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I understand what happened with that girl Green Nice, I read your post,
. That's high school and you aren't a grown up yet. My point was if you are an adult and someone asks you out and you're not interested, a mature woman or man would say, no. If you have an interest in the person but would feel more comfortable getting to know them a little more 1st, then you might want to say, well can we meet for coffee and not call it an official date, just getting to know each other. But to say, no, then say oh well I changed my mind, yes. Those are things grown's up shouldn't do to each other.
That's a very high school thing to do, that's just my opinion. I've been in the situation when someone wouldn't let up, when I said, no thanks, I meant no thanks. I'm not attracted to pushy people at all. You can't force someone to have romantic feelings for you. This is all just my opinion though.
That's a very high school thing to do, that's just my opinion. I've been in the situation when someone wouldn't let up, when I said, no thanks, I meant no thanks. I'm not attracted to pushy people at all. You can't force someone to have romantic feelings for you. This is all just my opinion though.
But, and, these may be my greeen brains stringing out their own answer as a 'matter' of fact, but, I still think that even the older , more mature folks, speaking of ladies, want to say 'no' because they simply want to see if the guy is really, really liking them.
I don't see that as a game, she should though, as has been said in this thread, let the guy know , a hint, like, 'I'm busy tonight.'
So, that lets the guy know that he should try another night.
Also, I think, a guy should not just stop the conversation dead in its tracks if she says 'no' to his ask. Keep the conversation going to a natural close, let her know that her saying 'no' does not make you just run off like a chicken with it's head cut off or with your ego so easily crushed. Just shrug when she says 'no' and say , 'hey, talk to you later.'
Either way, I don't THINK that asking a girl out a 2nd time is going to get the girl to go think you are a creepy person, it's the ask AFTER that that will get you into stalker, weird, creepola status. But, what do I know, I am just green and nice