K
Something has been bothering me this past month. What is up with all this negativity and finger-wagging when it comes to relationships? It's not a sin to like the opposite gender- and pursue their affection. It's no wonder Christians are so lonely, and a lot of us young people are single, none of you want to take a chance. In your respectable effort to be careful you've closed yourself off completely to romantic interests- and I promise you that attitude will work against you. No one is going to approach someone who's body language clearly says they're not interested.
I'm not encouraging throwing yourself at people, but you shouldn't feel like being flirtatious is shameful. People are built to interact romantically. You can be charming and flirtatious without giving away your virginity or crossing boundaries. Men are automatically attracted to femininity, and women to masculinity, if you're stoic and wondering when that guy or girl is going to notice you recognize you're working against yourself.
I can understand how this message could be misconstrued- please understand that I'm not promoting promiscuous behavior, but rather trying to install a healthy attitude towards relating to the opposite gender. I've just been observing a major shut down among my peers and I don't think it's good.
I'm not encouraging throwing yourself at people, but you shouldn't feel like being flirtatious is shameful. People are built to interact romantically. You can be charming and flirtatious without giving away your virginity or crossing boundaries. Men are automatically attracted to femininity, and women to masculinity, if you're stoic and wondering when that guy or girl is going to notice you recognize you're working against yourself.
I can understand how this message could be misconstrued- please understand that I'm not promoting promiscuous behavior, but rather trying to install a healthy attitude towards relating to the opposite gender. I've just been observing a major shut down among my peers and I don't think it's good.