Seeking a spouse versus seeking righteousness

[clarky]

interesting thought. if marriage is representative of God's love for the church, and the only way a person can become a believer in Christ is if the Spirit draws them to Christ. then can it stand to reason that God draws man us to our future spouses or vice vera, since the church is Christ's bride?
Here's and interesting verse Jeremiah 31:22, not sure what the implications are 22 How long will you wander,
O unfaithful daughter?
The LORD will create a new thing on earth—
a woman will surround [a] a man."

You guys probabley already understand this lol

 

[clarky]

what does this mean? Jeremiah 31:22 22 How long will you wander,
O unfaithful daughter?
The LORD will create a new thing on earth— a woman will surround [b] a man."
Is this the idea that women can be the primary source of income?

 

[clarky]

im so dumb, i thought i deleted the posts and it posted them. tear

cool topic

 

[HollyW]

Quote: "A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seak HIM in order to find her": Unquote

 

[wyldkat]

I believe that we need to seek first God's kingdom. We need to pray and see if that is in God's will to our lives. If it is God will lead us toward our spouse.

 

[Renewedheart]

A righteous spouse? I pray for one too.

 

[thimsrebma]

I think many of us do seek the Kingdom of God but that does not mean that we do not also want a spouse. Lets be honest a spouse isnt goping to fall from the heavens directly into our laps. We have to have our eyes open to even be able to let them in our lives. I believe there is a sort of active waiting when it comes to relationships. You cant just sit a round and think all things are just going to happen to you. Many people use phrases like "just wait on the Lord" because they have given away all personaly responsibility for their lives and thats why nothing ever happens for them. You look up and you're 60 yrs old and have nothing because you have done nothing but sit around and wait. Sometimes God is waiting on us to act in order to respond with a blessing.

 

[thefightinglamb]

I have no idea if I have been living up to these words lately. I feel the need to post that.

Sometimes I feel that I am so vulnerable that I feel that spiritually in Christ I need a marriage "partner" to help me through, and I have been pursuing a girl that reminds me of righteousness...but I am so childlike and try to be pure in everything I do/say to her that I say little right now, and get confused often by my own actions.

I am at a point where I have some friends telling me to "just get the courage and ask her out because God wants me to" and other friends who think "dating is wrong, and distracting to seeking Christ" so that I should just focus more on seeking Christ and let be what God will be.

I do not know what to pursue, so I am somewhat lost in the middle. I find myself wanting holiness, and I pray that she stays holy, but at the same time, I find myself wanting to get to know HER...

Some of my more devout friends seem to think personal dialogue with girls can be a temptation and restrict themselves to community dates, but I have never followed such a rigid viewpoint.

But at the same time I have never kissed a girl/woman though I have had opportunities, and now want to save even that for the girl I will marry.

I almost feel as Paul wrote in Corinthians?, where he wrote about "not understanding his own actions." Or how Jesus write about those led by the Spirit being there one moment and gone the next...

I have made decisions lately about only looking/seeking righteousness such as only marrying a virgin (say what you will about that) and not accepting unrighteousness as a form of 'forgiveness' as I have done in the past. As the Psalm say "as for the saints who are in the land, they are glorious ones in whom I delight."

Now I find myself hoping and praying for the righteousness of my sisters in Christ, and hoping those who don't know Him find Him--which I think to be something worth seeking in and for a girl.


God bless you now and always
tony

 

[Liamson]

I have no idea if I have been living up to these words lately. I feel the need to post that.

Sometimes I feel that I am so vulnerable that I feel that spiritually in Christ I need a marriage "partner" to help me through, and I have been pursuing a girl that reminds me of righteousness...but I am so childlike and try to be pure in everything I do/say to her that I say little right now, and get confused often by my own actions.

I am at a point where I have some friends telling me to "just get the courage and ask her out because God wants me to" and other friends who think "dating is wrong, and distracting to seeking Christ" so that I should just focus more on seeking Christ and let be what God will be.

I do not know what to pursue, so I am somewhat lost in the middle. I find myself wanting holiness, and I pray that she stays holy, but at the same time, I find myself wanting to get to know HER...

Some of my more devout friends seem to think personal dialogue with girls can be a temptation and restrict themselves to community dates, but I have never followed such a rigid viewpoint.

But at the same time I have never kissed a girl/woman though I have had opportunities, and now want to save even that for the girl I will marry.

I almost feel as Paul wrote in Corinthians?, where he wrote about "not understanding his own actions." Or how Jesus write about those led by the Spirit being there one moment and gone the next...

I have made decisions lately about only looking/seeking righteousness such as only marrying a virgin (say what you will about that) and not accepting unrighteousness as a form of 'forgiveness' as I have done in the past. As the Psalm say "as for the saints who are in the land, they are glorious ones in whom I delight."

Now I find myself hoping and praying for the righteousness of my sisters in Christ, and hoping those who don't know Him find Him--which I think to be something worth seeking in and for a girl.


God bless you now and always
tony

I think that somehow somewhere along the line you have missed the character and the nature of God.

Whoever has been forgiven much Loves much. Are you not familiar with the parable of the Prodigal Son?

God is a God of forgiveness Redemption and Grace. If He has forgiven you, shouldn't you forgive the person you would fall in love with?

What Jesus is talking about in Matthew 6 is how to follow Him. It is not to place Marriage in opposition to Righteousness. As if to do one is to forsake the other. Yes pursue His righteousness with all your heart but, remember that His righteousness was not about obeying the Law but about Love.

Life was designed to be lived. Contrary to what monks and nuns would have you believe, you were meant to experience all of the joys of what it means to be human. To really live for God and life to the fullest takes courage and action. It takes Real Courage to fall in love with someone.

May you find everything that you are looking for including, patience, hope, love and self control.

 

[jeremyPJ]

I truly believe as my pastors believe. You must have a spouse who, like you put Christ first in their lives. I have seen a few couples like that and they are a true inspiration. I believe it is the only way that as the bible describes marriage, that two can become one. I just hope and pray I can be that lucky and blessed!