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With all due respect, the advice was good, so does it really matter how old the poster was? It is true that we shouldn't allow our emotions to draw us away from God's perfect plan. The trick is being patient and open enough to wait for God's timing and recognize when he begins to work. Waiting isn't easy, but it sure beats settling for second best. Perhaps I will feel differently ten years down the road, but I hope not, because staying in His will is worth it.
As to this particular relationship, have you prayed about it, The_boy? (I feel weird calling you that 
) Maybe God wants you to date her, and maybe he doesn't. But I would definitely ask. Do you know if she's a christian? I would definitely ask.
That fact that she left and wants to come back isn't a big deal, sometimes we need to miss something before we realize how much it meant to us. Just make sure you don't trade God's will for a relationship that may or may not last. NEVER SETTLE!!!!!
) Maybe God wants you to date her, and maybe he doesn't. But I would definitely ask. Do you know if she's a christian? I would definitely ask. That fact that she left and wants to come back isn't a big deal, sometimes we need to miss something before we realize how much it meant to us. Just make sure you don't trade God's will for a relationship that may or may not last. NEVER SETTLE!!!!!
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She is a Christian and stronger than myself (to my shame). I say it's an online relationship but I failed to make this clear: While I may not have met her face to face, we text throughout every day. To the point she knows I won't answer between 1 pm and 2 pm because I'm at my fitness class. She knows my "shower time" and doesn't text then. She knows that if she wakes up from a nightmare and wants to talk to me about it that she's welcome to call to talk to me about it. I've seen her with and without make-up (and she is just as beautiful to me either way and yes I know physical appearance isn't everything...I have to remind her of that because she thinks she's fat and clearly isn't) I've seen her cry her make-up off! We've made each other cry... good and bad tears. We started DATING in the last couple months... been the relationship has been there for 5 years. Her friends know me and talk to me and my friends know her (she's more shy than I am which is... kinda sad actually). I was the first person she told when her grandma died and she cried on my shoulder (figuratively speaking). Of all the people in my life that I've known I can HONESTLY say I am closer to her than I am to anyone, including my family. That's part of why this is so difficult for me. I love her. I'd die for her. I'd live for her. She means more to me than I can possibly express in words. When I told her that she was shocked because she is constantly surprised by the long words that come out of my mouth in daily speech. Oh and for those of you who find calling me The_boy awkward, my real name is Greg and I'm find with being called that.
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I felt it necessary to say this so I actually turned my computer on just TO say it. What impresses me and touches me most about her isn't that she's smart, sweet, pretty, kind or any of the qualities MOST people think of immediately... it's that where 99% of people notice my social quirks and shun me, she is drawn to me by them. She accepts me AS I AM: my goofy, clumsy, dorky, angry, depressed, quirky self. I've been myself with her just like I am with anyone else. There's no point in my trying to be anyone BUT myself: they will see me for who I am anyway and if they don't like it they take off then too. She doesn't care that I'm weird...she enjoys it.
Seems like you have things well-in-hand my friend. I'm think'n she broke up because she needed some space for a little while. Give it to her and, as hard as it is, maintain an edge of dispassion. After a few hurtful weeks you'll probably start to notice other women and it will be all good. If she comes back, fine. If she doesn't, you have other options. Speaking from experience, can you tell? lol
Yeah, not to keep things going on another track, but I agree. Age does have an affect, but it should be viewed relative to how wise the particular person already is. People who are 40 tend to be much wiser than they were at 20. The question is how wise were they at 20? That isn't, of course, counting the times when wisdom is lost.
Some people are wise, some people would make others better off by not giving advice. That said, nothing beats a wise person in their 70's.
Yeah, not to keep things going on another track, but I agree. Age does have an affect, but it should be viewed relative to how wise the particular person already is. People who are 40 tend to be much wiser than they were at 20. The question is how wise were they at 20? That isn't, of course, counting the times when wisdom is lost.
Some people are wise, some people would make others better off by not giving advice. That said, nothing beats a wise person in their 70's.