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When someone ask that in a rude manner i answer "I dont know" but almost all the time I answer "God hasnt showed me yet the man that will be my husband" (or something similar) which have 3 kind of reactions, the first one is that they look at me surprised as if they dont believe what i say, the second one is when they look at me and say "oh thats so cute", and the 3rd one they look at me and laugh.
Im not upset about it anymore so i try to answer the questions as much simple as I can.
I feel under microscope all the time anyway haha, actually, the other day i was talking with a friend and i asked him if there were something particular about me that made that my neighbors were so interested in my life and he told me that they were so interested because i was single and they may were asking themselves all the time why i wasnt married. lol I dont know if that is true or why, i think sometimes its because there are ppl that cant be without a partner.
Im not upset about it anymore so i try to answer the questions as much simple as I can.
I feel under microscope all the time anyway haha, actually, the other day i was talking with a friend and i asked him if there were something particular about me that made that my neighbors were so interested in my life and he told me that they were so interested because i was single and they may were asking themselves all the time why i wasnt married. lol I dont know if that is true or why, i think sometimes its because there are ppl that cant be without a partner.
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So....why are you not married?
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Is God asking you this question?
If not, then you don't want to be married. And, will you KNOW that you should be married if you are not married? The clear answer is YES if the Spirit of God resides in you, and, good news!, He does
For I know the plans I have for you, plans for a future and a hope, plans for good and not for evil , doesn't it say this in Jeremiah ? YES
God is speaking through the prophet, Jeremiah . One more reason to and not to feel any {pressure} to marry
Singleness is good for you IF it is from God for you. Now, say that last sentence three times fast, then, take three aspirin, and, finally, please, call me in the morning
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Is God asking you this question?
If not, then you don't want to be married. And, will you KNOW that you should be married if you are not married? The clear answer is YES if the Spirit of God resides in you, and, good news!, He does
For I know the plans I have for you, plans for a future and a hope, plans for good and not for evil , doesn't it say this in Jeremiah ? YES
God is speaking through the prophet, Jeremiah . One more reason to
and not to feel any {pressure} to marry Singleness is good for you IF it is from God for you. Now, say that last sentence three times fast, then, take three aspirin, and, finally, please, call me in the morning
Depends on who is asking..
Sometimes something like this: I only believe in marriage once, so I take it too seriously to rush into anything, picky, etc. etc. Ask God.
I should probably consdense that to: Ask God. ha.
Otherwise it could just be something like: Well, I'm just living the single life. yadda yadda....
I also might say something such as "I'm fine with how things are" if the person asking is someone I think is going to try to hook me up with their 3rd cousin's best friend's sister or something like that. NO thank you......unless she really really loves God, music, cute and all that stuff...but I'd still be very very reluctant..
Most of the times I've heard it, it was intended as a compliment.
Sometimes something like this: I only believe in marriage once, so I take it too seriously to rush into anything, picky, etc. etc. Ask God.
I should probably consdense that to: Ask God. ha.
Otherwise it could just be something like: Well, I'm just living the single life. yadda yadda....
I also might say something such as "I'm fine with how things are" if the person asking is someone I think is going to try to hook me up with their 3rd cousin's best friend's sister or something like that. NO thank you......unless she really really loves God, music, cute and all that stuff...but I'd still be very very reluctant..
Most of the times I've heard it, it was intended as a compliment.
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I've found that most commonly we get the "why aren't you married" question from people of the opposite gender. I know I most commonly hear it from women. At least in my experience the question has come from people who see me as a respectable, hard working man and are legitimately wondering why someone who seems to be a great "catch" hasn't gotten married.
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Speaking of compliments, how about this one, which is nice to hear but it probably doesn't make one feel any better....
You're too good for her (or 'him' if you are a 'her.') .
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I have heard this before, not too often, but one girl that was said to me for ended up getting a really good job and marrying a top gun flight pilot and is richer than the California hills now . Good for her Bad for him
'Course, the Lord leads, and, probably, the only thing that kept me from pursuing her way back when, I was like 24 at this time, was that she was not vocal about God. I was. I am, too, and, I always will be . Sounds like gone love, now love, and, to-come love, and, it is , paradoxically speaking, I was more in Love with God at 24 than I was with her and I am now in Love with God more than her and I will always be more in Love with Him than any her I say that sillily but I am dead-serious too. You should be too, miladies, and, my du--- no, like, I said before, you was never my dudues, you am not now my dudes and you will always never be my dudes
OK, Christ bros., you too, I can double, no, I can quadruple-dog guarantee you that IF you put God first, above all else, like Michael W. Smith sings, then that will bring along your best chance for a 'her,' because God will see you are ready for she to be your her. Was that gramatically correct or what
Sorry, julieannie, if I am starting to deyarn your thread The Lord leads.
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When someone says to me , 'So why are you not married,' hmmm, I guess I just haven't lived enough, I can't remember a girl saying that to me.
Speaking of compliments, how about this one, which is nice to hear but it probably doesn't make one feel any better....
You're too good for her (or 'him' if you are a 'her.'
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I have heard this before, not too often, but one girl that was said to me for ended up getting a really good job and marrying a top gun flight pilot and is richer than the California hills now . Good for her
Bad for him 'Course, the Lord leads, and, probably, the only thing that kept me from pursuing her way back when, I was like 24 at this time, was that she was not vocal about God. I was. I am, too, and, I always will be . Sounds like gone love, now love, and, to-come love, and, it is , paradoxically speaking, I was more in Love with God at 24 than I was with her and I am now in Love with God more than her and I will always be more in Love with Him than any her
I say that sillily but I am dead-serious too. You should be too, miladies, and, my du--- no, like, I said before, you was never my dudues, you am not now my dudes and you will always never be my dudes OK, Christ bros., you too, I can double, no, I can quadruple-dog guarantee you that IF you put God first, above all else, like Michael W. Smith sings, then that will bring along your best chance for a 'her,' because God will see you are ready for she to be your her. Was that gramatically correct or what
Sorry, julieannie, if I am starting to deyarn your thread
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When someone says to me , 'So why are you not married,' hmmm, I guess I just haven't lived enough, I can't remember a girl saying that to me.
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I have heard this before, not too often, but one girl that was said to me for ended up getting a really good job and marrying a top gun flight pilot and is richer than the California hills now . Good for her Bad for him
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nOT THAT ANYONE has a clue of what I say , y'all probably better off for not having a clue , anyway, the Lord leads, but I was not saying that the 'bad for him' was directed at the top gun pilot fighter that married the girl that liked me that I just never would give a chance because she was nice as could be and sweet but just didn't EVER decide on Jesus.
Anway , the bad for him = me. Not him. Boy, am I sure confusing tonight. Must be the 10 Subway ooey gooey choclately and white macadamianutty peanutbuttery , oh wait, I still have that one LEFT (woo-hoo!) .
Well, I will end there. It's just gotta be it, I tell ya ! The Lord leads And trust you me, He is stopping me as I am being way tooo cookie, I mean, kooky, golly, I just can't spell well, but at least I can rhyme, my peeps, and,wouldn't you say that is swell , Christ bros and belles .
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nOT THAT ANYONE has a clue of what I say , y'all probably better off for not having a clue
, anyway, the Lord leads, but I was not saying that the 'bad for him' was directed at the top gun pilot fighter that married the girl that liked me that I just never would give a chance because she was nice as could be and sweet but just didn't EVER decide on Jesus. Anway , the bad for him
= me. Not him. Boy, am I sure confusing tonight. Must be the 10 Subway ooey gooey choclately and white macadamianutty peanutbuttery , oh wait, I still have that one LEFT (woo-hoo!) . Well, I will end there. It's just gotta be it, I tell ya ! The Lord leads
And trust you me, He is stopping me as I am being way tooo cookie, I mean, kooky, golly, I just can't spell well, but at least I can rhyme, my peeps, and,wouldn't you say that is swell , Christ bros and belles .
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Must be the 10 Subway ooey gooey choclately and white macadamianutty peanutbuttery , oh wait, I still have that one LEFT (woo-hoo!) .
Well, I will end there. It's just gotta be it, I tell ya ! The Lord leads And trust you me, He is stopping me as I am being way tooo cookie, I mean, kooky, golly, I just can't spell well, but at least I can rhyme, my peeps, and,wouldn't you say that is swell , Christ bros and belles .
. Well, I will end there. It's just gotta be it, I tell ya ! The Lord leads
And trust you me, He is stopping me as I am being way tooo cookie, I mean, kooky, golly, I just can't spell well, but at least I can rhyme, my peeps, and,wouldn't you say that is swell , Christ bros and belles .
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If we are speaking in the context of a potential relationship, I always tell them that God has not shown me the right one yet. I ask myself this from time to time and then remind myself that technically I could have been married four times by now ... but I want to be married ONCE - not FOUR times! LOL. When speaking to someone who is just curious, I tell them I am biding my time in God.
"A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man has to seek Him to find her."
"A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man has to seek Him to find her."
I was asked this once long ago by an elderly woman. It merely showed how much things have changed since the 1940's and 50's. In fact, I'll never forget interviewing this WWII vet who married his wife and having his first child before leaving for France...he was 18 years old.
That made me think of how we have extended childhood to the point at which childhood is no longer special and adulthood is no longer well defined.
That made me think of how we have extended childhood to the point at which childhood is no longer special and adulthood is no longer well defined.
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I am sure God has a plan for you. Should It be for you and a man to be together to do his will, then when the time is right so shall it come to pass dear. If that door hasn't been opened yet, then why should you worry what people think and ask such questions. You be you Julianna and the Julianna that God wants you to be. Married or Single, just be.