silent in church, according to Paul, yes.
But I assume by "silent treatment" you mean when a (usually a woman) is so pissed off at someone (usually at a man) that she refuses to speak to him, and there is at least 2 flaws with that.
1) If she's giving the silent treatment because she's pissed off then she's the one with the problem (pissed off silent treatment usually results from anger, bitterness, etc)
2) Don't think there are very many people who are upset when given the silent treatment (esp. men) Usually the result is "YEAH! you finally shut up and are leaving me alone"- so it actually kind of backfires.
A verbose woman is usually a sign of something deeper going on. But to discuss all the possibilities, pros and cons of that would really require it's own thread since it would seriously derail this one much more.
But I assume by "silent treatment" you mean when a (usually a woman) is so pissed off at someone (usually at a man) that she refuses to speak to him, and there is at least 2 flaws with that.
1) If she's giving the silent treatment because she's pissed off then she's the one with the problem (pissed off silent treatment usually results from anger, bitterness, etc)
2) Don't think there are very many people who are upset when given the silent treatment (esp. men) Usually the result is "YEAH! you finally shut up and are leaving me alone"- so it actually kind of backfires.
A verbose woman is usually a sign of something deeper going on. But to discuss all the possibilities, pros and cons of that would really require it's own thread since it would seriously derail this one much more.
Had she ever given me "the silent treatment" while we were still married, then I probably would have done a cartwheel...lol (not that it's a funny topic or situation).
My oldest daughter is just the same.
She finally admitted something a few weeks ago.
We (my ex, I, and our children) all went out to dinner, and my daughter accused me, as she's done so many times before, of cutting her off when she is speaking. I politely asked her how long our phone conversations normally last when she's away at college, and she rightly responded that they normally last about 2 1/2 hours. I agreed, and I told her that that's 150 minutes. I then asked her how many of those 150 minutes is she doing the talking, and how many of those 150 minutes am I doing the talking? To my surprise, she gave an honest answer and said that she is talking for 135 of those 150 minutes if not more. That means that she's talking at least 90% of the time...and I'm supposedly "cutting her off".
You can't get a word in edgewise with some people.
One of my sisters is even worse.
Her name literally is "Cathy", and they must have named "Chatty Cathy" after her.
She called me once, and I said "hello".
I didn't get to say another word for the next 90 minutes.
Anyhow, I agree with you when you say that being verbose (but not just with a woman) is a sign of something deeper going on.
I actually have a friend on this forum (don't anybody faint), and she and I used to spend a lot of time talking to each other on the phone. On many occasions, I apologized to her after our conversation was finished because I did most of the talking. For me, I really don't have people to talk to, so I tend to be a bit verbose (some would say long-winded), especially if we're talking about the Lord, when i actually have someone to speak to. I actually nick-named myself "Sandy" (not my real name) which is short for "Mr. Sandman". In other words, I would speak so much to her that I'm surprised that I didn't put her to sleep.
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