I mean I know better than anyone my own flaws and failings when it comes to relationships. Worldly women, well I can real them in all day. Christian women on the other hand dont quite see eye to eye with my lifestyle choices. I've tried dating them and as much as I may be in the wrong I don't like the thought of changing myself to fit someone else's ideal. I smoke, I drink, I listen to heavy metal, I curse at times. I have 'interesting' to say the least views on sexuality, not that I practice sex before marriage just that my view of sex in general differs from the average christian I have come to find. I mean I don't do illegal drugs or drink to excess, but more than likely if its past eleven pm I am having a beer. So while my lifestyle doesnt actually conflict with christianity in any way, it does tend to conflict with most christians. So while I don't plan to change, I also don't see the point of settling for a non-christian who accepts it.
The 'What Would Make You NOT Single' Thread
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I mean I know better than anyone my own flaws and failings when it comes to relationships. Worldly women, well I can real them in all day. Christian women on the other hand dont quite see eye to eye with my lifestyle choices. I've tried dating them and as much as I may be in the wrong I don't like the thought of changing myself to fit someone else's ideal. I smoke, I drink, I listen to heavy metal, I curse at times. I have 'interesting' to say the least views on sexuality, not that I practice sex before marriage just that my view of sex in general differs from the average christian I have come to find. I mean I don't do illegal drugs or drink to excess, but more than likely if its past eleven pm I am having a beer. So while my lifestyle doesnt actually conflict with christianity in any way, it does tend to conflict with most christians. So while I don't plan to change, I also don't see the point of settling for a non-christian who accepts it.
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Honestly bro, most of the people I get to know that are serious Christians are a lot more down to earth than their outward persona. There is a lot of keeping up appearances going on if they don't know you well, but most Christians I know don't have an issue with having a drink or jamming to some heavy music once you get to know them. One of my friends here calls it "churchiness". Only point here is, there are a lot of very pure and dedicated Christian women around that don't expect you to be a perfect cast member for leave it to beaver.
Also, mad respect for your honesty. Most people would not have the guts to be themselves on that level here.
Also, mad respect for your honesty. Most people would not have the guts to be themselves on that level here.
Wow, some people are easy to please!
For me, it's a MUCH longer list. Starting with being able to be not-single, but that's another story for a campfire one day.
How about a gal who loves the Lord, likes me, and is somewhere in the same hemisphere? Oh... and isn't half my age! (Gotta love living in a college town... )
For me, it's a MUCH longer list. Starting with being able to be not-single, but that's another story for a campfire one day.
How about a gal who loves the Lord, likes me, and is somewhere in the same hemisphere? Oh... and isn't half my age! (Gotta love living in a college town... )
Apart from the obvious--having similar values and beliefs (I don't imagine that there's anyone in here who would say that beliefs are irrelevant so long as they give a good foot rub, or have a good sense of humor, etc.)
So, in addition to that, he'd have to be kind, tolerant, and accepting. And a shocking number of Christians are none of these things.
While I'm not a particularly high-maintenance or difficult partner in a relationship, I have always managed to be the kinder and more ethical partner. It would be a rather novel experience to be romantically involved with a man who prioritized decency and kindness over his own self-interests.
Luckily, I'm an optimistic woman.
So, in addition to that, he'd have to be kind, tolerant, and accepting. And a shocking number of Christians are none of these things.
While I'm not a particularly high-maintenance or difficult partner in a relationship, I have always managed to be the kinder and more ethical partner. It would be a rather novel experience to be romantically involved with a man who prioritized decency and kindness over his own self-interests.
Luckily, I'm an optimistic woman.
Alright, alright.....I was trying to edit my previous post, but procrastinated a bit.
There are quite a number of things that I feel make it difficult for me to have a proper, stable, and happy relationship with any woman. Though my field of ideal partners is wide(or so I believe), I feel that I'd only bring frustration followed by disappointment. Now, I know how I'd WANT to treat my gf/wife-to-be, but I tend to be lacking in many areas that make me, in my opinion, a person who is disqualified for the position of a boyfriend/husband. I can't even think of them all. It's embarrassing.
One way to describe it, (or rather, describe me) is the self-proclaimed title of a "Emo-Tsundere"(don't know what that means? Just look up the "tsundere" part). I mean, I've had 100% shots at success that I've actually failed. One example being due to a lack of patience, another due to BEING COMPLETELY DENSE. (i.e.: a dense MC in some written materials) There's more to it than that, but it'd be rather too long for me, as I get rather tired, and I happen to troll off in other directions, losing my train of thought.
There are quite a number of things that I feel make it difficult for me to have a proper, stable, and happy relationship with any woman. Though my field of ideal partners is wide(or so I believe), I feel that I'd only bring frustration followed by disappointment. Now, I know how I'd WANT to treat my gf/wife-to-be, but I tend to be lacking in many areas that make me, in my opinion, a person who is disqualified for the position of a boyfriend/husband. I can't even think of them all. It's embarrassing.
One way to describe it, (or rather, describe me) is the self-proclaimed title of a "Emo-Tsundere"(don't know what that means? Just look up the "tsundere" part). I mean, I've had 100% shots at success that I've actually failed. One example being due to a lack of patience, another due to BEING COMPLETELY DENSE. (i.e.: a dense MC in some written materials) There's more to it than that, but it'd be rather too long for me, as I get rather tired, and I happen to troll off in other directions, losing my train of thought.
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Thanks for sharing, bro. You seem very down on yourself, and that's a real bummer. In light of whatever negative qualities you think you have and actually have, I've no doubt you have some superlative ones too.
Anyway, the openness is appreciated, and you come across - to me - as a pretty swell guy.
Anyway, the openness is appreciated, and you come across - to me - as a pretty swell guy.
I honestly don't know. I mean, I have ideas on what would end my singleness but even then, there has been some issue that has gotten in the way. I really don't know. I'm picky, but a real Christ-centered relationship is not like a job where I can decide to just up and walk away; it's not like a car where I can drive it into the ground and then buy a new one.....I want a marriage to be for the rest of my life; I want to really be with the woman I am met to be with and not just go with whatever comes along. I've seen too many divorces to just go do what I want to do; I'm certain that if God was not fully behind the wheel, I would make the biggest mistake of my life.
And because of what Jesus said about adultery/divorce, if I were to end up getting a divorce, I would not be able to remarry or even date again.
And because of what Jesus said about adultery/divorce, if I were to end up getting a divorce, I would not be able to remarry or even date again.