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I'm sorry, but it seems like you have set your standards too high by your insisting on considering only women that are virgin to possibly start a relationship with leading to marriage.
The longer you have to wait the least likely it will be to find a women who is still a virgin. By limiting your choices you may possibly missing out on many sweet and loving spiritual women.
It's not a bad thing at all to remain a virgin until marriage but it seems to me to be unrealistic to hold the woman who may be your future wife to this ridged standard. People can make bad choices having sex outside of marriage but that does not mean they are not remorseful and desire to serve God.
What is more important to you, a woman who is a virgin but doe nor know and love God or a woman that loves God with all of her heart and is sorry for any sinful acts she may have committed?
The longer you have to wait the least likely it will be to find a women who is still a virgin. By limiting your choices you may possibly missing out on many sweet and loving spiritual women.
It's not a bad thing at all to remain a virgin until marriage but it seems to me to be unrealistic to hold the woman who may be your future wife to this ridged standard. People can make bad choices having sex outside of marriage but that does not mean they are not remorseful and desire to serve God.
What is more important to you, a woman who is a virgin but doe nor know and love God or a woman that loves God with all of her heart and is sorry for any sinful acts she may have committed?
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First off, I never said I would limit myself to a woman who is also a virgin. What I do want is a woman that understands and respect my choice to wait. I would even say that I am open to dating a woman that is a single mother.
Secondly, how would I have a relationship with a person that is halfway across the country? I don't like the idea of online dating and I wouldn't have the means to go see them when I needed them or when they need me. I feel like you only skimmed over the things I have said here.
Secondly, how would I have a relationship with a person that is halfway across the country? I don't like the idea of online dating and I wouldn't have the means to go see them when I needed them or when they need me. I feel like you only skimmed over the things I have said here.
When I was 16 I prayed that God would either lead me down a path that led to marriage or would give me grace to accept not bein married. So far I'm a 33 year old Virgin with no regrets. God granted me the grace I prayed for all those years ago. It's not always easy and it's not always fun, but 99 % of the time I'm content. I thoroughly enjoy my single time. I haven't given up on the hopes to one day get married, but thank the Lord it doesn't keep me up at night either. Don't let it get you down with God , that's what satan wants so you'll not be as effective in your walk with God. I hope God grants you the desires of your heart and one day you can encourage your kids to wait on God's leadership like you did. God bless
I really appreciated your honesty with this posting; I think it takes courage to talk openly about how our Christian faith can sometimes make dating difficult. I used to share your feelings and found myself becoming less social.
A good friend shared some great advice that I think might be helpful for you too. My friend said simply not to worry about it, but rather to focus on building a relationship with the person that I am dating. Once the guy I am dating can get to know me and understand more about my faith, my choice to wait until marriage would simply be another part of me, something to love and love and respect. My friend's advice helped me to look at my choice to wait as just another part of me, rather than the dating obstacle that society makes me feel it is.
Honestly, it has really helped me to become more social and to be more open to new friendships and relationships. Rather than being worried about how the sex conversation will go if/when it needs to happen; I just focus on letting that person get to know me. And most of the time - because my faith is such a part of my day-to-day life, when the conversation does come up the man I'm dating isn't surprised.
A good friend shared some great advice that I think might be helpful for you too. My friend said simply not to worry about it, but rather to focus on building a relationship with the person that I am dating. Once the guy I am dating can get to know me and understand more about my faith, my choice to wait until marriage would simply be another part of me, something to love and love and respect. My friend's advice helped me to look at my choice to wait as just another part of me, rather than the dating obstacle that society makes me feel it is.
Honestly, it has really helped me to become more social and to be more open to new friendships and relationships. Rather than being worried about how the sex conversation will go if/when it needs to happen; I just focus on letting that person get to know me. And most of the time - because my faith is such a part of my day-to-day life, when the conversation does come up the man I'm dating isn't surprised.
Hello... i dont know if my reply is worth anything or not since i am in a kind of different situation since i am not a virgin, i actually have children and have never been married.. i tried to do things my way in the past, and all that it got me was severe heartache and pain, but also a testimony so i cant be mad that God turns all things out for our good.. that being said i totally can relate to pulling away from people and i guess kind of giving up on the prayer that one day you will come across the person God has for you.. i have fought with myself, fought with my past, and fought with God' timing. I have good days and bad days.. i get tired of people telling me that i should be happy to be single and blah blah, bottom line is that i desire to be married... But God does know what is best.. i do believe i will be married and i do believe that before you get married you have to go through a process of refinement... i feel like i am ready now, but if i was then im sure i would be.. the days that i feel down and secluded, i pray.. that is really all you can do.. that and get in your Word and know you are not alone in your feelings.. some days i do not leave the house or try to fix myself up because im like whats the point... other days i dont even think about a husband and i am very care free.. take it one day at a time and keep your eyes on God and what it is that He wants for your life at this time... unfortunately in my experience being a christian has meant some days of loneliness and isolation because lets face it.. this isnt our home and we are different..it is inevitable... i do think if you can you should surround yourself with as many positive christians with like minded thinking as you can.. as a single mother i am limited on time with recreational activities and i am almost 35 so it is harder to be in the courting or dating scene whichever one you call it. but i believe when it is God's timing i dont have to go looking because my husband will find me wherever i am... it is hard to give you advice because as a man your role is to find your wife, for me i only have to wait and not do any finding. i pray God lead you in the direction and give you strength and peace in this season of your life to remember that you are not forgotten and that delay isnt always a no.. if you believe God will do it for you in His timing..
I'm a 24yrs old virgin male. I think if you want to find the right woman you should focus on God first. The Bible says(can't remember the verse number) "those who are single should focus on God and how to please him.." God will find u a great woman who will love you so much you will say it's too much.
What most people do is pray that God will lead you to a mate, and this is the lords promise to us Christians
Mark 11:24
"therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours."
John 14:13-14
"[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it."[/FONT]
[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]So god clearly tells us he will give us what we desire as long as it is according to his will but you must be born again to receive these gifts.
He also tells us he wont give us what we want because we ask wrongly
James 4:3
"[/FONT]You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions."
[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]Its all up to God man just leave it in his hands and they don't need to be a virgin as long as they are born again and living holy they are worth marrying, it doesn't matter if they used to be a prostitute as long as they are born again and living holy and for god they are worthy.
God bless you in JESUS name [/FONT]
Mark 11:24
"therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours."
John 14:13-14
"[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it."[/FONT]
[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]So god clearly tells us he will give us what we desire as long as it is according to his will but you must be born again to receive these gifts.
He also tells us he wont give us what we want because we ask wrongly
James 4:3
"[/FONT]You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions."
[FONT=Corbel, Verdana, sans-serif]Its all up to God man just leave it in his hands and they don't need to be a virgin as long as they are born again and living holy they are worth marrying, it doesn't matter if they used to be a prostitute as long as they are born again and living holy and for god they are worthy.
God bless you in JESUS name [/FONT]
Hi Nick, and welcome to the forum.
If you're preaching to the OP (original poster, the guy who started this thread) you should be aware he hasn't been seen since April of last year.
Please check the date of the last post in a thread before making a new post. If it has been a long time since the last post, it is usually considered a good idea to start a new thread instead of disinterring an old thread. Threads long dead are called zombie threads when somebody goes around digging them up.
But it's a wide open forum of course, and you are free to do as you like. Just a word to the wise.
If you're preaching to the OP (original poster, the guy who started this thread) you should be aware he hasn't been seen since April of last year.
Please check the date of the last post in a thread before making a new post. If it has been a long time since the last post, it is usually considered a good idea to start a new thread instead of disinterring an old thread. Threads long dead are called zombie threads when somebody goes around digging them up.
But it's a wide open forum of course, and you are free to do as you like. Just a word to the wise.
Wow! You have said well my dear precious sister. And I love this: "The Bible says that the cure to sexual temptation for single people is marriage. "
If anyone cannot handle sexual temptation, get marry immediately or else you will fall into it. Marry is good.
There are many precious brothers and sisters who are single Christians here on CC and they want to get marry. Why look very far while there are many of them here on CC? Pray to GOD about it and ask for his help and direction to meet the right one for you and then contact them. Most of the time people look far for something while it is just beside them.
If anyone cannot handle sexual temptation, get marry immediately or else you will fall into it. Marry is good.
There are many precious brothers and sisters who are single Christians here on CC and they want to get marry. Why look very far while there are many of them here on CC? Pray to GOD about it and ask for his help and direction to meet the right one for you and then contact them. Most of the time people look far for something while it is just beside them.