Saying “I Love You” via text or face to face?

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Is texting “I love you” for the first time to your partner appropriate?


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Miri

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#62
It’s a good job mobile phones weren’t around in bible times.

Imagine the data charges to text the Song of Solomon back and
forth between all the characters!
 

Jewel5712

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#63
It’s a good job mobile phones weren’t around in bible times.

Imagine the data charges to text the Song of Solomon back and
forth between all the characters!
Lol!
 

Mel85

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#65
Bumpz...
 

Kaps89

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#66
I went for 'Other'. I don't think I love you should ever be 'said' for the first time in a text message or email. I believe it should either be done face to face or if there are physical limitations such as distance on the phone or video message etc.

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Hamarr

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#67
i’m too old school to say that over text the first time, I guess.

If it were a long distance thing, I might want to wait to meet to say it. I guess I haven’t given that sort of situation a lot of thought.
 
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RodB65

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#68
Say it face to face...in person. Not on video chat, no emojis or anything like that.
 
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Hamarr

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#69
Is saying it in a text the modern version passing notes? Remember this dumb song?
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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#70
After waiting for years to finally say Funny-I-love-you-Memes-for-Her-300x241.jpg

in person 😅😅😅
 
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#71
For me, face to face would be best not just the first time but like the first couple of times...

Would love to see her reaction and the look on her face the first time its been said.
 

danja

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#72
of course face to face.now where is he ?:ROFL:
 
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NoNameMcgee

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#73
ehhhh if i love someone i will tell them...

im not promised tomorrow and i am an open book

I was listening to our local news tonight and they were talking about a study that was conducted on 16-25 year olds, and how they go about expressing their feelings towards their bfs/gfs via texting on their mobiles.

The study showed that 60% of those who were surveyed (I think there were 100) admittedly said that they have texted their bf or gf “I Love You” for the first time via mobile.

Do you think that saying that type of expression or feeling should be done face to face?

Are we living in a society that accepts the usage of technology to dominate the “old school” way of expressing our thoughts/feelings to people up front.

Do you find texting to be acceptable when you’re in a intense conversation with someone? Does it get your point across?

Interested to know whether this form of behaviour, especially around the Youth is different (or not), with other countries around the world.



Do you think that saying that type of expression or feeling should be done face to face?
_________

love should come from the heart and be expressed in any way you can express it





Are we living in a society that accepts the usage of technology to dominate the “old school” way of expressing our thoughts/feelings to people up front.
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i wont be dominated by technology or some old school mental state

if you were arguing that being in person is best, id agree but if you love someone and tell them via letter (old school as well)
or phone call from a distance when you do not know what will happen tomorrow, there is nothing wrong with that





Do you find texting to be acceptable when you’re in a intense conversation with someone? Does it get your point across?
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id say being in person makes it a fair bit easier to understand eachother but it is not a cure all lol
 

Mel85

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#74
ehhhh if i love someone i will tell them...

im not promised tomorrow and i am an open book






Do you think that saying that type of expression or feeling should be done face to face?
_________

love should come from the heart and be expressed in any way you can express it





Are we living in a society that accepts the usage of technology to dominate the “old school” way of expressing our thoughts/feelings to people up front.
____________
i wont be dominated by technology or some old school mental state

if you were arguing that being in person is best, id agree but if you love someone and tell them via letter (old school as well)
or phone call from a distance when you do not know what will happen tomorrow, there is nothing wrong with that





Do you find texting to be acceptable when you’re in a intense conversation with someone? Does it get your point across?
_______
id say being in person makes it a fair bit easier to understand eachother but it is not a cure all lol
Good points, and welcome back. Haven’t seen you in ages lol
 

BruceWayne

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#75
I see no problem with it. It doesn't lose any meaning expressed in one form or another. Every relationship is different, though. If that works for a couple the first time or if that easier to do, then do your thing hypothetical couple.
 

garet82

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#76
I text. Coz iam personally to someone i like must be introvet n im better to express my feeling through text. :)
 

Mel85

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#77
This just going off the other thread, looking for new ops :)
 

Lanolin

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Dec 15, 2018
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#78
I was listening to our local news tonight and they were talking about a study that was conducted on 16-25 year olds, and how they go about expressing their feelings towards their bfs/gfs via texting on their mobiles.

The study showed that 60% of those who were surveyed (I think there were 100) admittedly said that they have texted their bf or gf “I Love You” for the first time via mobile.

Do you think that saying that type of expression or feeling should be done face to face?

Are we living in a society that accepts the usage of technology to dominate the “old school” way of expressing our thoughts/feelings to people up front.

Do you find texting to be acceptable when you’re in a intense conversation with someone? Does it get your point across?

Interested to know whether this form of behaviour, especially around the Youth is different (or not), with other countries around the world.
16-25 year olds will mostly use emojis or instagram. Txting is OLD now.

Its just a form of communication. In the olden days it was by telegram. If you said I love you by telegram, it was probably because there was a long distance between you, and plus you had to pay someone else to send it through. And I think you needed to pay for each word.

There are many ways to say I love you, and if you want to use whatever technology to express your feelings because it gets your message to the other person then feel free.

Who wants to be the Romeo who sent a message to his Juliet by donkey but it failed to get to her in time.
 

Lanolin

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#80
I prefer flowers, but I havent had many send me flowers. I think the face to face thing is when you tie the knot and look at each other without the veil at your wedding in front of at least two other witnesses.

You could do it I suppose without the wedding but without witnesses one of you could forget and just say it didnt happen. Or you did say it but you also said it to ten other people as well.