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To me, there's something really special about guys who try to comfort their friends.
I overheard a conversation the other day between two young (early 20's) male co-workers, and one was going through a really hard time, just spilling everything that was going on. The other was trying to console him, saying, "Yeah man... I know what you mean... I've been there, man..." and I had to smile to myself.
I understand. A guy has to put up a manly front and try not to sound too emotional. And they're both non-Christians who are still in that party stage ("What you need to do, man, is come on over and have a few beers with us"), but I really appreciated the sentiment behind it. I've been there (well, not as far as inviting people over for beer) and I know how awkward it can be--you want them to know you care but you're not sure how to relay that appropriately in the situation.
I wished I could have hugged them both like little brothers and told them it's going to be ok, but I just went about my work without saying a word... and silently prayed the whole time.
I overheard a conversation the other day between two young (early 20's) male co-workers, and one was going through a really hard time, just spilling everything that was going on. The other was trying to console him, saying, "Yeah man... I know what you mean... I've been there, man..." and I had to smile to myself.
I understand. A guy has to put up a manly front and try not to sound too emotional. And they're both non-Christians who are still in that party stage ("What you need to do, man, is come on over and have a few beers with us"), but I really appreciated the sentiment behind it. I've been there (well, not as far as inviting people over for beer) and I know how awkward it can be--you want them to know you care but you're not sure how to relay that appropriately in the situation.
I wished I could have hugged them both like little brothers and told them it's going to be ok, but I just went about my work without saying a word... and silently prayed the whole time.
Hey, Immawildthing, I saw your first note come through about your MIL, and now this one, and I can really relate to what you are feeling. You feel threatened. It sounds like maybe you are worried about a loss of control, as well. I married at the very young age of 18, and had my first baby at 19. My husband and I lived on my in-law's property. My MIL was SUPER EXCITED to have a grandbaby. You can imagine how that went. When the baby was only a few days old, she came over and wanted to take the baby all around town to show to people. I, being very young and not having the wisdom or boldness to know how to handle the situation, let her do it but insisted on going along too. After that things got a bit better but I still felt very unsure of myself as a mother, and therefore threatened by my MIL's attention to my baby. Her confidence with the baby bothered me. Her familiarity bothered me. I just didn't feel comfortable.
Looking back, there was nothing really wrong that my mother-in-law was doing, except maybe not being sensitive enough to what I might be feeling as a new mother with a first baby. She was excited about the baby. I just didn't feel comfortable enough with her to relax about it, and I didn't know her well enough to be honest.
I know this is your second child, so you are probably a bit more confident as a new mother than I was, but your MIL is still very new to you, and obviously very excited about having a grandbaby. It's hard not to want to get into a power-struggle, I imagine. Just remember that you are this baby's mother, and she realizes that. She just wants to hold on for a little while.
Looking back, there was nothing really wrong that my mother-in-law was doing, except maybe not being sensitive enough to what I might be feeling as a new mother with a first baby. She was excited about the baby. I just didn't feel comfortable enough with her to relax about it, and I didn't know her well enough to be honest.
I know this is your second child, so you are probably a bit more confident as a new mother than I was, but your MIL is still very new to you, and obviously very excited about having a grandbaby. It's hard not to want to get into a power-struggle, I imagine. Just remember that you are this baby's mother, and she realizes that. She just wants to hold on for a little while.
You didn't read my response post, Roh_Chris. I had 2 awesome personal trainers as well as a few spotters and training partners. I've also trained others. I was just looking for others on CC who do free weights.
Hey, congrats on your awesome muscle building!! That's waaaay great! Continued good luck to you!!
Hey, congrats on your awesome muscle building!! That's waaaay great! Continued good luck to you!!
I am also someone who does a lot of free weights. There are specific days on which my trainer asks me to do machines but that's only when he wants me to stretch or warm-up a particular muscle. The rest of the workouts are all done using free weights.
I think free weights rock!
C
You didn't read my response post, Roh_Chris. I had 2 awesome personal trainers as well as a few spotters and training partners. I've also trained others. I was just looking for others on CC who do free weights.
Hey, congrats on your awesome muscle building!! That's waaaay great! Continued good luck to you!!
Hey, congrats on your awesome muscle building!! That's waaaay great! Continued good luck to you!!
Oh, Tintin... you just need to find something you enjoy doing!!
The first thing that got me going was kung fu!!! (yes... you can blame Neo and the whole Matrix gang for that)... When I saw I was gonna be able to fight with the weapons my rpg characters did, I went nuts...
I'm sure the day you find something that excites you, you will stick to it!! 
M
Must. Vent. Or BOOM.
So, my husband- he's on call this week. Monday to Monday he has to be within 15 minutes of work, which means he has to stay in town. Luckily, the place he works for bought a house years and years ago for the sole purpose of giving their on-call employees a FREE place to stay.
Here's the thing- my husband is the ONLY one who ever stays in the basement of this house, and he's the only one who stays there more than a couple of nights a week. Therefore, his direct boss has allowed him to put a lock on his bedroom door and use that ONE room out of all five bedrooms in the house as his own. FOR TWO YEARS. He's one of only two men who ever stay there, and 95% of the time he's the only person even at this house. He minds his own business and cleans the place before he leaves and nobody would even notice he's there except that there's only one bathroom and *gasp* occasionally a nurse staying there might have to wait five minutes for him to shower and leave before she can use it.
One of the nurses who stays there sometimes complained. About the house having only one bathroom, and about my husband having a lock on his door so nobody else can use that room. She has complained that the house is old and wants it remodeled. She complains that the basement isn't a separate apartment just for the two men who ever stay there. Basically she complains about everything, and now...
My husband has to pay $350 a month to keep his room there private. Despite the fact that this one woman is the ONLY one who cares that he has a lock on the door, and SHE DOESNT EVEN GO IN THE BASEMENT. Ever. She's just upset that she doesn't also have her own private room, since all the women who stay there all choose to be upstairs.
It's very...frustrating. That all it takes is one person whining-and she was literally the only one with an issue about it.
I understand making things fair for everyone. But how was it UNfair? Nobody used that room until my husband started staying there. Nobody even used ANY of the basement. Why pitch a fit over something she doesn't even WANT?
*sigh*
So, my husband- he's on call this week. Monday to Monday he has to be within 15 minutes of work, which means he has to stay in town. Luckily, the place he works for bought a house years and years ago for the sole purpose of giving their on-call employees a FREE place to stay.
Here's the thing- my husband is the ONLY one who ever stays in the basement of this house, and he's the only one who stays there more than a couple of nights a week. Therefore, his direct boss has allowed him to put a lock on his bedroom door and use that ONE room out of all five bedrooms in the house as his own. FOR TWO YEARS. He's one of only two men who ever stay there, and 95% of the time he's the only person even at this house. He minds his own business and cleans the place before he leaves and nobody would even notice he's there except that there's only one bathroom and *gasp* occasionally a nurse staying there might have to wait five minutes for him to shower and leave before she can use it.
One of the nurses who stays there sometimes complained. About the house having only one bathroom, and about my husband having a lock on his door so nobody else can use that room. She has complained that the house is old and wants it remodeled. She complains that the basement isn't a separate apartment just for the two men who ever stay there. Basically she complains about everything, and now...
My husband has to pay $350 a month to keep his room there private. Despite the fact that this one woman is the ONLY one who cares that he has a lock on the door, and SHE DOESNT EVEN GO IN THE BASEMENT. Ever. She's just upset that she doesn't also have her own private room, since all the women who stay there all choose to be upstairs.
It's very...frustrating. That all it takes is one person whining-and she was literally the only one with an issue about it.
I understand making things fair for everyone. But how was it UNfair? Nobody used that room until my husband started staying there. Nobody even used ANY of the basement. Why pitch a fit over something she doesn't even WANT?
*sigh*
Hey, Immawildthing, I saw your first note come through about your MIL, and now this one, and I can really relate to what you are feeling. You feel threatened. It sounds like maybe you are worried about a loss of control, as well. I married at the very young age of 18, and had my first baby at 19. My husband and I lived on my in-law's property. My MIL was SUPER EXCITED to have a grandbaby. You can imagine how that went. When the baby was only a few days old, she came over and wanted to take the baby all around town to show to people. I, being very young and not having the wisdom or boldness to know how to handle the situation, let her do it but insisted on going along too. After that things got a bit better but I still felt very unsure of myself as a mother, and therefore threatened by my MIL's attention to my baby. Her confidence with the baby bothered me. Her familiarity bothered me. I just didn't feel comfortable.
Looking back, there was nothing really wrong that my mother-in-law was doing, except maybe not being sensitive enough to what I might be feeling as a new mother with a first baby. She was excited about the baby. I just didn't feel comfortable enough with her to relax about it, and I didn't know her well enough to be honest.
I know this is your second child, so you are probably a bit more confident as a new mother than I was, but your MIL is still very new to you, and obviously very excited about having a grandbaby. It's hard not to want to get into a power-struggle, I imagine. Just remember that you are this baby's mother, and she realizes that. She just wants to hold on for a little while.
Looking back, there was nothing really wrong that my mother-in-law was doing, except maybe not being sensitive enough to what I might be feeling as a new mother with a first baby. She was excited about the baby. I just didn't feel comfortable enough with her to relax about it, and I didn't know her well enough to be honest.
I know this is your second child, so you are probably a bit more confident as a new mother than I was, but your MIL is still very new to you, and obviously very excited about having a grandbaby. It's hard not to want to get into a power-struggle, I imagine. Just remember that you are this baby's mother, and she realizes that. She just wants to hold on for a little while.
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That awkward moment that you want to add someone to your youtube subscription list because you see them post something really enlightening and intelligent and you see that they are quite handsome too, and then you click on their youtube profile and their avatar is actually Ashton Kutcher.
HAHHAHA
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HAHHAHA
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