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shinesobright

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This is nowhere near trying to make anyone feel bad... merely trying to help you stay out of the "fib zone".
Look you can take it for face value or not. I wasn't fibbing just asking genuine questions not everyone including religious figures agree on the topic. I never been addicted to porn or masturbation in my life. It was an occasional thing and I had questions. Nothing more. Seriously people calm down .
 
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Look you can take it for face value or not. I wasn't fibbing just asking genuine questions not everyone including religious figures agree on the topic. I never been addicted to porn or masturbation in my life. It was an occasional thing and I had questions. Nothing more. Seriously people calm down .
I never even hinted that you were addicted to anything. The part of your post that had me chuckling is that you claimed never to have any sort of fantasies involved when you engaged in your self gratification. Like, "Ho hum... there I was just studying for the algebra exam, and what do you know? All of a sudden my hand just started this motion, and the next thing I knew, it was done... Boy, was I surprised!"
 
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Addiction? A need? A hunch?

Nothing better than having a real life, a person LOVED, not used.
You, Sir, have just bumped up against one of the most effective tools used in this global battle.
 

hoss2576

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I never even hinted that you were addicted to anything. The part of your post that had me chuckling is that you claimed never to have any sort of fantasies involved when you engaged in your self gratification. Like, "Ho hum... there I was just studying for the algebra exam, and what do you know? All of a sudden my hand just started this motion, and the next thing I knew, it was done... Boy, was I surprised!"
I know what you are trying to say, but it does sound condescending. None of us can speak with certainty to her mindset. I fully agree it is extremely hard to grasp one without the other, but we can't prove or disprove how she was thinking. She obviously wants help and laughing at her expense doesn't accomplish that.
 
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You, Sir, have just bumped up against one of the most effective tools used in this global battle.
:confused:

Sir! Have I done something wrong?

What effective (or affective) tool are you talking about?

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@Shineso

Are you truely leaving CC?

You said you asked someone to it.

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I know what you are trying to say, but it does sound condescending. None of us can speak with certainty to her mindset. I fully agree it is extremely hard to grasp one without the other, but we can't prove or disprove how she was thinking. She obviously wants help and laughing at her expense doesn't accomplish that.
I replied with about the same honest reality she claimed.
 

gypsygirl

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I replied with about the same honest reality she claimed.

...but to respect someone is to answer their questions respectfully, taking their information/answers at face value because you cannot know her mindset or heart. the best we can do is to lovingly caution someone of this "slippery slope" and show appropriate respect for the young woman who had the temerity to ask these questions (might i add, in very courageous and tactful way).

to shinesobright:

i really admire the fact that you have come here and sought out answers to your questions. as someone said in an earlier post, if you are able to access the ladies forum, i'd really encourage you to post your questions of this nature there as well. not to discourage you from posting these kinds of questions here, but that you may find a warmer reception along with more female responses (as well as specificity) in the answers to your queries.
 
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Nemakiza

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I agree, watching porn makes me feel very filthy and ashamed. Every time after I've done I feel so bad and decide I will not do it ever again... and yet I find myself watching it again and again because it's all over the internet and even if you don't search for porn, you get tempted on other websites with pornographic images and advertisements. I'm weak and I'm addicted.

If you want to overcome this do the following;

1. Stop joining any network that promotes sexually things, you will eventually forget it. For example all social networks. I was a member of facebook, I closed my account because some friends were posting nudity pictures

2. When the desire comes in your mind try to pray, sure thing, God will save you.

3. Be committed, take this as your goal like any other goal of your life. Remind yourself it is not safe to watch like how the internet promotes it. I read one magazine, a man said he was addicted to porn and it destroyed his marriage, moreover it put his career on a stake and at the time he was bankruptcy.

4. Tell yourself you are capable of controlling your temptation because you are a human who is able for who strengthen you.


I hope you will beat that devil.
 
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Rudimental

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Yeah true that sometimes I struggle to find the right words to say I really do!! And sometimes my heart goes out to you so bad I just know you're hurting and looking for some answers. Looking for some peace of mind. But often I go to say one thing in one way and come out with it in a completely different way to what was first intended. Sorry about that!! LOL :p Its not my fault, God made me this way but I'm learning too sister but I just knowwww He's going bring you to the finish line!! :) And when He does, on the day of Christ, this wont even come into your mind!! So don't even worry about a tiny thing! Just give thanks and praise. Or just give Him the recognition and trust that he will complete the good works in you that He started!

Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

Philippians 1:6 tells it how it is!

Someone taught me something very profound once that has helped me to overcome some sins and addictions again and again. I will try to post it as best I remember. This may help you and anyone else also. If you can see it something that doesn't bring honor to God, then you can more easily separate and distance yourself from it. The question here is one of self control and obedience. Recognizing it for what it is and making the right decision. But I don't care what people say or quote. Even if you can't stop doing something until the day you die it wont make God love you any less.

The three steps to sin.

There are three steps or three parts to sin until the sinning actually takes place.


  1. First there is the thought.
  2. Then there is the agreeing with it.
  3. Then there is the action.

The first is the thought, when the thought comes into your mind. Like when you're not doing anything and you have some free time to yourself and because you've done it in the past, you know you can choose to do it again.

Then next there is the agreeing with the thought. You've had the thought. It's been presented to you as an option. This is where you meet the point of no return. You either agree with the thought and go ahead and do it, or you don't agree and subsequently don't do it.

Also there's another great one about the bear outside the cave theory something to think of when satan comes along and whispers the thought into your ear. Imagine you're out camping and there you are alone in your tent getting in on with yourself and outside there is a bear. Imagine that the bear is God. If you carry on the bear will discover you and maul you but if you stop, the bear will pass. You have to decide which need is greater and decide if its worth doing.

Or something like that LOL

Hope it helps. :)
 
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MollyConnor

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Leave this at the foot of the cross and don't look back. Try not to watch it again. When you get the urge, get busy with something else. Read a book, watch tv or better yet talk to God. Just pray and read the Word!

I myself get tempted to eat too many sweets sometimes and I have to pray to the Lord for the temptation to go away and it works! I hope you find comfort in the Lord, Blain. God bless!
 
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Connoisseur

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And like I said I just don't understand the porn thing anyway. whats the point? it just seems so illogical to me.

I have to admit that it's nice to hear that there are some men out there that don't struggle with pornography. Sometimes it feels like all the men are doing it! It would personally break my heart if a man I loved was addicted to pornography.

I don't mean to criticize those who are struggling with an addiction to pornography. I pray that He delivers you and loosens the grip of that addiction over your life in the precious name of Jesus.

Any addiction is ugly (whether it be to porn, TV, food, gambling) and it is definitely not God's design for any of His children to live addicted to anything. WE are the ones that are supposed to have dominion over all things, in His name. Not the other way around.

How to make that a reality though would be a question for those who have overcome it...