Interesting...so it depends on the person/situation...
Yes - think "it depends" upon both people and both of their unique situations...
Everyone is inherently at different phases in their life experiences...
Everyone is going thru different 'stuff' and while some are beginning to put more faith in the Lord and trusting in the Lord to bring someone into their lives...
Others could very well be at a point of knowing their self-worth; which could provide a sense of self-confidence in knowing what they are interested in and what they are looking for in a partner...
Some people are more vulnerable during different phases of their lives... If someone recognizes that vulnerability and chooses to try to be there for them regardless of gender - that could serve as the beginning of a genuine sign of compassion that the other had been praying for...
If you are the one that has recently realized your self-worth that puts you in a situation to both seize the day (if you will) or to sit back and trust your faith that our Lord will reward your patience and answer your prayers in a way that you might not have anticipated.
There are advantages and disadvantages to being proactive (self confident in knowing your value and what you want)...
- the advantage is that you do not what to leave anything to chance that if you 'snooze you may just loose' the opportunity of a life-time...
- the disadvantage is that your instincts could very well be deceived by the master deceivers...
Have faith, and I pray that you find what you are looking for...