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Peccatus

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I figured i would add in my 2 cents on the topics of dating and relationships. Needless to say, i have had quite a few relationships, only 3 serious ones but the one thing that i have noticed that all of them have in common is that i am always the one left with the wound in my chest. Not an exaggeration either. I used to be and still kind of am a cutter and i would always take it out on myself when things went wrong. All of my relationships ave always ended with me being the one in pain and the other person going on like nothing had happened. I got to watch ex's and at the time girlfriends sleeping with other people and think to myself "what did i do wrong?", it was a bonding experience i think (yes that was sarcasm). So anyways, my opinion is this. The idea that everyone has to have someone to be there for them and to have a relationship with them is ridiculous. The only thing i have learned in my experiences is that i am better off alone, i don't need anyone. It's not that i am scared of what might happen or how bad i will be hurt because to tell the truth the pain only fuels me. The reason why i choose to be alone is just that i am done with the whole thing. I might be alone for the rest of my life and i am perfectly okay with that. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that i will pass up every opportunity that comes my way but it will take a whole lot of time for me to want to get into something.

Besides, i have plenty of things to keep my mind off of other people. Like video games. I can start one up and lose myself for hours, same goes for reading. And when i get lonely i have my imaginary friend Vince to keep me company. Right Vince? (silence) See he has my back.

You can take what you want from this or flag it as innapropriate but it is just my views and the way things are for me.
 
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Peccatus

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And there is also the music of Dallas Green to keep me company.
 
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p91

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haha, This actually made me laugh (I am sorry if that's an inappropriate reaction to your post). I am sure Vince is glad for your company.
 
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Peccatus

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You laughed at my story...that is so mean :( Actually it was meant to be some what funny but it is still true though. I was going to add in a part with Vince, myself and cupcakes but if i did that i figured nobody would take it seriously.
 
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p91

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Can I borrow Vince? He seems to be an excellent friend.
 
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Peccatus

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Sure but there are a couple rules you have to follow with him. First off, never feed him after midnight and second, never ever get him wet.
 
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SaraJoRedlocks

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Peccatus said:
And there is also the music of Dallas Green to keep me company.
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City and Colour is Love.

Just saying.

Dallas Green is my favorite Canadian.
 
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Peccatus

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Dallas Green has to be one of the best musicians i have ever heard.
 
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lordsservant121

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Peccatus said:
I figured i would add in my 2 cents on the topics of dating and relationships. Needless to say, i have had quite a few relationships, only 3 serious ones but the one thing that i have noticed that all of them have in common is that i am always the one left with the wound in my chest. Not an exaggeration either. I used to be and still kind of am a cutter and i would always take it out on myself when things went wrong. All of my relationships ave always ended with me being the one in pain and the other person going on like nothing had happened. I got to watch ex's and at the time girlfriends sleeping with other people and think to myself "what did i do wrong?", it was a bonding experience i think (yes that was sarcasm). So anyways, my opinion is this. The idea that everyone has to have someone to be there for them and to have a relationship with them is ridiculous. The only thing i have learned in my experiences is that i am better off alone, i don't need anyone. It's not that i am scared of what might happen or how bad i will be hurt because to tell the truth the pain only fuels me. The reason why i choose to be alone is just that i am done with the whole thing. I might be alone for the rest of my life and i am perfectly okay with that. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that i will pass up every opportunity that comes my way but it will take a whole lot of time for me to want to get into something.

Besides, i have plenty of things to keep my mind off of other people. Like video games. I can start one up and lose myself for hours, same goes for reading. And when i get lonely i have my imaginary friend Vince to keep me company. Right Vince? (silence) See he has my back.

You can take what you want from this or flag it as innapropriate but it is just my views and the way things are for me.
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I also have always been cheated on in every relationship I have ever had. I am a long distance guy. I date for years and I am faithful but every woman who has been in my life as a girlfriend has cheated on me. Last to leave and cheat was my wife. I am sure she has her side of the story but she cheated, lied about it and then left. I have GOD in my life now and I read all the time. I have no interest in dating anymore but I find myself being set up. I have family that sets up account for me to date online and then say its a friend of theres. I am scared of being hurt again. I know that because she cheated, I am off the hook but love doesn't work like that so I am done. If GOD wants me to be with someone, HE will make it happen.....but HE knows who I want. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.
 
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juliet84

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Peccatus said:
I figured i would add in my 2 cents on the topics of dating and relationships. Needless to say, i have had quite a few relationships, only 3 serious ones but the one thing that i have noticed that all of them have in common is that i am always the one left with the wound in my chest. Not an exaggeration either. I used to be and still kind of am a cutter and i would always take it out on myself when things went wrong. All of my relationships ave always ended with me being the one in pain and the other person going on like nothing had happened. I got to watch ex's and at the time girlfriends sleeping with other people and think to myself "what did i do wrong?", it was a bonding experience i think (yes that was sarcasm). So anyways, my opinion is this. The idea that everyone has to have someone to be there for them and to have a relationship with them is ridiculous. The only thing i have learned in my experiences is that i am better off alone, i don't need anyone. It's not that i am scared of what might happen or how bad i will be hurt because to tell the truth the pain only fuels me. The reason why i choose to be alone is just that i am done with the whole thing. I might be alone for the rest of my life and i am perfectly okay with that. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that i will pass up every opportunity that comes my way but it will take a whole lot of time for me to want to get into something.

Besides, i have plenty of things to keep my mind off of other people. Like video games. I can start one up and lose myself for hours, same goes for reading. And when i get lonely i have my imaginary friend Vince to keep me company. Right Vince? (silence) See he has my back.

You can take what you want from this or flag it as innapropriate but it is just my views and the way things are for me.
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Im sorry to hear how heartbroken you are, and the way you wrote this sounds like you are in so much pain and that you almost give up. It takes time to heal..Not sure if you are a Christian, but if you are, you have our loving Father to talk to when you get lonely, not just Vince lol
 
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thimsrebma

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I have an imaginary friend too. His name is Tommy Bedinco.
 
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Peccatus

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Well thank you very much Mr. lordsservant121. I was never married but the last woman to cheat and or kill me was a girl that i was with for 9 years. I'm just at the point where i stopped looking because i am tired of this happening. If something is meant to happen it will happen.

Thank you for the kind words juliet84, it is always nice to have someone understand. I actually am not a Christian at this point in time. I was never raised into or by religion so i have had to make my own way. Religion is a very big topic for me, maybe one day i will go off on a rant and explain how i feel about religion.

Thimsrebma...maybe our imaginary friends should get together and go bowling and then they can make us cupcakes. Now that sounds like a great idea to me.
 
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thimsrebma

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Peccatus said:
Well thank you very much Mr. lordsservant121. I was never married but the last woman to cheat and or kill me was a girl that i was with for 9 years. I'm just at the point where i stopped looking because i am tired of this happening. If something is meant to happen it will happen.

Thank you for the kind words juliet84, it is always nice to have someone understand. I actually am not a Christian at this point in time. I was never raised into or by religion so i have had to make my own way. Religion is a very big topic for me, maybe one day i will go off on a rant and explain how i feel about religion.

Thimsrebma...maybe our imaginary friends should get together and go bowling and then they can make us cupcakes. Now that sounds like a great idea to me.
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That sounds great. I like cupcakes. But I like homemade icecream better. Maybe they can make both.
 
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Peccatus

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Sounds good to me. Homemade ice cream is very good. I have a store here in The Mich called Cold Stone Creamery and they make some good ice cream.
 
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