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Jyten
God said in the bible for it is not good for man to be alone so I do not believe that it is wrong of you to desire a kind, caring, loving woman in your life. You sound a like me many years ago. I do believe in the part of your letter that it takes time to get to get to know the girl before asking her out. Based on your letter I would have to say that you certainly do love God enough which is with your whole body, mind and soul.
If you have prayed for God to provide you a suitable mate please be assured that he will certainly answer that prayer. I totally agree that you must have a clear understanding on what you are expecting in marriage and also what you have to offer.
I will offer some practicable advice: You will never find the "perfect" girl - everyone has their flaws. Learn to accept that as you are not "perfect" yourself. Do not spend an unnecessary amount of time to get to know someone as, despite what you say, you have a firm understanding of who you are and where you are heading and I am sure that you do know what to expect or desire in a single, available Christian woman. You obviously do not have a fear of rejection which is a good thing. Be aware that the woman you may pursue probably has similar fears as you do as regard to looks or not being good enough. What I would do is to make that woman feel as comfortable about herself as you yourself feel towards her. If she tries to do the same for you then you know you have a keeper. One other thing, forgot about long engagements. Once you decide that she is the one that you want make a bold, decisive move to make her yours.
I have found myself single after many years and I am wondering myself if I really want to remain alone for the rest of my life. I do not think that I do. We have both prayed to God for guidance, let's trust him in this and go find that special someone, partner. This will be quite an adventure and not one for the faint hearted. We can do this! God is with us.
God said in the bible for it is not good for man to be alone so I do not believe that it is wrong of you to desire a kind, caring, loving woman in your life. You sound a like me many years ago. I do believe in the part of your letter that it takes time to get to get to know the girl before asking her out. Based on your letter I would have to say that you certainly do love God enough which is with your whole body, mind and soul.
If you have prayed for God to provide you a suitable mate please be assured that he will certainly answer that prayer. I totally agree that you must have a clear understanding on what you are expecting in marriage and also what you have to offer.
I will offer some practicable advice: You will never find the "perfect" girl - everyone has their flaws. Learn to accept that as you are not "perfect" yourself. Do not spend an unnecessary amount of time to get to know someone as, despite what you say, you have a firm understanding of who you are and where you are heading and I am sure that you do know what to expect or desire in a single, available Christian woman. You obviously do not have a fear of rejection which is a good thing. Be aware that the woman you may pursue probably has similar fears as you do as regard to looks or not being good enough. What I would do is to make that woman feel as comfortable about herself as you yourself feel towards her. If she tries to do the same for you then you know you have a keeper. One other thing, forgot about long engagements. Once you decide that she is the one that you want make a bold, decisive move to make her yours.
I have found myself single after many years and I am wondering myself if I really want to remain alone for the rest of my life. I do not think that I do. We have both prayed to God for guidance, let's trust him in this and go find that special someone, partner. This will be quite an adventure and not one for the faint hearted. We can do this! God is with us.
G
I am a single woman who has been reading these posts. I have been reading the book Getting Ready to Get Married. Excellent book. It's basically for women but the whole premise is that men need to get on the ball and start finding a wife especially in their 20s because the female clock is ticking. I would ask that you find a book to read that encourages men to find women that will eventually become their soul mates. I am also reading Date or Soulmate by the founder of eHarmony. It has many great ideas on finding the right mate and has exercises on how to determine whether that person will work out as a possible mate.