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Thank you. I have a story to tell about that too.
I worked for many years. A fellow co-worker came up to me one day and said, "Oh, I met your step-daughter the other day." Honestly, I just stood there for a few seconds with a puzzled look on my face and really didn't put it together until I was told her (my daughter's) name. We all laughed about it and I went on to tell my friend that I had raised her since she was four and had never thought of her as my step-daughter. It was a fun moment.
I worked for many years. A fellow co-worker came up to me one day and said, "Oh, I met your step-daughter the other day." Honestly, I just stood there for a few seconds with a puzzled look on my face and really didn't put it together until I was told her (my daughter's) name. We all laughed about it and I went on to tell my friend that I had raised her since she was four and had never thought of her as my step-daughter.
It was a fun moment.
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Sure, sometimes it depends on the event. Say, for instance, a casual introduction to strangers when the ex is not present. "These are our children" is sufficient. Discernment is the key.
This is a great point... I have ever would advise a boy the same way I advised her in this thread. But I do believe you are on to something.
I really don't feel that I can say why one should be weary of marrying someone with children. There are many reasons I listed the gentler ones.
Ugly you are quite wise.... hmmm
I really don't feel that I can say why one should be weary of marrying someone with children. There are many reasons I listed the gentler ones.
Ugly you are quite wise.... hmmm
Jesus knows what he has planned for you. I was pretty set on a man with no kids at home, but the Lord has changed my heart to whatever be your will, Lord. I know studies show combined marriages with children from two sets of parents rarely make it, because of too much stress, but Jesus knows what you can handle and if he is in it, it will work. It doesn't hurt to date them and see if your heart changes as you get to know his kids and they get to know you, but ultuimately it's up to you. Jesus will give you the desires of your heart if you are seeking his Kingdom first.
Personal preferences are fine as long as you aren't excluding possibilities out by using them. You may prefer that your future husband not already have children, but would you completely write off someone amazing because of that?
Granted, getting involved with someone who already has kids makes you need to consider a lot of things. They are precious lives that would be added into yours; it is not just you and the guy. Things can get messy if exes are still present.
However, I'd encourage you not to write off men with kids simply because they have kids.
Granted, getting involved with someone who already has kids makes you need to consider a lot of things. They are precious lives that would be added into yours; it is not just you and the guy. Things can get messy if exes are still present.
However, I'd encourage you not to write off men with kids simply because they have kids.
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This is just my opinion on this...
If you are that turned off by the idea of a man with children, then just don't date them. Don't waste his time or yours. Because if you feel that way about it, it's unlikely that you're going to really care much for his kids...and if you're in a serious relationship with somebody who already has children, while you may not need to be a parent to those kids, you would need to grow to love them.
It kills me to see people with kids get into a relationship with someone who is, at best, indifferent towards the kids.
Don't be that person.
If you are that turned off by the idea of a man with children, then just don't date them. Don't waste his time or yours. Because if you feel that way about it, it's unlikely that you're going to really care much for his kids...and if you're in a serious relationship with somebody who already has children, while you may not need to be a parent to those kids, you would need to grow to love them.
It kills me to see people with kids get into a relationship with someone who is, at best, indifferent towards the kids.
Don't be that person.