meeting people off the internet?? good or bad?

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Jan 15, 2011
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Well it really depends on the situation and circumstances of the situation (which has been addressed many times on this post). However, getting to know someone online can be quite exciting and intriguing. but the thing to know is be CAUTIOUS, CAREFUL and CONCISE. The the three C's. Be cautious about who you talk to, because alot of people can alter their photos, which is why Skype is a good idea, cause then you at least know that they are not lying when you see them on video. Be careful, because someone can take advantage of the information you give them and wind up being a total creeper. Which leads me to the third C, be concise in what you give out, don't give out your whole life story, personal information, especially your phone number (unless you are absolutely, without a shadow of a doubt that this person is legit). Also above all else, seek God if you are wanting to pursue someone more than a friend, but you only know them from online and over the phone. Just be wise in who you decide to talk to and ultimately meet online. On the bright side, you would be surprised at the most amazing people you can meet and talk to online, some might even fascinate you.
 
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jammii

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faith without believe is like giving yourself problem but once there's present of God in any thing you are about doing it must be succeed.
 
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CameronMMS

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well, when you meet someone over the internet. 1) you want it to be just a friendship cuz that is what it is. 2) if you feel that way then I'd just drop hints and such. 3) if the you like someone over the and the persons has the same like thing for you then just take it slow. ask a lot of questions (a lot) but not anything deep yet. 3) if you both really like eachother and talk about it a lot, them you could maybe tell your family or friends about it (or just one or two people) and you all could talk about it and such. next set a date to meet. 4) set a date to meet to see eachtother and to at least know more about your feelings about eachother and if you two like eachother then what you do is start over again. like get to know eachother again but at a deeper level. 5) pray for guidance. 6) then you can say talk about the person to everybody you know. 7) well I think you get what seven would be...
 
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CameronMMS

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#84
and yes be very careful!
 
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maria3

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#85
just be carefull
 
Jan 18, 2011
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It's bad to pursue online relationships. I have been in a couple over the years and they just amounted to nothing. I recently just got out of one that lasted for almost 3 years. I'm very heartbroken that things didn't work out. Mostly they didn't because of the geographical issues, which is why long distance relationships I feel do not work. Not everybody has the means to catch a plane to anywhere they choose at any time. It's really not a good idea to meet someone you've met online unless they are close to where you live and you are sure you can fully trust them to be fully honest about themselves. If you do meet someone from online, try to meet them in a public place, like a mall food court, or a busy restaurant. Then at least you would have the protection of roving eyes all about you if things turned ugly, you would have witnesses. Or take a close friend or family member with you as well so they can chaperone.

Rule #1: Don't fall for anybody you've never personally met.
Rule #2: Don't fall for anybody you've met only once.
Rule #3: When the jig is up........head for the hills. Say you're sorry things didn't work out and either remain friends or cut the ties.
Rule #4: Don't feel sad about it. Life goes on and so do we. No use crying over spilt milk.
 
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p91

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I am very confused about this issue to be honest. I don't really think online relationships would work for me. The distance would be the biggest issue. Trust is the second concern. How can you trust a person you have never met? I am sure that people in 'real life' can deceive you too, but online relationships have greater risks. Plus, I don't think I would really feel like I am with someone. It would be like going on a date with my laptop every night. On the other hand, If I meet a guy who is every thing I have ever wanted and is just absolutely perfect for me, I wouldn't care even if he lived in Timbuktu. Yeah, Confused.
 
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Meeting someone from the internet can be extremely risky because on the internet, a lot of people can easily lie about their age and their gender and pretend to be someone they are not and lots of times you do not know what they look like in person (many people use fake pictures). If one does plan to meet someone that they talk to on the internet in person (given both parties are over 18), it is best to go to a public place where there are a lot of other people around and where there is a lot of security guards (example: shopping mall). It is very risky and dangerous to arrange to meet at your house or at places where you are alone.
 
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ashleyisafreak

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I'm not going to write a book, but yeah. There are A LOT of creeps, even on this site. If you meet someone and you know they're for real, leave it to God. If it's not meant to be then it won't happen. If you guys being together is what God wants, then He'll make a way. Just go with the flow:)
 
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SaraJoRedlocks

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I think its really hard. Its very easy to only show what you want to over the internet. I don't like it personally. I kinda have issues with trust and trying to have long distance relationships is hard on me. So i've more or less sworn it off.
 
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CheshireCat

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Hi everyone! I guess I'm just sending this out into the void. Here's my problem. I'm having a hard time meeting decent Christian guys. I'm not into the bar scene. I work a lot. When I do go out, all the good ones I find are married. The single guys don't seem to be at church. So, WHERE ARE THEY????
lol Time for church. Talk to you all later.
 

tourist

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Of course you should be careful but after awhile you will have a good sense on who this person is by what they have written in the past. As far as this site is concern most of the residents leave a pretty good paper trail to follow and to help in your determination on whether they are sincere or phony.

I met my late wife on-line many years ago so I speak from experience. I have developed friendships from this site as well. For my own experience I would say that it is good.
 

Roh_Chris

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Why is this post coming back to life after 3 years. :confused: