I guess this is part of the can of worms I opened up with that understanding women in 5 steps thread...
After I graduated high school I took up bodybuilding and martial arts to improve my physique and there was a brief time when women actually found me attractive. I found myself getting stared at often and it felt great. Ive been told by a woman that if one woman thinks you're "hot", they pretty much all think you're "hot". BUT (and there's always a but! - no pun intended)...there is an ugly side to being attractive that many dont know about...
The first thing is you quickly lose your formerly "unquenched desire" for the opposite sex. This is because you catch women (and er..sometimes men - yuck) gawking at you and it makes them seem kind of stupid (in your mind at least) for looking at you like that, and then when women treated me extra-nicely by being so polite and smiling great big smiles and big eye contact and all it sometimes gets a little creepy, especially when you start to wonder what they are thinking.
Another thing is that when you meet someone u like and you hit it off well and things are going good they decide they dont want to get too serious with you. WHY? Because they have a hard time believing that you are truly not dating anyone else or that you will run off as soon as a "better" woman comes along. Sheesh! Cant win!
Last but not least, I really beleive that I have come across people out there that despised me because of my looks. You know how you get that feeling that someone doesnt like you even though you dont know the person? Thats what I felt sometimes. One time someone assumed I was a homosexual and yelled a slur word at me in public. Just because a man takes good care of his body doesnt mean he is gay, but to some it does.
After I graduated high school I took up bodybuilding and martial arts to improve my physique and there was a brief time when women actually found me attractive. I found myself getting stared at often and it felt great. Ive been told by a woman that if one woman thinks you're "hot", they pretty much all think you're "hot". BUT (and there's always a but! - no pun intended)...there is an ugly side to being attractive that many dont know about...
The first thing is you quickly lose your formerly "unquenched desire" for the opposite sex. This is because you catch women (and er..sometimes men - yuck) gawking at you and it makes them seem kind of stupid (in your mind at least) for looking at you like that, and then when women treated me extra-nicely by being so polite and smiling great big smiles and big eye contact and all it sometimes gets a little creepy, especially when you start to wonder what they are thinking.
Another thing is that when you meet someone u like and you hit it off well and things are going good they decide they dont want to get too serious with you. WHY? Because they have a hard time believing that you are truly not dating anyone else or that you will run off as soon as a "better" woman comes along. Sheesh! Cant win!
Last but not least, I really beleive that I have come across people out there that despised me because of my looks. You know how you get that feeling that someone doesnt like you even though you dont know the person? Thats what I felt sometimes. One time someone assumed I was a homosexual and yelled a slur word at me in public. Just because a man takes good care of his body doesnt mean he is gay, but to some it does.
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and i believe this truly!!!! and wow this post is soo true!!!! i don't consider myself "hot" but when approach me i always question if they truly want to get to know me or they are talking to me cause they think I'm good looking???