people who use internet dating sites
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Okay son... you better stay away from those weirdos you meet online. You never know what kind of stuff you can catch from them or if they have husbands in other states. Maybe they have a stolen identity...you never know.. Go to church honey and find yourself a nice girl. One who does not cause too much trouble and treats others nice. As Shine Down says it "BABY...be a simple....kind of man. Be somethin' you love and understand."
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I see no problem at all using internet dating sites. Its like anything in life, you learn to pick out weirdos. My only advice is, try and meet them pretty quickly. Meeting face to face, seeing bodylanguage, etc can give you an answer fairly quickly of whether you are attracted to them or not. I have learnt some very very hard lessons from that. I don't recommend online chatting over a long period of time, otherwise you build them up into what you think they are, and it can, but not always be smashed to pieces when you do meet.
D
Nothing wrong with internet dating sites. You can meet creepy people anywhere which is why you should use common sense at all times. Dont meet someone alone and always do it in a public place. There was an interesting article about how internet dating is more beneficial than meeting by chance in real life. In internet dating you can find someone with the same religion, values, morals, interests, age, and so on. In a real life social situation you have to filter through all that.
I work weddings and I've been getting a lot of internet-met couples. The stigma of creepy people is practically gone to anyone open-minded. It's not just a dating thing, it's a finding a person in your life process. Who cares how you meet?
I work weddings and I've been getting a lot of internet-met couples. The stigma of creepy people is practically gone to anyone open-minded. It's not just a dating thing, it's a finding a person in your life process. Who cares how you meet?
Seeing as I've been giving them a whirl for a few years off and on, of course I support the idea. But, I do think different things work for different people, so I believe in staying open-minded.
I know other Christians who have met their spouses online... and, gasp... others who have met their spouses at a party or place that the most stringent Super Christians would say is even sinful to think about attending...
No, I'm not advocating going to bars and parties to get dates! But what is that saying, God works in mysterious ways?
I've had a few encounters with people who set up a fake profile and/or were married... one guy told me, "Well, I'm still legally married but my divorce is final in..." (the supposed near future).
I wanted to say, Um, legally married... is still married! Next, please!! (I've heard of cases where one spouse will not allow the other to divorce them even in situations of extreme abuse, etc. and my heart goes out to them--but in this case, this man was the one to initiate and divorce his wife but was jumping into the dating scene without it being legally set in stone that he was divorced.)
I know other Christians who have met their spouses online... and, gasp... others who have met their spouses at a party or place that the most stringent Super Christians would say is even sinful to think about attending...
No, I'm not advocating going to bars and parties to get dates! But what is that saying, God works in mysterious ways?
I've had a few encounters with people who set up a fake profile and/or were married... one guy told me, "Well, I'm still legally married but my divorce is final in..." (the supposed near future).
I wanted to say, Um, legally married... is still married! Next, please!! (I've heard of cases where one spouse will not allow the other to divorce them even in situations of extreme abuse, etc. and my heart goes out to them--but in this case, this man was the one to initiate and divorce his wife but was jumping into the dating scene without it being legally set in stone that he was divorced.)
S
Cons:
I believe it is an opportunity for adultery which men/woman can brush off as "oh honey, it was just the internet." They can use it as a way to search for an opportunity without getting caught. I see men/women use it to scope out people for sexual interactions- with limited consequences. A person can develop a false sense of reality. It is a way for people to hide their identity and try different approaches to manipulate situations. Long distances feelings can develop into frustration. There are unreasonable expectations and feelings associated with it often.
Pros:
It allows people to meet someone they would never have met locally. It lets you see different sides of people you may never would have seen if you were to meet them in person. It allows more physical safety if you are being responsible about it. You don't have to waste time meeting them in person until you think you might like them.
Why I like interacting with people in person better:
I like to see how a person behaves in real life. I'd want a real life relationship and what to adapt to that first; establishing a foundation of physical-emotional-spiritual interaction that is not filtered through technology. I see it as less frustration and less uncertainty.
I believe it is an opportunity for adultery which men/woman can brush off as "oh honey, it was just the internet." They can use it as a way to search for an opportunity without getting caught. I see men/women use it to scope out people for sexual interactions- with limited consequences. A person can develop a false sense of reality. It is a way for people to hide their identity and try different approaches to manipulate situations. Long distances feelings can develop into frustration. There are unreasonable expectations and feelings associated with it often.
Pros:
It allows people to meet someone they would never have met locally. It lets you see different sides of people you may never would have seen if you were to meet them in person. It allows more physical safety if you are being responsible about it. You don't have to waste time meeting them in person until you think you might like them.
Why I like interacting with people in person better:
I like to see how a person behaves in real life. I'd want a real life relationship and what to adapt to that first; establishing a foundation of physical-emotional-spiritual interaction that is not filtered through technology. I see it as less frustration and less uncertainty.