just really want a wife, but hardly any Godly women out there

[Peter321]

Why is it always the 18-26 year olds that complain the most about not being married. You'd think it would be the 30+, or 40+.. but not, its the kids barely out of school or still in college that act like all is lost and marriage is no hope.

Don't generalise my species man =D
I know more people this age that just want to have fun and not be engaged in a relationship than people that want to get married at 21 tbh.
It's probably because you're reading the Christian SINGLES forum me thinks.

 

[Mikhal88]

Why is it always the 18-26 year olds that complain the most about not being married. You'd think it would be the 30+, or 40+.. but not, its the kids barely out of school or still in college that act like all is lost and marriage is no hope.

You will be surprised that the newer generations have more virtues than what their parents had since they wish for their lives to not follow the same paths as their parents and want a true happy family. Many know the older generations had less virtues during their time because of the world changing so rapidly and thus people never held steadfast but allowed for the world to direct them. Yes some people today in the younger generations can be worse than the older ones but people's choices in values have changed, for some it is good while others it is bad. And some people still wish to hold to traditional ways and since their hormones are driving them crazy they want to marry for their life to not be sinful, this can be good in some cases but in the end people have actually lost the true values of marriage.

 

[Mikhal88]

Don't generalise my species man =D
I know more people this age that just want to have fun and not be engaged in a relationship than people that want to get married at 21 tbh.
It's probably because you're reading the Christian SINGLES forum me thinks.

I question the heinous ways you thinking of about having fun!

 

[Peter321]

I question the heinous ways you thinking of about having fun!

Like erm, Going to skateparks, going rafting, surfing, skateboarding, photography, travelling... These are all things that are fun to me (and friends) which usually work out better without someone's girlfriend there..

 

[Oncefallen]

Don't generalise my species man =D
I know more people this age that just want to have fun and not be engaged in a relationship than people that want to get married at 21 tbh.
It's probably because you're reading the Christian SINGLES forum me thinks.

Yes, Ugly's comment was a generalization, but a fairly accurate one. Of the people that come into this forum either complaining about never finding a spouse, or making posts that look like they belong on a dating site, the bulk majority of them come from the mentioned age group.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

You will be surprised that the newer generations have more virtues than what their parents had since they wish for their lives to not follow the same paths as their parents and want a true happy family. Many know the older generations had less virtues during their time because of the world changing so rapidly and thus people never held steadfast but allowed for the world to direct them. Yes some people today in the younger generations can be worse than the older ones but people's choices in values have changed, for some it is good while others it is bad. And some people still wish to hold to traditional ways and since their hormones are driving them crazy they want to marry for their life to not be sinful, this can be good in some cases but in the end people have actually lost the true values of marriage.

What planet do you live on?

 

[GreenNnice]

im 21, been saved for 1 year now, and am keen on marriage. i work full time and have a car. i am responsible and have my head screwed on right, everything seems appropriate and responsible for me to persue the next step in life. ever since becoming a christian, ive been on fire for God, always studying the bible, much time in prayer, sharing the gospel with others when i can. but my problem is there just in not a great deal of Godly girls around. Honestly australia dwindles for producing christians, we are a secular nation - plain and simple. yes there may be some godly people out there but they are so hard to find. and if there are professing christian girls in this country they tend to be so wordly and not christian at all.
i am so ready to be married, and really would love the company of a wife.
i honestly just want to focus on God, but its so hard when i also have to combat sexual temptations. i feel that because i am not married, yet trying to keep pure in God's eyes that i am trying to restrain a huge part of what being a 21 yo male is. and it is so hard and distracts me and disencourages me.

please pray that God sends me a Godly wife and soon. im in a great struggle battling thoughts and temptations and feel without intimate companionship. and its not only sex why i want a wife, as i said, its the companionship and intimate love that comes with it.
now i know im gonna get alot of people saying im too young or havent been a christian long enough etc.. but i just need some prayer and some advice would be good for those who are in a similar situation or been through this. thankyou very much for reading. God Bless.

Are you completely, unfailingly trusting in The Lord right now, not giving in to temptation, firmly planted on doing His will for your life perfectly?

Note: I'm not saying you are perfect, we all fail all The time but He in Christ born of God does not sin, 1 John 3:6,9 both tell us. Are you living your life living and walking in Him?


For God''s perfect blessings not only come to those who wait, but to those who wait 'perfectly.'

Wait on Him, and, you will soar and not stop .

 

[bobo]

wouldnt it be better to find a non believer and help her to believe just an idea?

 

[Mikhal88]

Like erm, Going to skateparks, going rafting, surfing, skateboarding, photography, travelling... These are all things that are fun to me (and friends) which usually work out better without someone's girlfriend there..

I hope this is the truth, because normally what the youth consider as fun is sleeping around, clubbing, partying etc. in a non appropriate way.

 

[Peter321]

I hope this is the truth, because normally what the youth consider as fun is sleeping around, clubbing, partying etc. in a non appropriate way.

Your call wether to believe me or not...

 

[Mikhal88]

What planet do you live on?

I was considering the actual thought of posting this comment as it does appear way out of context in today's society. It is a vague statement which does hold truth yet it's expanse is minimal. I hold to what i say and i have read statistic findings which find this to be true. Yet undoubtedly people were more "Christian like" 100 years ago compared to now. I question the sanity of people though today who call themselves Christian because they wish to believe but yet they blaspheme God and His decree.

 

[Mikhal88]

Your call wether to believe me or not...

I do not doubt what you say is true, but i am just saying many people today live like this and say they are Christian and believe there is nothing wrong with the way they live. So it is hard to trust someone unless you really know them. Hypocrites are found most among people who so call themselves Christian, unfortunately this is true.

 

[Mikhal88]

wouldnt it be better to find a non believer and help her to believe just an idea?

This is true as your faith would save the person when you become one, but i am not willing to take someone who has already been so promiscuous in life. The risk you take on this is great and can end with no happy ending.

 

[SoldatChristi]

I'm a bit late to the post but as others have mentioned, wait brother. However, if you feel God is urging you to get married, then don't let what any of us have to say to stop you. It's better to wait and make the right decision than make a hasty one. God knows your heart and knows your desire and He wants to give you the right woman in your life.

Speaking of which, you are from Australia and I do happen to know two very wonderful young ladies (young 20s) who live in that area so there are godly women around. Firstly, though, you need to learn to be the man that the Bible speaks of. Stay blessed.

 

[GreenNnice]

I'm a bit late to the post but as others have mentioned, wait brother. However, if you feel God is urging you to get married, then don't let what any of us have to say to stop you. It's better to wait and make the right decision than make a hasty one. God knows your heart and knows your desire and He wants to give you the right woman in your life.

Speaking of which, you are from Australia and I do happen to know two very wonderful young ladies (young 20s) who live in that area so there are godly women around. Firstly, though, you need to learn to be the man that the Bible speaks of. Stay blessed.

Excellent advice.

Become the Godly guy got wants you to be and THEN (and only then) God MAY if a girl is in His will for you allow that blessing into yor life.

Deny yourself (selfish thinking you NEEDING A GIRL, don't a lot ?) and take up YOUR cross, which is your life following His will, and, no its not saying yur life will be a burden. Follow Him. The Lord leads.

 

[Ritter]

If you are in the real world like you are in here, i can see why you think there are no godly girls in the whole country of australia.


Your 21, you may want a wife, but do you know how to be a husband?? Do you know what it takes to keep a marriage together?

Marriage isn't for the faint of heart. It's not just something you do because you wanna have sex. Your young and hormonal. I say wait

Agreed, but with certain qualifiers. Historically, early teen hormones led to successful marriages because people grew up faster. As evidenced by the OP, we do not grow up in tandem with our bodies.

 

[Crossfire]

Given the name of this thread, I'm sure many women would agree that there are not that many Godly men out there as well. Just because you attend Sunday and Wednesday services doesn't make you Godly. Just because you pray or read your bible a couple times a week doesn't make you Godly either. In fact, if you spend more time thinking about a wife then you do spending more time with the one and only living God then it's obvious as to who your "god" really is.

 

[PopClick]

Given the name of this thread, I'm sure many women would agree that there are not that many Godly men out there as well. Just because you attend Sunday and Wednesday services doesn't make you Godly. Just because you pray or read your bible a couple times a week doesn't make you Godly either. In fact, if you spend more time thinking about a wife then you do spending more time with the one and only living God then it's obvious as to who your "god" really is.

But he must be Godly, because he tells so many other people that they aren't real Christians.

 

[Drawn8]

I would like to weigh in. There have been so many thoughtful comments, but I am a believer of what the Word of God says. Look at the book of beginnings: Gen 2:18,21-22 God said it was not good for man to be alone. It was His intention for a man to be the husband of one wife. In addition, after God formed the woman He presented her unto Him. Adam didn't go looking for a wife, but God provided for Adam's need...a help meet (companion). In your desire to be married, it would be best to seek counciling from your pastor about marriage. As others have said, pray for your future wife, and ask God to reveal who she is. I've heard so many stories of people who received revelation from God about their future wives. In all that you do, seek God and continue to seek Him until you receive an answer. If things don't happen right away, be patient and wait on the Lord. In your waiting, stay busy so that your mind won't be focused on finding a wife. Delight yourself in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart (Psalms 37:4). Keep the faith.

 

[Crossfire]

But he must be Godly, because he tells so many other people that they aren't real Christians.

If you've ever spoken to me in real time then you would know such a statement is far from true. By no means am I trying to point fingers. I simply want people to understand that term "Christian" is far more than some kind of social status or a people group and that according to scripture, to truly be considered a Christian, our relationship with God must be our #1 priority. If not, then we are headed to hell along with the Scribes & the Pharisees.

Again, I'm not trying to point fingers at all, but rather, attempting to accurately represent the biblical standard.

Matthew 16: 24 (Amp)

Then Jesus said to His disciples, If anyone desires to be My disciple, let him deny himself [disregard, lose sight of, and forget himself and his own interests] and take up his cross and follow Me [ cleave steadfastly to Me, conform wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying, also].

Matthew 10: 37-39 (Amp)

37 He who loves [and takes more pleasure in] father or mother more than [in] Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves [and takes more pleasure in] son or daughter more than [in] Me is not worthy of Me; And he who does not take up his cross and follow Me [cleave steadfastly to Me, conforming wholly to My example in living and, if need be, in dying also] is not worthy of Me. Whoever finds his lower] life will lose it [the higher life], and whoever loses his [lower] life on My account will find it [the higher life].