the dreaded 3rd party interference

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persecuted

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The_boy said:
I have the lovely problem of being noticeably passive. So 98% of the time for me she realizes "Oh, if I tell him to go away he will." I'm not exactly what one would call confident either, unless it's one of the RARE occasions where some girl hears me singing and decides to chat. Doesn't matter where I am, church, college, grocery store (the electronics girl caught my eye and I actually ran into her as she was off work.)
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I'm fine with the concept of "Oh, if I tell him to go away he will." but I realize my own fake confidence leads me into talking to girls and rejecting myself by believing they want me to go away when they have actually said or done nothing either way. I have this theory that you noticeably passive types have better chances than my type.... some girl may recognize your passiveness, think its cute, and take steps to reel you in. In my case, I don't think any chick gets that somehow I have a break point where I just wilt and turn to dust. I can start conversations that I know 90% of the male population never would but then I hit this wall and never advance to any true point. its kinda funny because I have seen male friends who were just terrified of women advance into longtime serious relationships and I'm still going absolutely nowhere with a dozen dumb stories a week of clever conversations and no results.
 
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Suzie2family

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persecuted said:
I'm fine with the concept of "Oh, if I tell him to go away he will." but I realize my own fake confidence leads me into talking to girls and rejecting myself by believing they want me to go away when they have actually said or done nothing either way. I have this theory that you noticeably passive types have better chances than my type.... some girl may recognize your passiveness, think its cute, and take steps to reel you in. In my case, I don't think any chick gets that somehow I have a break point where I just wilt and turn to dust. I can start conversations that I know 90% of the male population never would but then I hit this wall and never advance to any true point. its kinda funny because I have seen male friends who were just terrified of women advance into longtime serious relationships and I'm still going absolutely nowhere with a dozen dumb stories a week of clever conversations and no results.
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I think you've isolated your problem Persecuted. The greatest hurdle (90%) is surmounted by troubleshooting the disease. So you're almost there. The 10% you lack is in performing surgery (or allowing God's spirit to bring in the scalpel and do it) to remove this cancerous growth upon your soul that is hindering the possibility of a healthy social life.;)
 
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persecuted

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Suzie2family said:
I think you've isolated your problem Persecuted. The greatest hurdle (90%) is surmounted by troubleshooting the disease. So you're almost there. The 10% you lack is in performing surgery (or allowing God's spirit to bring in the scalpel and do it) to remove this cancerous growth upon your soul that is hindering the possibility of a healthy social life.;)
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Yeah, well, I actually figured all of this out about 5 years ago and its done nothing for me. Last week I actually ASKED out I think it was the THIRD girl in that 5 years of about let's say 900 I've flirted with in the same time period. As per usual the rejection left me with a demented happiness that I wouldn't have to go further with things and a lame satisfaction that I had actually fully tried. Two days later, I was pretty sure I was headed for number four when the third party interference occurred. Probably be months or another year now before number four ever happens. And yet just yesterday I looked some girl straight in the eyes and told her how hot she was. Yup, some people are just hopeless.
 
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ezekialswheel

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I notice when I get a conversation turned to something actually worth talking about like Jesus, the bible or God or something, that the phone rings! Or some sort of interuption that changes the subject.
Its a similar situation as you, Im sayin its the "invisible forces", you know the "Principalities and rulers in high places" thng.Thats my opinion.
 
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