Quick fun question/poll for all please
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I think I get it...friendly good...invite them home for meatloaf bad. LOL so far I am safe.
Sorry should have clarified...elderly gentleman seem safe as they enjoy a good joke and love to share pics of their adorable grandchildren. One today told me he got his drivers license out of a cracker jack box! He was hilarious.
Sorry should have clarified...elderly gentleman seem safe as they enjoy a good joke and love to share pics of their adorable grandchildren. One today told me he got his drivers license out of a cracker jack box! He was hilarious.
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I don't think I've ever had reason to worry that anyone thought I was flirting when I was only being friendly.
Because I'm not friendly.
That's not even true, I don't know why I said it. I talk to people in the grocery store or where ever and crack jokes sometimes, but I'm usually far more concerned that the person thinks I'm weird than that I'm flirting. And even then, I'm kind of unbothered...except for that time I accidentally told the as beans <----seriously autocorrect? The Schwans guy- "I love you". That was pretty bad, and I don't know if he took it as flirting or insanity or what.
I've completely lost my train of thought. Never understood <---AUTOCORRECT!!!! Never MIND.
Because I'm not friendly.
That's not even true, I don't know why I said it. I talk to people in the grocery store or where ever and crack jokes sometimes, but I'm usually far more concerned that the person thinks I'm weird than that I'm flirting. And even then, I'm kind of unbothered...except for that time I accidentally told the as beans <----seriously autocorrect? The Schwans guy- "I love you". That was pretty bad, and I don't know if he took it as flirting or insanity or what.
I've completely lost my train of thought. Never understood <---AUTOCORRECT!!!! Never MIND.
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Since this is -also- a funny poll, I have a pool of other ppl who thought about those SIGNS:
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" See if he makes fun of other guys you hang out with. This is a classic way for a guy to flirt with you and to let you know he's interested. If the guy always makes nasty or just mean and funny comments about any other guys you know or hang out with, then chances are it's because he's just jealous that you're paying attention to someone else who isn't him. If he says something like, "What do you see in that guy, anyway?" then he's definitely flirting with you. "
(How to Know a Guy Is Flirting (with Pictures) - wikiHow)
"A recent study took a took at a bunch of single, heterosexual college students, and found out that we’re all pretty awful at flirting. Researchers took 52 pairs of these college students, paired them off into rooms on their own, let them talk for 10 to 15 minutes, and then had them answer some questions. In the end, they found that although 80 percent of the group was able to identify when someone wasn’t flirting with them, only 36 percent of men and 18 percent of women could tell when the other person was flirting. So, basically, we either all suck at flirting, or we just suck at picking up the signs.
Read more: 10 Obvious Signs He's Flirting With You, Has A Crush | Gurl.com"
(https://news.ku.edu/2014/06/03/flirting-hard-detect-study-finds)
"People recognize non-flirting more accurately than flirting. In this study, women were 83% accurate in seeing non-flirting as non-flirting, and men performed about the same, 84%. It seems both men and women are much better at recognizing theabsence of flirting than recognizing real flirting. The default, it seems, is to infer no romantic interest. "
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"[h=3]6. The “Like” Button[/h]Liking someone’s pictures or statuses is the social networker’s simplest way to show interest. Of course, you can’t assume everyone who liked your new cover photo is longing for your affection, but there’s often times an underlying pattern in a person’s liking habits. For example, anyone liking your status updates back in 2009 is suspect. Even further, anyone liking multiple photos of yours after midnight is spending an undisclosed amount of time scouring your Facebook page before they go night-night, meaning they probably, definitely have a crush that they’re too shy to profess." 10 Ways Shy People Flirt | Thought Catalog
"A lovely smile is actually a good sign and, when it comes to flirting, it’s one of the surest signs he is interested in you. If you notice that he is smiling at you, there’s a good chance he likes you and wants to approach you. Maybe he is shy, so why not show him your confidence and courage by approaching him first? Of course, if you like him. After all, there is nothing to be ashamed of if you approach a man first. Just smile back, initiate a conversation with him and don’t try to play hard to get. Playing hard to get is a great boost, but often it’s a big turn off for guys." 10 Obvious Signs a Guy Is Flirting with You | Womanitely
"[h=1]3. OFFER A COMPLIMENT[/h]Everyone appreciates receiving a compliment, but it gets a little weird if someone showers you with adoration. Just like too many touches aren’t #effective, the same goes for compliments. You can always tell when someone is giving you a fake #compliment and they might mean well, but it can come off as insincere. If you really like something he’s wearing or you admire something about him, definitely let him know; just be honest."
3. Offer a Compliment - 7 Subtle but Effective Ways to Flirt ...
""Female sincere flirts laughed and smiled more, and more frequently showed a tell-tale sign of interest - the coy gaze," Hall said. "We found that as people became more attracted to their conversation partner, they showed that attraction in ways that revealed their flirting style…"
http://i100.independent.co.uk/artic...l-if-someone-is-flirting-with-you--eysscMtOhg
Since this is -also- a funny poll, I have a pool of other ppl who thought about those SIGNS:
10
" See if he makes fun of other guys you hang out with. This is a classic way for a guy to flirt with you and to let you know he's interested. If the guy always makes nasty or just mean and funny comments about any other guys you know or hang out with, then chances are it's because he's just jealous that you're paying attention to someone else who isn't him. If he says something like, "What do you see in that guy, anyway?" then he's definitely flirting with you. "
(How to Know a Guy Is Flirting (with Pictures) - wikiHow)
"A recent study took a took at a bunch of single, heterosexual college students, and found out that we’re all pretty awful at flirting. Researchers took 52 pairs of these college students, paired them off into rooms on their own, let them talk for 10 to 15 minutes, and then had them answer some questions. In the end, they found that although 80 percent of the group was able to identify when someone wasn’t flirting with them, only 36 percent of men and 18 percent of women could tell when the other person was flirting. So, basically, we either all suck at flirting, or we just suck at picking up the signs.
Read more: 10 Obvious Signs He's Flirting With You, Has A Crush | Gurl.com"
(https://news.ku.edu/2014/06/03/flirting-hard-detect-study-finds)
"People recognize non-flirting more accurately than flirting. In this study, women were 83% accurate in seeing non-flirting as non-flirting, and men performed about the same, 84%. It seems both men and women are much better at recognizing theabsence of flirting than recognizing real flirting. The default, it seems, is to infer no romantic interest. "
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- Playful flirts are less polite than physical flirts and tend to be highlyextroverted, throwing caution to the wind when flirting. They are not so sincere in their flirting when the context doesn’t match the goal (supermarkets) but are sincere when speed-dating."
"[h=3]6. The “Like” Button[/h]Liking someone’s pictures or statuses is the social networker’s simplest way to show interest. Of course, you can’t assume everyone who liked your new cover photo is longing for your affection, but there’s often times an underlying pattern in a person’s liking habits. For example, anyone liking your status updates back in 2009 is suspect. Even further, anyone liking multiple photos of yours after midnight is spending an undisclosed amount of time scouring your Facebook page before they go night-night, meaning they probably, definitely have a crush that they’re too shy to profess." 10 Ways Shy People Flirt | Thought Catalog
"A lovely smile is actually a good sign and, when it comes to flirting, it’s one of the surest signs he is interested in you. If you notice that he is smiling at you, there’s a good chance he likes you and wants to approach you. Maybe he is shy, so why not show him your confidence and courage by approaching him first? Of course, if you like him. After all, there is nothing to be ashamed of if you approach a man first. Just smile back, initiate a conversation with him and don’t try to play hard to get. Playing hard to get is a great boost, but often it’s a big turn off for guys." 10 Obvious Signs a Guy Is Flirting with You | Womanitely
"[h=1]3. OFFER A COMPLIMENT[/h]Everyone appreciates receiving a compliment, but it gets a little weird if someone showers you with adoration. Just like too many touches aren’t #effective, the same goes for compliments. You can always tell when someone is giving you a fake #compliment and they might mean well, but it can come off as insincere. If you really like something he’s wearing or you admire something about him, definitely let him know; just be honest."
3. Offer a Compliment - 7 Subtle but Effective Ways to Flirt ...
""Female sincere flirts laughed and smiled more, and more frequently showed a tell-tale sign of interest - the coy gaze," Hall said. "We found that as people became more attracted to their conversation partner, they showed that attraction in ways that revealed their flirting style…"
http://i100.independent.co.uk/artic...l-if-someone-is-flirting-with-you--eysscMtOhg
I tend to be friendly as well. I can totally see myself making that same comment about the crackers, regardless of who I was talking to (guy, girl, child, etc). Some people just have a teasing manner about them, and it has nothing to do with "romantic" flirting.
I do understand though, that different people will interpret those things differently, perhaps like jsr1221 said, due to the amount of experience they've had with other people in social environments.
I do understand though, that different people will interpret those things differently, perhaps like jsr1221 said, due to the amount of experience they've had with other people in social environments.
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Flirting?...idk..if i was in that situation and realized you were single (i am quick to id the ring finger), i found someone attractive and they initiated conversation/joking..it may be the type of person might be interested in getting to know. Happy, friendly, attractive and single? I may try to further conversation. Friendly is friendly. Im not interested in seeking a relationship with every woman i joke with or talk to. Sometimes i get that feeling like who is this weirdo when i am just being friendly. But really how else to get to know someone you might like by a chance meeting. Ok. Maybe didnt help but don't stop being friendly. Spread that happiness and Gods love.
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Negative. I do not, as a man, consider that flirting. I do the same thing with people -- men, women, whoever -- when I'm around, and I'm not flirting. I try to be pleasant, crack a lot of jokes (even with strangers), etc. This is who I am -- I just want to see people around me smiling. I have, however, learned that a small minority of (self-flattering?) people consider this sort of thing flirting. I guess they figure that if a guy is friendly, he's hitting on you.
One time, I heard through the grapevine that one lady -- an old friend of my wife -- didn't want to come over to our home (with her husband) for dinner because she thought I was a "creep" who "hit on her" despite knowing that she was my wife's old friend. How did I "hit on her"? My wife had told me that our kids were in the same kiddy gymnastics class, and that I might run into her old friend when I took them to class. So, when I met this lady later that day at the gymnasium, I sat maybe 5 or 10 seats away from her, introduced myself as "[my wife's name]'s husband," and said some friendly "looks like the kids are having a blast" type of comments, along with maybe some jokes about how toddlers do gymnastics. Either way, 100% harmless stuff that I would say to anyone -- whether the person was a man or a woman, old or young. And that cost my wife (and I) a friendship. Weird and a bit disappointing.
Oh well. That's that. I like banter and a quick joke, and I take it for what it is. Nothing more.
One time, I heard through the grapevine that one lady -- an old friend of my wife -- didn't want to come over to our home (with her husband) for dinner because she thought I was a "creep" who "hit on her" despite knowing that she was my wife's old friend. How did I "hit on her"? My wife had told me that our kids were in the same kiddy gymnastics class, and that I might run into her old friend when I took them to class. So, when I met this lady later that day at the gymnasium, I sat maybe 5 or 10 seats away from her, introduced myself as "[my wife's name]'s husband," and said some friendly "looks like the kids are having a blast" type of comments, along with maybe some jokes about how toddlers do gymnastics. Either way, 100% harmless stuff that I would say to anyone -- whether the person was a man or a woman, old or young. And that cost my wife (and I) a friendship. Weird and a bit disappointing.
Oh well. That's that. I like banter and a quick joke, and I take it for what it is. Nothing more.
I actually do not believe I am skilled at flirting myself as when I have tried to flirt it was comical. I am fairly clumsy and usually wind up tripping right in front of a man I am trying to flirt with (true story) so I have kinda given up. However universal signs that seem to typically indicate if a woman is romantically interested seem to include (disclaimer ...I make no guarantees):
*laughing at all his jokes during the conversation
*touching his hand or arm even briefly in conversation
*touching her own neck during conversation with a man (I read this somewhere and have actually observed that this does happen..very strange but I have seen it myself)
*asking open ended questions to continue a conversation to get to know the man better
I am sure some of the women here will have much better answers for you. In all honesty, if your talking to a woman and she is friendly, engaging and hasn't mentioned a boyfriend or husband then just ask her for coffee and you will immediately know if she was flirting. Works every time!
*laughing at all his jokes during the conversation
*touching his hand or arm even briefly in conversation
*touching her own neck during conversation with a man (I read this somewhere and have actually observed that this does happen..very strange but I have seen it myself)
*asking open ended questions to continue a conversation to get to know the man better
I am sure some of the women here will have much better answers for you. In all honesty, if your talking to a woman and she is friendly, engaging and hasn't mentioned a boyfriend or husband then just ask her for coffee and you will immediately know if she was flirting. Works every time!
