Re: Singles and Sex: "Marriage is the Answer!" So Why So Many Heartbroken Marriages?
Okay, so this poll interests me. As a matter of fact my church is talking about Guardrails and how we should not wreck our sex lives. We NEED guardrails. Guardrails are those things on the side of the road that protect you, but these will also protect us in everyday life. Gods word is our guardrail. We need to learn to set up so we can aim for success in all areas of our lives. It is normal for us to have feelings, heck in Genesis2 God talks about how he is the creator of sex. But and this is a big but, he says in verse 24 " Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. First point sex is a good idea. If sex is a fire God brought the matches, said my pastor. Point number two sex is made for marriage and marriage only. Like the bible says they should leave there mother and father and unite (AKA become married)> This is because sex is not just an physicall thing, but a spiritual and emotional thing. Sex is like glue, it is when two hearts become one when our souls connect. Sex was meant for love of two people made from God. You say oh sex before marriageisn't bad. i am not ashamed, well there is socialtal shamefulness. If we could just get this one right then there would not be sex trafficing, or rape, no child pornography, no pornography, no aids, no stds, and no abortion.
Gods plan does work, you just need to Trust him and have a little faith in him. 1st corinthians 6:18 says for us to FLEE from sexual imorality.
And if you have already have had sex before marriage. It is not too late to change. In john8 it talks about a woman who was taken abou tto be stoned because she had commited adultery. Jesus wrote something in the sand and told them people "let him who is without sin cast the first stone." and they all dropped their stones and left. Jesus said to the woman.. " where are those who condemed you? They are gone. I do NOT condem you. Please SIN NO MORE!
If you are married here are some guardrails to live by:
A. Don't travel alone with members of the opposite sex
B. Don't eat alone with members of the opposite sex
C. Don't fall into the facebook trap. 68% of divorces are because of internet relations
D. Do NOT confide in or counsel with the opposite sex
The relationship with a spouse is more important. Jesus called us to love our spouse and children and he said he would take care of the rest. To lay our burrdens down on him and have faith and trust in the lord.
Sex is a process!
1. Holding hands
2. kiss on the lips
3. making out
4. touching
5 intercourse
Do NOT slip into the process before marriage because your soul will become broken and empty from the piece of yourself you have given away to what you thought was love or to what you thought was something special. Now you are left to pick up the pieces. This is why most marriages are not lasting or unsucessful, because they are still broken from previous relations with others. That and they might not have a relationship with Jesus.
Check out the Oaks Ferllowship through Google. It is located in Red Oak Texas and they are speaking about Guardrails in life. it is amazing and life changing.
