no more dating games

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These things can best be described as dating ideologies, because they have all the worst qualities of political ideologies. Instead of letting things proceed as they would naturally, people have to make all of these strange, artificial constructs for the rest of the world to conform to.

Perhaps this is God's way of safeguarding monogomy. Not only am I morally opposed to being a "playa," once I find a woman who loves and admires me as much as I love and admire her, it would be too much work to go out and try and find another.

I've closed the game board before. I'll continue to do so.
 
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Jullianna

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What's really cool is when the board is closed, but someone has the guts to peek in and yell "HEY! WHATCHA DOIN IN THERE???"
 
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Jullianna

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A precious friend cared enough yesterday to ask in his always caring, but highly NOT TACTFUL (but hysterical) way, "Hey! I saw that thread in the singles forum. That's unlike you. What was THAT all about?" (You know who you are..hugs). :)

You know how you get to the point sometimes when you just want to back away and not think about dating or spending time with the opposite gender? I was kinda at that point when I wrote the heart vs brain thing. I know what I want in a relationship and I'll admit that part of me wants it right now. I can be honest about that because I know I'm not the only one who thinks that, right? :) But my brain knows that rushing things often leads to settling for far less than God's perfect will for us and our lives. It can also distract us from other things that are FAR more important, such as our service for the Lord. Brain just has a difficult time convincing heart of that at times.

Anyway....(sorry about chasing the rabbit)... Brain had settled heart down pretty well and then, out of the blue, a very nice guy came along. He was very different from guys I would normally be attracted to, but the things I admire most: faith, humor, honesty and intelligence became immediately apparent with his first words...

And then the games began...

It was almost as if the guy had some sort of mental scorecard he was checking off. I could tell by the questions he was asking. It was no longer a conversation, but an interview. I suddenly felt that I should have registered with Consumer Reports or be wearing a contents label on my forehead. And the light that had come on in brain and the hope that had fired in heart suffered a serious blackout resulting in an audible...ugh..........

Amazing relationships aren't rushed. They don't come with labels. They aren't game prizes. They are blessed gifts that should be unwrapped tenderly.

That's where my head went that day. Feels good to have it back now. ;)
 
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jimsun

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Re: no more dating gameso

Hi zeroturulance & Julliana & thank you for your input.

We have had the mobiles of our son '& daughter fitted with tracking devices whereby we can find exact where they are, simply by cranking up a laptop.
Of course it's not much use if the mobile is thrown away, I confess. However if the unthinkable happened at least it would give pice, etc. A valuable starting point.
Don't know if you have such companies in the States but can provide details here in UK if you wish.

The numptie I referred to in my initial post would also pose as a taxi & posed a taxi driver in hope of "attracting" 'fares'!

Our kids have orders that if they have to stay back @ school, to wait there & never set off walking home. We're fortunate in many ways to live in a small
rural town where everyone seems to know each other Even if our kids don't have the money for a taxi they are told to get one anyway as the driver knows her'll be paid @ destination.
Mind you they've often arrived home in a taxi free of charge!!
The important thing to realise is that dating games are just the tip of a very dangerous & perverted iceberg.

J.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Dating seems so complicated and i havent dated anyone in quite sometime because im not sure i even know the rules to it anymore. It really is a big game. I would rather someone say, i like you will you go out with me sometime. Rather than this secret code crap there seems to be for every action
 

Gary

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Exactly. It's difficult enough to date without hurting people. To know that there are those out there who hurt people for sport is ridiculous.
It sure is ridiculous isn't it!
 
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coby2

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Dating games are stupid. I never play dating games. I just say within 2 weeks dating: me want marry you and that's that and I got married LOL. Long live Dutch bluntness. No flirting and no play games and to the point. Answer is no? No problem, only knew you for 2 weeks anyway.
Hey hello, you can't do it like that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRPfCQMvR2Q
 

BruceWayne

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Dating games are stupid. I never play dating games. I just say within 2 weeks dating: me want marry you and that's that and I got married LOL. Long live Dutch bluntness. No flirting and no play games and to the point. Answer is no? No problem, only knew you for 2 weeks anyway.
Hey hello, you can't do it like that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRPfCQMvR2Q
2 weeks haha ... and after 2 years I'm over here like:

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AuntieAnt

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coby2

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It's raised from the dead. Hey that's an idea. Grave digging if you want a man. Just like the brother of Benny Hinn did when he just got saved. He went to a cemetary yelling at all those graves: hey you get up! Oh my that guy was so funny. I'm Henry Hein. He didn't want to be associated with Benny, so he said he was called Hein.
 
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It's raised from the dead. Hey that's an idea. Grave digging if you want a man. Just like the brother of Benny Hinn did when he just got saved. He went to a cemetary yelling at all those graves: hey you get up! Oh my that guy was so funny. I'm Henry Hein. He didn't want to be associated with Benny, so he said he was called Hein.

I've been reviving threads too. Some of them are good topics and I think they deserve another round!
 
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1. Are you a christian? A real one or do you just say that to get christians to date you?
2. Are you emotionally unstable?
3. Do you have dating issues/vendettas?
4. Have you ever actually dated a real person?



1.Yes
2.Yes
3.Yes
4.N/A


 
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biblerahel

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#36
I am up for the old fashioned courting type. A gentleman takes you out, visits a public place to get to talk and brings her back home, after several visits with mutual consent, takes permission from the family members and gets married. This is the bible way.
 

hoss2576

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I am up for the old fashioned courting type. A gentleman takes you out, visits a public place to get to talk and brings her back home, after several visits with mutual consent, takes permission from the family members and gets married. This is the bible way.
Exactly why is this the Bible way? It is a good way if it works for you, but there are other ways that do work for other people.
 
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biblerahel

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In other words dating should be meant for getting to know each other before seriously falling for physical things.
 
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Txroads

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#39
The problem today is that folks done gone off and decided everybody wants ta "keep up with the Joneses"... The first word out of folks mouth is always so, what do ya do for a livin?.. Oh, do you make money doing that?.. Why is your truck so old and why do you drive a truck? Why are you wanting to cook me dinner, are you broke?.. What ever happened ta wantin to find out what the books about instead of lookin for a flashy cover.... Folks have forgotten it's the simple things in life that matter the most, all the things you can't buy... What ever happened ta things like loyalty, devotion.... OK...... I'm gonna quit.....
 
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biblerahel

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The problem today is that folks done gone off and decided everybody wants ta "keep up with the Joneses"... The first word out of folks mouth is always so, what do ya do for a livin?.. Oh, do you make money doing that?.. Why is your truck so old and why do you drive a truck? Why are you wanting to cook me dinner, are you broke?.. What ever happened ta wantin to find out what the books about instead of lookin for a flashy cover.... Folks have forgotten it's the simple things in life that matter the most, all the things you can't buy... What ever happened ta things like loyalty, devotion.... OK...... I'm gonna quit.....
I guess so. You got it.