In the past, I never understood the struggle of singleness. I originally thought it was because I love being single, that I have no desire or design on marrying, and so I thought I was just content in my single life. Yes, I would have moments of loneliness and when I was younger, bouts of jealousy, but they were short-lived and only mildly inconvenient.
Recently, however, Jesus Christ revealed the truth to me. I was (and am) content being single because I know what He has planned for me. Does that make sense? A great many Christians do not know if God intends for them to marry or not and so they live their lives in a holding pattern, wishing and hoping and praying and believing, yet trying not to believe too intensely, for fear that God doesn't, in fact, have marriage for them.
I think that this is the reason so many Christians fall into fornication. They reach a point of desperation outweighing hopeful expectation and along comes a smooth talking "Christian" and compromises set in and choices are made. But what if you knew, absolutely knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, if God had marriage in the future for you...or not? Would it change things, or would it make things worse?
I daresay that you can know. God will tell you. It's just that sometimes we don't want to hear His answer. It may not be no, but rather "not for many years". More years of being single? How can I handle that?
It is rather interesting when you read these posts where someone asks what they would do if they knew that Jesus Christ wanted them to serve Him their entire life as a single person. What would they do? How would they respond? All the answers were the same:
I would be okay with it, BUT I don't believe He has called me to that.
Interesting. So, do you know? Do you know if He has called you to marry one day and how far in the future that day is? Trust me, if you ask Him, He will tell you. Just be prepared to receive His answer.
Only then will you have the assurance and the strength it takes to enjoy and properly invest yourself during your single life, be it short, long or indefinite.