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Siberian_Khatru said:
For sure. No matter how we might try to relate or give our two cents, we're still on the outside looking in. I just hope you have some support more than anything.
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Many times the ones on the outside can help the most, because they have more objective views. When i try to help people through things that's one of the points i make as to why i can see things better. I'm not mixed up in the emotion. But this time i'm the one mixed up in the emotion and struggling to see clearly, so the outsider is what i need. Thanks again.
 
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MollyConnor said:
Ugly,

My answer may have been simplistic, but what's wrong with that? You need to control your emotions, it's Biblical. I know it's not easy but that's what you need to do. It will help you. I went through a difficult break up in 2009. I was so heart broken because I really thought this guy was the one I was going to marry. I went through a lot of time wasted on someone who didn't care about me. I just don't want you to do the same thing. I know you're grieving, but 1-2 weeks can quickly change to 6 months.





Yes, it would and it did! My mom told me exactly those words about two years ago. Yes, sometimes I do get depressed for about a day but nothing compared to how I was before then. I haven't cut myself since Dec. of 2012.


I thank my mom for telling me that because it's true! I am so blessed and have so much that God has given me, why should I be depressed? That's the way I started seeing things and it has helped out a lot. I now have a job as a tutor, I help out at church, and I'm going to school full time in something I never thought I would be able to understand. And this is all thanks to my mom for telling me like it is and God for helping me along the way.

Before that I was always at home, sad, working jobs that I didn't enjoy, and wanting to hurt myself. Sometimes simple, naive ideas, can help large, complex problems like that ones I had.

Sorry, I just thought it was going to help you like it did for me.



Haha we both live in SA huh? :p
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I have responded to your PM. Hopefully what i put in there makes the point more clear.
Yes, those are the things i need to do, but it's normal to have to go through other feelings first, or to have to clear up things first. That is also a healthy way to do things. I've been down the route of not even being able to have the chance to work through things and Having to go through things the way you are expecting. As a result that situation has never entirely left me and 20 years later i still sometimes have it surface. It was not good for me.

And if that approach worked for you, then that is wonderful and i'm glad it worked. But not every person or every situation is the same. It's one thing to suggest it, but when someone tells you 'that won't work for me here' it's time to recognize that suggestion isn't meant for that time or person, as opposed to pushing it on them.
Being grateful is something i struggle with. Yes, there are things in my life to be grateful for, but often i find it hard to have what i'm grateful for outweigh what i have to go through. And as a result using gratitude sometimes makes things worse, not better, for me.

I know you meant well, and i do appreciate it, even if it doesn't seem like it. I'm just saying that right now it's not where i'm at. It's not going to work for me because i need to first get to the place where i am capable.
 
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Apparently i made a mistake asking for help. Had i known that such a request would lead to anyone expecting me to accept and follow their advice and having it pushed on me repeatedly, even when i try to explain why i'm not taking it, then i would not have posted anything. And having to deal with that while i'm already dealing with a lot, then being given a guilt trip. And being told to 'leave me alone', despite them initiating with me directly first. So please disregard any posts i've made in the past few days. I do not have the capacity to deal with guilt trips and tantrums from people who are 'helping' me. I will not return to this thread until i feel all of this is past and i won't have any more 'help'. So everyone please just pretend i have not posted here the past few days.
 
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Abing

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"Let some time pass and fight like heck to lean on the Lord." Re-echoing Blondie. Even if you're searching for answers right now, Ugly, you know you still won't be able to process them with all the emotional and physical pain you're going through. It's terribly hard. When you give your all, and this happens. The depression that follows is hard to bear. But we're here to listen if you just need to let it all out. I will keep you in my prayers too. How are you coping btw? I hope you're not dealing with all of this alone (I spent 2 weeks with my parents a month after my breakup, it helps a lot).
 
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with her new pajamas. Seriously I bought these new pajamas and they are so soft they're like wearing a cloud.
 
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I've stayed in bed for 12hrs now. And no I'm not sick. I'm just... And this isn't very Christian... Terribly lazy. Okay now that I've confessed my sins. I shall go and make some tea, and listen to Mandisa's Good Morning.
 
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Abing said:
I've stayed in bed for 12hrs now. And no I'm not sick. I'm just... And this isn't very Christian... Terribly lazy. Okay now that I've confessed my sins. I shall go and make some tea, and listen to Mandisa's Good Morning.
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Since when did becoming lazy be non-Christian? o_O
 
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Ugly, I think you're just getting a very raw deal from some people here. I am sorry about that. I would advise you to take a break from CC, if that will help you. I am here, in case you need someone to just talk to. Feel free to send me a PM. :)
 
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Abing said:
I've stayed in bed for 12hrs now. And no I'm not sick. I'm just... And this isn't very Christian... Terribly lazy. Okay now that I've confessed my sins. I shall go and make some tea, and listen to Mandisa's Good Morning.
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I LOVE that song btw! ;)
 
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I want to go do pull ups outside but it's too cold.
 
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Being lazy for one day is NOT non-Christian. :\

I think it is okay to laze for a couple of days if you are going through a stressful period.
 
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