Thank you all for the prayers
Yes, that's definitely true. Despite the fact that I don't like the way this has all come about, I DO want to see this young lady come to the Lord.
Well, it wasn't the main youth pastor. It was one of the assistant leaders who mentors the boys in the youth group. The reason he said this was because back when he and his now-fiancee (and my best friend) were 16, they snuck around and hid their relationships from her parents because she wasn't allowed to date. He told my brother that "sometimes parents just don't understand", and that "it worked for me". Also, back when he and my friend were 16 and sneaking around, what did our youth pastor say? Essentially this: "yeah, your parents are sooooo unreasonable. But we'll listen and always be there for you and we'll never tell your parents that you've been lying behind their backs".
*facepalm*