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After reading many of the threads here in the Singles forum, I've been wondering, "Where is all of the encouragement that we need to give?" I see posts that seem to be quite harsh to the men, posted by women. I see posts that are harsh toward the women, posted by men.
No, none of us are perfect, and yes, we are all entitled to our own opinion. Neither issue should be a place where we can decide to judge and condemn others. And while that may not be the intent of any poster, I can see by some of the responses that this is exactly how these posts are taken. I'm not calling any one or two persons out, as we all have made posts where we should have thought more before posting. I just wanted to point out that things seem to be getting a bit, well, unfriendly in some of the threads.
My only real purpose was to offer encouragement to everyone. We could all use a little encouragment, and perhaps instead of passing judgement or making a detailed list of what we don't like about the opposite gender, we could instead say what we do like about the opposite gender. I know I'd much rather here what the guys actually like about women, instead of a list of reasons why women are irritating and how I don't measure up. We are all either single, or have been single. And waiting can be difficult. It's easier to do that when you have friends who will encourage you and care about you in spite of your "flaws" (real or perceived).
Like it or not, we are brothers and sisters. And while siblings fight, we are part of the family of God, and we should be better able to put our differences aside to support each other. I don't know about the rest of you, but this world is mean enough, and I could use my brothers and sisters to offer encouragement (and godly wisdom) while I'm here and I have to put up with the meanness from other places. I love reading many of your posts, and we have some really awesome people here, all with different things to offer. I'm all for a sense of humour, and joking a bit. But there are some serious posts on here as well, that are demeaning, condescending, and just downright rude, with no evidence of humour at all in them. Things seem imbalanced a bit, which is why I wanted to start a thread where we offered encouragement instead.
Just some thoughts, whatever they're worth.
No, none of us are perfect, and yes, we are all entitled to our own opinion. Neither issue should be a place where we can decide to judge and condemn others. And while that may not be the intent of any poster, I can see by some of the responses that this is exactly how these posts are taken. I'm not calling any one or two persons out, as we all have made posts where we should have thought more before posting. I just wanted to point out that things seem to be getting a bit, well, unfriendly in some of the threads.
My only real purpose was to offer encouragement to everyone. We could all use a little encouragment, and perhaps instead of passing judgement or making a detailed list of what we don't like about the opposite gender, we could instead say what we do like about the opposite gender. I know I'd much rather here what the guys actually like about women, instead of a list of reasons why women are irritating and how I don't measure up. We are all either single, or have been single. And waiting can be difficult. It's easier to do that when you have friends who will encourage you and care about you in spite of your "flaws" (real or perceived).
Like it or not, we are brothers and sisters. And while siblings fight, we are part of the family of God, and we should be better able to put our differences aside to support each other. I don't know about the rest of you, but this world is mean enough, and I could use my brothers and sisters to offer encouragement (and godly wisdom) while I'm here and I have to put up with the meanness from other places. I love reading many of your posts, and we have some really awesome people here, all with different things to offer. I'm all for a sense of humour, and joking a bit. But there are some serious posts on here as well, that are demeaning, condescending, and just downright rude, with no evidence of humour at all in them. Things seem imbalanced a bit, which is why I wanted to start a thread where we offered encouragement instead.
Just some thoughts, whatever they're worth.
