Is there meaning to marriage without physical attraction/desire?

[Zi]

I'd rather have a best friend type of marriage than the traditional everyone play their part kind.. I'm not into marriage but I want companionship from a man and if I ever wanted to explore some tingly feeling, I know to be within marriage... Otherwise its a whole new ballgame.. my friends think I've given up but really I just want something more casual.. if that's a thing, great.. if not then I guess I'm solo which will be great as well.

Alright, Im gonna totally open up and get personal about myself here, cuz this is something that I think about alot and would like some guidance on. And of course I would want the help of other Christians : p

But yeah, so uhh... the desire to have physical relations isnt really something I deal with. I mean, its like Im like "ew, yuck!" or anything. But I just dont have those kinda feelings. And I think about that alot, and what the Bible says about marriage and physical relations, and I wonder like... is there a reason for me to be married? Or also like, would anyone feel comfortable being married to someone who feels that way (Im talking Biblical marriage of course).

I get that marriage is more than just relations, and that its about companionship and other junk. And thats my biggest motivation, of course : p Id really like to find that best friend who wants to stick with each other until death. That is very much a desire I feel : p

But, you know, Id like to hear others thoughts. Like, put yourself in that situation, the idea of marrying someone who didnt have those feelings. How do you feel about it? What are your thoughts? Do you believe its even right? Id like to hear whatever it is you think about it : p

 

[JonahLynx]

I'm in a similar position as you, I'm more focused on the companionship part. But biology doesn't just disappear. Based on what I've read in the Bible (Corinthians) it would be wrong, or at least very unwise, to avoid biological desires not just because it puts unnecessary temptation on you but it deprives the rights of your spouse and puts them in the same situation. My understanding of marriage in general is that you aren't there for your own needs but for the other persons'. But as long as it's mutual that seems fine ... but again, it's a burden you're putting on your wife.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

I'm in a similar position as you, I'm more focused on the companionship part. But biology doesn't just disappear. Based on what I've read in the Bible (Corinthians) it would be wrong, or at least very unwise, to avoid biological desires not just because it puts unnecessary temptation on you but it deprives the rights of your spouse and puts them in the same situation. My understanding of marriage in general is that you aren't there for your own needs but for the other persons'. But as long as it's mutual that seems fine ... but again, it's a burden you're putting on your wife.

I like this post : p

And yeah I agree, I would obviously let the person I was with know that part about me pretty early on : p I have thought of that too, its why I asked the question. Theres more that I think about on the topic, but not stuff that I feel comfortable talking about publicly : p But yeah, it would definitely be something that I and any possible spouse would have to talk about ourselves.

 

[JonahLynx]

I like this post : p

And yeah I agree, I would obviously let the person I was with know that part about me pretty early on : p I have thought of that too, its why I asked the question. Theres more that I think about on the topic, but not stuff that I feel comfortable talking about publicly : p But yeah, it would definitely be something that I and any possible spouse would have to talk about ourselves.

Yup I think we have the same train of thought lol. It's hard for me to figure out the right approach because it's all based on hypothetical situations. In other words if you're concerned about whether she will be okay with that mentality, would you be married in the first place? This might not even be an issue to worry about in reality.

In my case I'm trying to figure out if it's "right or wrong" to be attracted to a certain type of personality. I'm thinking it's not because at the end of the day marriage is 100% voluntary according to the Bible. It's possible that whatever constraints we make for ourselves are irrelevant except that we make our chances lower? Just gotta hope that person exists. Okay, gonna stop here before I start musing.