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its embarrassing lol
she cheated on me
i took her back after i broke up with her
then i caught her lying. all the same signs
so i just assumed she was cheating again
wouldnt be home when she said she was
lying about going to dance class
found a number on her dresser (didnt even hide it... she just said it was a girl friend of hers, but i memorized it and it was a man named sean)
she cheated on me
i took her back after i broke up with her
then i caught her lying. all the same signs
so i just assumed she was cheating again
wouldnt be home when she said she was
lying about going to dance class
found a number on her dresser (didnt even hide it... she just said it was a girl friend of hers, but i memorized it and it was a man named sean)
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I'm in the insurance field (not really by choice, just kind of where life took me). I learned that:
Speculative risk = Risk that could give you gain, change nothing, or cause loss. Example, gambling. You can win a million bucks, you can break even, or you can lose money.
Pure risk = You can only either do nothing or lose. This is what insurance is, because if you use it, it's always the result of a loss.
I view dating as pure risk right now - it would only change nothing or make it worse, not better.
I think I'll be ready to date again when I view it as speculative.
"Rachel: Bringing insurance into dating since 2017"
Speculative risk = Risk that could give you gain, change nothing, or cause loss. Example, gambling. You can win a million bucks, you can break even, or you can lose money.
Pure risk = You can only either do nothing or lose. This is what insurance is, because if you use it, it's always the result of a loss.
I view dating as pure risk right now - it would only change nothing or make it worse, not better.
I think I'll be ready to date again when I view it as speculative.
"Rachel: Bringing insurance into dating since 2017"
Putting yourself out there and letting yourself be vulnerable to someone is a big risk
It's such a high when things go well
And you can't let it destroy you when things dont
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It is too bad. If you can forgive her and still have feelings for her, why not look her up? Perhaps she still cares for you, too. I don't know. Love is not something that happens everyday. Anyway, I don't really have any advice for you. I was mostly wondering why you had to break up with someone you love since that sounded illogical to me.
So how do you avoid thinking about women? It's not just about being with them in person...So if God promises to control you in public, can you let God control your mind? If you fail in either areas satan will return with a vengeance to create a stronghold, would you say you have a stronghold issue in the area of lust?
When I was about 18, I had promised myself that one of the first questions I would ask God when I saw Him was, "What were you thinking? How is an 18 year old supposed to control such a strong craving?" And this was a subject that wouldn't subside for years as I tried with all my might to be pure by the measure God indicates in Scripture. But I went through three steps forward and two steps back, until finally God's Spirit said no more.
Now, to be clear, I wasn't a porn person, nor was I out of control exceptionally, but compared to the Word's criteria, I was a beast. I knew that if I was going to be real with God I had to have victory in this somehow so I had to come to a revelation from the Holy Spirit. And I did! my spirit felt the intuition of His Spirit saying calmly obey Me at all costs.
I had always wanted to, and I had given my all, but He said in a still Spirit "This is my battle not yours, just stand on my rock, and tell satan to get lost. So I yielded my fight to Him, and obeyed (at all costs), but satan had a stronghold on me, and to be honest, I was doubtful, so I continued to fail for awhile because I hadn't let go of the fight to God.,
One day I just was sick of not being right in that area with God and I blurted out emphatically, "NO MORE!!" without doubting and I could feel my surrender becoming complete....I turned and gave satan the what's up in Jesus' name! And God's power filled the room immediately! His power smoked satan and satan fled quietly. satan never fled quietly before. He waited for a weak moment and lunged at me again in temptation, over and over again, but something had changed in me, I was God's now and my thoughts were God's now and over time satans stronghold was snapped, and he didn't waste his time trying anymore.. Now I preface that with the fact I still must guard my heart and mind, but I have victory now, complete victory. I still can't thank God enough for that...
The thing is I am not sure if you have read the Scriptures of God's will on the subject so here are just a few to look at if you would like:
Matthew 5:28New American Standard Bible (NASB)
28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
* 1 Corinthians 6:18
* 1 Thess. 4:3-5
* 1 Corinthians 10:13
* Romans 6:11-14
I had to come to a point of understanding that I was fundamentally not free; external circumstances are not in my hands, they are in God's hands; the one thing in which we are free is in our personal relationship to God.
We are not responsible for the circumstances we are in, but we are responsible for the way we allow those circumstances to affect us; we can either allow them to get on top of us, or we can allow them to transform us into what God wants us to be.
My prayers extend to your corner. There is much more going on in the spiritual warfare than just a girlfriend experience here.
Now, to be clear, I wasn't a porn person, nor was I out of control exceptionally, but compared to the Word's criteria, I was a beast. I knew that if I was going to be real with God I had to have victory in this somehow so I had to come to a revelation from the Holy Spirit. And I did! my spirit felt the intuition of His Spirit saying calmly obey Me at all costs.
I had always wanted to, and I had given my all, but He said in a still Spirit "This is my battle not yours, just stand on my rock, and tell satan to get lost. So I yielded my fight to Him, and obeyed (at all costs), but satan had a stronghold on me, and to be honest, I was doubtful, so I continued to fail for awhile because I hadn't let go of the fight to God.,
One day I just was sick of not being right in that area with God and I blurted out emphatically, "NO MORE!!" without doubting and I could feel my surrender becoming complete....I turned and gave satan the what's up in Jesus' name! And God's power filled the room immediately! His power smoked satan and satan fled quietly. satan never fled quietly before. He waited for a weak moment and lunged at me again in temptation, over and over again, but something had changed in me, I was God's now and my thoughts were God's now and over time satans stronghold was snapped, and he didn't waste his time trying anymore.. Now I preface that with the fact I still must guard my heart and mind, but I have victory now, complete victory. I still can't thank God enough for that...
The thing is I am not sure if you have read the Scriptures of God's will on the subject so here are just a few to look at if you would like:
Matthew 5:28New American Standard Bible (NASB)
28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
* 1 Corinthians 6:18
* 1 Thess. 4:3-5
* 1 Corinthians 10:13
* Romans 6:11-14
I had to come to a point of understanding that I was fundamentally not free; external circumstances are not in my hands, they are in God's hands; the one thing in which we are free is in our personal relationship to God.
We are not responsible for the circumstances we are in, but we are responsible for the way we allow those circumstances to affect us; we can either allow them to get on top of us, or we can allow them to transform us into what God wants us to be.
My prayers extend to your corner. There is much more going on in the spiritual warfare than just a girlfriend experience here.