Things To SAY On Your First Date

1christian1 · May 9, 2020

This is odd to me. You obviously want the other person to like you, but why not just be yourself? Be sincere in who you are. Of course you want to look dapper, or in the case of a woman beautiful, but this is something I myself had to realize by revelation of the Lord. There is no fear in love. You have to be you, and it’s okay to have opinions, it’s okay to be your authentic self and that other person by God’s providence will love you for you.

Putting your best foot forward shouldn’t be putting on a show or a mask; as if this is the wooing phase and you want them to like you, so you act courteous. You act respectful. You act mannerly. You act lady-like. You put on a facade and then once the knot is tied, you be your regular self and people are disappointed because the expectation they have of you is the “best foot forward” guy or gal you presented yourself as.

If putting your best foot forward was just putting yourself out there, think how such transparency would affect people. Flattery is not righteous, compliments are by the way ( for those saying they wouldn’t mind some flattery). Flattery is with a means in mind, the examples (of flattery) in God’s word do not seem to look positively on its use. A compliment, on the other hand, is sincere.
Yet even better than a compliment is encouragement.

I don’t know, I read your posts and this stuck out to me. Your best foot forward should be yourself. I get “dressing up” as it fits the occasion. But casual you or dressy you, is still you. Your character stays the same. Don’t play the part of gentleman if you do not walk daily as a gentleman. Consideration is a daily practice, a selfless inquiry to the needs and desires of another; not peacocking to attract a mate.

Be you.

I get that " take it or leave it" attitude. But I've always been attracted to women that brought out the beast in me. Being around them made me want to be a better person. And hopefully, I for them. Is'nt that the type of person that you want be with?...

BenFTW · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

It’s not a take it or leave it attitude. It’s about authenticity. It’s not like “This is who I am!” For this perspective is stagnant, and inconsiderate. Dare I say, wounded.

And of course, when you find the person you love they do bring out the best in you because they have called you to love. The Bible defines love and in response to love, you wish to walk it out. Love gives and does not take. Love does no wrong, right? So most definitely love calls us to a higher standard. It brings out the best in us, because we love that person and love is done in thought, word, and deed.

1christian1 · May 9, 2020

ArtsieSteph said:

Yup...Lol.

Susanna · May 9, 2020

BenFTW said:

This is odd to me. You obviously want the other person to like you, but why not just be yourself? Be sincere in who you are. Of course you want to look dapper, or in the case of a woman beautiful, but this is something I myself had to realize by revelation of the Lord. There is no fear in love. You have to be you, and it’s okay to have opinions, it’s okay to be your authentic self and that other person by God’s providence will love you for you.

Putting your best foot forward shouldn’t be putting on a show or a mask; as if this is the wooing phase and you want them to like you, so you act courteous. You act respectful. You act mannerly. You act lady-like. You put on a facade and then once the knot is tied, you be your regular self and people are disappointed because the expectation they have of you is the “best foot forward” guy or gal you presented yourself as.

If putting your best foot forward was just putting yourself out there, think how such transparency would affect people. Flattery is not righteous, compliments are by the way ( for those saying they wouldn’t mind some flattery). Flattery is with a means in mind, the examples (of flattery) in God’s word do not seem to look positively on its use. A compliment, on the other hand, is sincere.
Yet even better than a compliment is encouragement.

I don’t know, I read your posts and this stuck out to me. Your best foot forward should be yourself. I get “dressing up” as it fits the occasion. But casual you or dressy you, is still you. Your character stays the same. Don’t play the part of gentleman if you do not walk daily as a gentleman. Consideration is a daily practice, a selfless inquiry to the needs and desires of another; not peacocking to attract a mate.

Be you.

BenFTW, this is a lighthearted thread. Girls just wanna have fun and all that😂😎😁🤦‍♀️.

1christian1 · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

* Best not beast...

BenFTW · May 9, 2020

Susanna said:

😄 I know, but some people were offering their real criticisms and opinions on dating, and things they’d like to hear or see. Just adding a balance to the conversation.

EleventhHour · May 9, 2020

BenFTW said:

This is odd to me. You obviously want the other person to like you, but why not just be yourself? Be sincere in who you are. Of course you want to look dapper, or in the case of a woman beautiful, but this is something I myself had to realize by revelation of the Lord. There is no fear in love. You have to be you, and it’s okay to have opinions, it’s okay to be your authentic self and that other person by God’s providence will love you for you.

Putting your best foot forward shouldn’t be putting on a show or a mask; as if this is the wooing phase and you want them to like you, so you act courteous. You act respectful. You act mannerly. You act lady-like. You put on a facade and then once the knot is tied, you be your regular self and people are disappointed because the expectation they have of you is the “best foot forward” guy or gal you presented yourself as.

If putting your best foot forward was just putting yourself out there, think how such transparency would affect people. Flattery is not righteous, compliments are by the way ( for those saying they wouldn’t mind some flattery). Flattery is with a means in mind, the examples (of flattery) in God’s word do not seem to look positively on its use. A compliment, on the other hand, is sincere.
Yet even better than a compliment is encouragement.

I don’t know, I read your posts and this stuck out to me. Your best foot forward should be yourself. I get “dressing up” as it fits the occasion. But casual you or dressy you, is still you. Your character stays the same. Don’t play the part of gentleman if you do not walk daily as a gentleman. Consideration is a daily practice, a selfless inquiry to the needs and desires of another; not peacocking to attract a mate.

Be you.

I really like this.... good advice.

BenFTW · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

I also completely understand what you’re saying here. You desire to be presentable and the opinion of the person you care for matters. You esteem their opinion. You want God to sanctify you so that you walk in love.

I have a song where the lyric says, “Make me a saint, I want no complaint. Prepare Ye the way, make me righteous this day.”

I want God to prepare me for my wife to be, and He is.

laughingheart · May 9, 2020

BenFTW said:

This is odd to me. You obviously want the other person to like you, but why not just be yourself? Be sincere in who you are. Of course you want to look dapper, or in the case of a woman beautiful, but this is something I myself had to realize by revelation of the Lord. There is no fear in love. You have to be you, and it’s okay to have opinions, it’s okay to be your authentic self and that other person by God’s providence will love you for you.

Putting your best foot forward shouldn’t be putting on a show or a mask; as if this is the wooing phase and you want them to like you, so you act courteous. You act respectful. You act mannerly. You act lady-like. You put on a facade and then once the knot is tied, you be your regular self and people are disappointed because the expectation they have of you is the “best foot forward” guy or gal you presented yourself as.

If putting your best foot forward was just putting yourself out there, think how such transparency would affect people. Flattery is not righteous, compliments are by the way ( for those saying they wouldn’t mind some flattery). Flattery is with a means in mind, the examples (of flattery) in God’s word do not seem to look positively on its use. A compliment, on the other hand, is sincere.
Yet even better than a compliment is encouragement.

I don’t know, I read your posts and this stuck out to me. Your best foot forward should be yourself. I get “dressing up” as it fits the occasion. But casual you or dressy you, is still you. Your character stays the same. Don’t play the part of gentleman if you do not walk daily as a gentleman. Consideration is a daily practice, a selfless inquiry to the needs and desires of another; not peacocking to attract a mate.

Be you.

Yes. That is what I meant. Show people who you are. Putting on a mask is not showing what you have to offer. It is pretending to offer what you don't have. My thoughts were that too many people start with telling the other person about all their wounds and grievances. That is not what makes you special. Let people see who you are. That is the best foot forward idea.

1christian1 · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

You know, There are many song's that I can relate to in life. But this one song by "Extreme" " More Than Words" sums up pretty much how I feel about relationships. ( I'm sure most of you are familiar with this song ). If you get a chance.,Take a listen...

laughingheart · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

OK that made me tear up.

Susanna · May 9, 2020

laughingheart said:

Yeah, problem is that many people seem to believe that being true is about only telling your date what a sorry person you are.

News flash😂: you’re a whole lotta more than a rainy side. In fact, even a Debbie downer throwing a tantrum has more to it than just a bucket of sorrows😁.

tourist · May 9, 2020

Mel85 said:

Being shy may not be that much of a problem because 'body language' plays a part in the communication process.

tourist · May 9, 2020

zeroturbulence said:

Actually, that's pretty good.

tourist · May 9, 2020

Lynx said:

Wait, this seems self-contradictory... Or at least like a missed opportunity. If you're never going on a second date with this dude, why not hand the check to him? Who cares what he thinks? He's history! Might as well get a free meal out of it. That's your payment for listening to his rant all night.

I agree and he can pick up the tip too.

Gregoryp · May 9, 2020

what is your philosophy on life? You're beliefs, spiritual and personal, your vision whilst your on the earth ? Get the answer to that, then you can see if she will fit in to your journey. Live, love, laugh. But what is her definition of live, love and laugh?

tourist · May 9, 2020

1christian1 said:

I'm old school too and that means that the guy always pays. Also, you should put your focus on her and not yourself. I would not put much emphasis either on any failed relationships you may have had in the past as it might give the impression that you're 'damaged goods'.

tourist · May 9, 2020

Gregoryp said:

This is a good area to explore but it will probably take quite a few dates to get a handle on her philopsophy. Also, be prepared to present your own philosophy on life as well.

1christian1 · May 9, 2020

laughingheart said:

Right? I remember how it felt to love every time I here that song and it just so happens that it was playing at the time I was reading your post. Funny huh....

Susanna · May 9, 2020

JustEli said:

A silver tongue doesn’t fail😁.

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