Ugly,
My answer may have been simplistic, but what's wrong with that? You need to control your emotions, it's Biblical. I know it's not easy but that's what you need to do. It will help you. I went through a difficult break up in 2009. I was so heart broken because I really thought this guy was the one I was going to marry. I went through a lot of time wasted on someone who didn't care about me. I just don't want you to do the same thing. I know you're grieving, but 1-2 weeks can quickly change to 6 months.
Yes, it would and it did! My mom told me exactly those words about two years ago. Yes, sometimes I do get depressed for about a day but nothing compared to how I was before then. I haven't cut myself since Dec. of 2012.
I thank my mom for telling me that because it's true! I am so blessed and have so much that God has given me, why should I be depressed? That's the way I started seeing things and it has helped out a lot. I now have a job as a tutor, I help out at church, and I'm going to school full time in something I never thought I would be able to understand. And this is all thanks to my mom for telling me like it is and God for helping me along the way.
Before that I was always at home, sad, working jobs that I didn't enjoy, and wanting to hurt myself. Sometimes simple, naive ideas, can help large, complex problems like that ones I had.
Sorry, I just thought it was going to help you like it did for me.
Haha we both live in SA huh?