If you're not meeting people online..........

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Ancilla

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Ok, I can't sleep, my head is pounding. Anyway, so like I said (well you said first), I think that going from church to church to meet people is a terrible idea. I don't mean to make generalizations about God's will but I don't think God ever wants us to go from church to church (unless you're a guest preacher), He wants us to find a church and then make a commitment to it, and the number of possible guys to date at a church should not be the main draw in choosing your home church. So, since you are pretty clear about the right reasons to go to church it's ironic that people are telling you to go to church for the wrong reasons because meeting guys at church seems like a better idea than meeting guys on-line.

So what I'm saying to you, Minnesotablu, is that you need to find a copy of How to Get a Date Worth Keeping, by Dr. Henry Cloud. He's a very respected Christian psychologist, and that book really changed my life. I recomend that book for almost every Christian single. It's not for teenagers, and it's not for people who are being called to not date right now for whatever reason, but it's for everyone else. It not only got me dating, but it really changed my view on just the whole perspective I had before on how I go about meeting the right person. See, I've read some great advice on how to recognize the right one, and what to do when you have the right person, how to make your relationship grow and whether or not your ready for marriage and whatnot, and I've read some great advice on how to prepare yourself while you're single, but for the longest time I had no idea how to get the right guy in front of me. That's because a lot of books skip that step because they believe God just "brings" the right person to you and if He hasn't He must want you to be single. Well, it's hard to justify that with the Bible.

Anyway, I'm going to go back to bed. Good night.
 
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xspinningisfun

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I meet interesting people on the bus, and at school.
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me too. i get hit on by old stinky men too...which isn't pleasant.
 
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Lil_warrior

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lol that's funny :p i meet people... um hmmm idk when...
 
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xspinningisfun

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No, it's not funny.
It's disturbing.
haha.
 
opulentwoman

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BIG_RED_5891 said:
i dont know about your town but my city has several christian coffeshop like places...thats always a good place to meet people...
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OH how I wish we had places like that in London.......to have a christian coffee shop would be unpolitically correct...as London is so 'down' on Christianity and more tolerant of other faiths..... I would love to be able to socialise at such a venue........

I dream of opening a coffee shop like that one day or another social venue for christians and their non-christian friends.......hmmmmm
 
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Aedin

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I'll just say this real fast before I get back to class. For almost my whole life, I worried about meeting the right girl for me, and since I'm in college, I'd always think like "if I take this class at this time, what if I meet the girl in this class, and if I take the same class at a different time, I'll totally miss her?" And eventually, I realized, if someone is the one for you, you'll be similar enough that if you just do your own thing, go wherever you want to go, chances are, you'll meet them.

What I'm trying to say is, find a church you like, because you like it, not because you hope to meet a potential date there. If the one for you is as similar as they probably should be, chances are they'll be drawn to that same church for their own reasons.
 
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Ancilla

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See, I've read over and over again to join gyms and/or take hobby classes or whatever in an attempt to meet people. Well, I don't like the idea of going places to meet people that aren't intended to be a meet market. I mean, like I said before, I'd be open to meeting guys where ever I go, but I'm not going to somewhere specifically to meet people. Like, I'm thinking of taking up ballet. It's something I've always wanted to do that I never got to do when I was a child. It would work on my posture and core stability, which are things that I really need to work on. But, I'm thinking that my chances of meeting a guy (any guy, let alone dateable) at an adult beginner ballet class are pretty much nil (not that I mind that because I am seeing someone right now, but that's not the point). If I were to take a different kind of class (and I only have the time and money to do one) where I think I'd have a better chance of meeting guys and then there weren't any guys in such class, would drop I class? See, this is why I think there is such a discrepancy between what seems like good advice on meeting people and what works in reality. This is why I'm such a fan of Internet dating. It's so effiencent.

If you've never been out of school, I think it might be hard to appreciate how hard it is to meet people. When I was in college, I was meeting guys all the time. BUT, I knew that it wasn't the right time for a serious relationship. Then later, when I was working, I wasn't meeting anyone. Minnesotablu, you say that you don't meet anyone at work because you're a nanny. I hear you!!! All my co-workers are women. The only men I encounter at work are the fathers of the kids that I work with.

Now, as for a Christian coffeshop where you can meet other people, well, I think that's great!! I would love to go to such a place. And for me it wouldn't even be about meeting single guys, and not just because I have a boyfriend, but because I also like meeting all kinds of Christians my age, including girls and guys that aren't single. The problem is that Big Red's hometown where all these cafes are is an 11 hour drive from me. Is there such a place where I live? I doubt it. But even if there was, I don't know how I'd go about finding it. Opulentwoman said that there isn't a place like that in London. Well, Greater London has a population of 7.5 million people, it's the largest metropolitan area in the EU, but I believe it. I heard that more people in England go to mosque than to church. Because Christianity used to be the state religion, I think people there probably think of Christianity as being archaic. So a Christian cafe would be insensitive to the immagrent masses.
 
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Ancilla

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I mean, I get that here, with all the immigrants it's insensitive to be so pro-Christian. There are two things that make me nuts about that. First of all... Ok, first of all, I imagine that such cafes would not be be exclusive to Christians. So, it's not like "restricted" clubs (which I think are now illegal) that do not permit Black and Jewish people. It would be like "this is a place to meet Christians, if you are not a Christian and want to meet Christians, you are welcome to join us." But anyway, I have to say two things about western countries being anti-Christian and saying it's because they want to be sensitive to immigrants, even though it's totally off topic. First of all, my mom teaches English as a second language, and she says that her students are not anti-Christian at all. All they want is for people to be tolerant of their religions. So my mom has a Christmas party every year, but she doesn't serve food if it falls during Ramadan. Her students are cool with that because they know that even though Christmas has Christian origins* most secular Canadians celebrate it too. Secondly, not everyone who immigrates to Canada (or England for that matter) observe religions other than Christianity. I know that lots of immigrants to the UK are from India (which you guys must love because they can make that yummy food.) well there are lots of Christians in India. Who's to say that some of them don't end up in England. When I was young I had lots and lots of friends that were Asian. I had one friend who's family subscribed to various superstitions, but I think that's as far as their relgious observance went, but the rest of my Asian friends that weren't secular were Christian. In fact, we had a Christian club in high school, and about 75% of the members had parents born in Hong Kong or South Korea, I'm not even exagerating. At one point there were only 3 white guys in the club. Isn't that crazy? A school of 2000 students, and only three white guys would fess up to being Christians.** But how's this for curious: our national anthem mentions God. The British national anthem (which is our royal anthem) had "God" in the title. But in the USA where a guy can't get elected president if he's not a Christian, their national anthem doesn't mention God. Weird, hey?

Anyway, that's very off topic. What I'm trying to say is this: a coffee shop to meet other Christians would be really great.

Good night.

*That's only partly true. I've done a lot of research on Christmas and Christians adopted a pagan holiday to celebrate the birth of Jesus. So people who get "offended" at Christmas trees because they're supposedly Christian should know that people decorating evergreens in December significantly predates the birth of Christ.

**Granted there were pretty much no Catholics at our school. In Canada Catholic school is free, so it's really uncommon to meet a Christian in a public school that isn't Protestant.
 
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Lil_warrior

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WOW, someone was real bored :p
 
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moniquesss

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welll lets see its always easier to meet ppl online butt i meet them at college or on the bus ahaha yes i take the bus im a nervous wreck behind the wheel.. I also meet new ppl at church and well sometimes when me and my friend go for a walk to the store ahah idk its weird....
 
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Ode2asock

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you meet them at Church. annnnndd stuff.
 
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goth4god

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I meet a lot of ppl at concerts! which is really cool as long as they are Christan concerts! lol
 
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navy_fighter

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you guys and girls should just take up a hobby like rock climbing or martial arts or something that involves people thats the best way, im sure you can find groups in your area that share your intrest.
 
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italiansunset

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ok... I know how frusterating this can be. I am a single mother of two teens... both in Christian Schools and one is graduating the other 3 years later, and we live in Vancouver,BC... I am, as is my family dual citizens of italy and Canada, When I 1st logged on I had a hard time making friends online in a Christian chat room where it shouldn't be a problem, so I just read peoples profiles, looked at their albums and if I thought this is someone I would like to have as a friend, I just IM'ed them and added them as friends and if they accepted,,,great if not whatever! I just keep in touch with them online and find out how things are going...it developes rapport and developes and encouages friendships, but sometimes you just have to take the 1st step... try it... don't be afraid... afterall we're all children of Christ and here with a common denominator and that's a love for God! Good Luck... There's alot of great people out there like me, who would love to become your friend!
 
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EmeryChik

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Coffee shops, Church groups, get involved in a young adult group in your church..
 
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Sothy

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well if chk89 or blu were in nevada id buy them an ice cream... but alas.
 
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Nichole-4-Christ

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I joined a sport club also I am a girl guide/scout leader
 
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Abing

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If you're not meeting people online..........
i'd talk to my neighbors :p
 
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vasofragil22

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i know what u mean ... for example I live in peru and there are many people at church good people but not all of them are really believers ..... some people just go because want to spend their time in sometimes ... sometimes im not sure if my friends who are around me are really chirst follower .....
 
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xspinningisfun

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I have met new people when I hang out with friends. When I'm at a friends house, they invite people over and we get to talking. I have made several friends that way. I also meet friends when I go to college. But those friends are usually just classmate buddies. We don't hang outside of class. Except I did meet one of my very good friends in my Math class. But also met some perverted men hahah. But overall, I meet people through friends mostly.

But to tell you the truth, I met two of my very best friends online. We've been best friends since like 2006.
 
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