Were Married...

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tourist

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You are blessed! Lord willing Iโ€™ll have that in my future as well.. to give and receive.
Jesus did say that He wants us to have life and have it more abundantly so this may be part of the abundant living that Jesus referred to. A wonderful wife is probably the best blessing that you will receive in your lifetime. It is certainly true in my case as well.
 

BrotherMike

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Jesus did say that He wants us to have life and have it more abundantly so this may be part of the abundant living that Jesus referred to. A wonderful wife is probably the best blessing that you will receive in your lifetime. It is certainly true in my case as well.
Hold that close to your heart and never let that go. I totally agree a wonderful wife and to be wanted is the best blessing.
 

tourist

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nobodys saying you cant have a house or pool or dog if you are not married. Its just more likely the house is rented, the pool is public and the dog is a stray.
In my second marriage I had the rented house, private pool and two dogs.

I can't recommend the pool as it is high maintenance and the chemicals relatively expensive. I had the house and pool before I was married. I never used the pool but would still have to clean it every day, and swimming to the bottom of the 10 foot deep pool to gather the leaves and twigs that had fallen in. Since I was alone if I had problems I might have drowned. I finally gave up and the pool turned into a swamp.

Once I was married I had to periodically drain the water and scrub the algae off the sides with a brush and a bottle of Clorox bleach. Too much work for so little enjoyment. I enjoyed the two dogs that we eventually got though. Their names were Lilo an Stitch.
 

Encouragement

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Hold that close to your heart and never let that go. I totally agree a wonderful wife and to be wanted is the best blessing.
Amen..the bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing (prob 18:2)..so it means that a wife is a "good thing" in a general sense...yet funny though that a wife is a woman who becomes a wife by way of her status of being married...same as that of a husband too.
Yet it's the quality of the woman/man that defines if they are a good wife or good husband..coz we all know there are bad wives/husband..so you are bless to find a good woman/man who in will naturally make a great wife/husband..

"Blessed is any man/woman who is married to a good husband/wife..."๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š
 

Lanolin

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I think a good wife is a happy wife.

The same as with a good husband. Its really draining to be around someone who complains all the time.

When things arent ideal it helps to have a sense of humour I think, rather than reach for the whine.

I have observed that though poor couples can struggle, they keep together for families sake, richer couples have more to lose but find it easier to separate, maybe cos they are not so financially dependent on each other.

A lot of people, especially young people, simply marry in order to leave home...they dont want to stay there, maybe they dont get on with their parents at all, and someone comes with a proposal or better offer of a home than they already have. At first you wonder why they got married to someone so unsuitable who maybe doesnt even like them. But then you look at their family life and background and then you can put two and two together.
 
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I want to be in a relationship where we both mutually respect and support each other. We don't tear each other down and talk trash. We treat each other with respect. We support and encourage each other, rather than giving into insecurity and feeling the need to pull someone down for the sake of control. I would want her to succeed, and I'd do all I can to support her. I expect the same in return.