This site was really good too:
Lindsay Ann Burke Memorial Fund: Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
EXTREME JEALOUSY
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and lack of trust, (*) but the abuser will say that it is a sign of love. The abuser will question the victim about who they talk to, accuse them of flirting, or be jealous of time spent with their friends, family, or children. The abuser may refuse to let the victim work or go to school for fear of meeting someone else. The abuser may call the victim frequently or drop by unexpectedly. The abuser may accuse the victim of flirting with someone else or having an affair.
(*) Both, men or women act insecurely because they have some "feeling" and this comes often from knowing we are sinners and cheating have been faced in the past (predisposition or prejudiced in a new relation). The lack of trust is guessed or received by the person, or it is US who might have poor self esteem.
CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR
One partner completely rules the relationship and makes the decisions.
(*) I thought that was only common to Latin America. This includes “checking up” on the victim, timing a victim when they leave the house, checking the odometer on the car, questioning the victim about where they go. They may also check the victim’s cell phone for call history, their email or website history. The abuser may control the finances and tries to tell the victim how to dress, who to talk to, and where to go.
Wow! No freedom or trust in there.
QUICK INVOLVEMENT
The abuser comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, pressuring for a commitment and claims “Love at first sight” or
“You’re the only person I could ever talk to”, or
“I never met anyone like you before”. Often, in the beginning of a relationship, the abuser is very charming and romantic and the love is intense.
